AIBU to continue having children? Despite knowing they all would have a life limiting condition.

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I have named changed as i am probably going to get flamed for this.

I am a member of a Facebook group, i have just seen a post & a child of a member of this group has recently died.

It was noted on the message that this is their 3rd child, who has died from the same genetic life limiting condition.

They knowlingly went ahead with the following 2 pregnancies, knowing the children would be severely disabled with little quality of life.

AIBU to think that they have been selfish for a number of reasons, to continue having children knowing that each child would be born with this life limiting condition?

Define 'hardships'.

Define 'hardships

Premature painful death ?

When I was a student nurse I spent time with the Retinoblastoma Nurses (eye cancer) in a Paediatric Unit and I found some aspects of it incredibly upsetting. One set of parents had 6 children and 4 of them had the condition. Three of those four had already had one of their eyes removed and they were in because their youngest child (the 4th afflicted) who was only about 2ish was about to have one of his eyes removed too.

The parents had received generic counselling numerous times about the condition but they were quite blasé about it and said the kids were fine with only having one functioning eye and it was just the 'norm' in their family, they were used to it and then she said "We just get on with it." with a gentle laugh.

I found it very hard not to be judgemental on the inside.