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AIBU?

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to think there is nothing wrong with this!

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FedUpAndTiredOfTheWorld · 20/03/2017 18:50

So my friend had a voucher for half price for a high st shop and was planning on buying a item for £30 I was going to buy one for £60. I said to her give me the voucher and I'll give you the money saved back cause might as well make the store pay more. So I gave her £15 she says I should have given her £30 since the voucher was for half the price and that was what I saved. Aibu to have given her £15.

OP posts:

GwenStaceyRocks · 21/03/2017 12:02

You benefited from the voucher but your friend didn't benefit from letting you use her voucher. It also sounds as though your friend didn't offer the voucher, you asked for it which would imply she was reluctant in the first place and now feels cheated because you have saved £15 thanks to her but didn't acknowledge that in any way.
You didn't explain your plan clearly. By saying the shop would pay more, your friend thought it was about increasing her discount. You should really have said, 'it's so I can benefit from your discount voucher'.

sparklefarts · 21/03/2017 12:04

She sounds like a shit friend. When my best friend has vouchers like this, she would always check with me, to see if there was something i was thinking of buying, so that we could do something like this and both save. it would never cross her mind to be looking to save even more, she would just like to share the benefit with me. (and i'd do the same)

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 21/03/2017 12:07

She benefited more than you, she would have paid £15 if you were there or not getting it fully half price. You didn't get it half price you paid £45. She should see it as helping a friend out at no cost. She's being bloody cheeky asking for the item for free!

Buttercupsandaisies · 21/03/2017 12:08

Totally agree sparkle

What type of friend would want to benefit in these circumstances? I can't believe people think she should have paid more - this is her friend!! What a cheapskate!

theworriedone · 21/03/2017 12:17

My brain hurts.......

Anyway, I agree with the OP, you have both benefitted from the voucher and your friend has still got the same discount that she would have got if she'd used it herself. I really don't understand her point?

talksensetome · 21/03/2017 12:20

The way I read it is that both people paid separately.

So Friend bought her £30 item for £30 but was refunded by OP £15 for use of the voucher. So Friend got £30 item for £15.
Had Friend used the voucher herself she still would have gotten the item for £15 so she is no better or worse off.

OP used the voucher for her purchase so got the £60 item for £30 but then gave the friend £15 so really her £60 item cost £45.

I think that is the only way to do it really otherwise what would be the point in OP using the voucher if she was going to give friend the whole £30 saving, she may as well have just bought the item full price?
This way both friends have benefitted, one by 50% and one by 25% instead of just the voucher owner.

AddictedtoSnickers · 21/03/2017 12:38

OP - you need to clarify your post. Did you buy your friend's item for half price too? Or did she (by handing over her voucher to you) pay full price? In either case, her expecting £30 is mad.
If A - both items were bought at 50 % off then I think a fair outcome would be you give your friend some lovely flowers or a bottle of wine to thank her for allowing you to jump in on her voucher. She still got her item at half price so by giving her back £15 she is getting her thing for free!
If B - she gave you her voucher and had to buy her thing for £30, then you need to give her the £15 she lost out on and a gift to thank her for the saving you made by taking her voucher.

PuppyMonkey · 21/03/2017 12:49

See I've totally misunderstood the OP - I thought she was saying friend was planning to spend £30 on an item but OP then said no I want that item give me your voucher and I'll give you the cash .

Buttercupsandaisies · 21/03/2017 14:37

See I don't see why the op can't benefit 50% off too - they're friends - why on earth would you want to benefit more just because you have the voucher? 50% off is the Mac any of them could have got singularly so why expect more?

I can't believe so many are suggesting buy her coffee or flowers etc? Sharing vouchers is really no big deal! Surely friends do this all the time!

arethereanyleftatall · 21/03/2017 15:15

I'll add a new one to the mix.
You should have given her £22.50.
Thereby exactly splitting the extra £15 that was saved.
Your friend could have been nicer by letting you have all the extra £15 savings (no loss to her),
You could have been nicer by letting her have all the extra £15 savings (no loss to you),
Or you could have split the difference to both benefit.
Yabu because you just assumed point 1.

astormgivenflesh · 21/03/2017 15:35

Why would she give £22.50 though?! That means friend paid £7.50 for a £30 item she was going to spend £15 on?!

I really don't get why flowers, wine etc are needed here - both benefitted, friend did a nice thing and still got same outcome if she had just kept and used voucher for herself only this way OP also saved £15 off a bigger purchase - I wouldn't hesitate to give a voucher like this and def wouldn't expect to be better off at the end

arethereanyleftatall · 21/03/2017 15:56

Astorm - because £22.50 is the fairest.

If op had gone shopping on her own, she would have paid £60 for her item.

If friend had gone shopping on her own she would have paid £15 for her item.

By going together, there was an opportunity to save a further £15, using ops item and friends voucher. They needed each other for the extra £15. So, fairest way, £7.50 each.

astormgivenflesh · 21/03/2017 16:26

The friend was going to spend £15, she spent £15 and still saved £15.

By giving her friend the voucher, friend ALSO saved £15.

It's fair, it's decent. Friend still got full 'use' of voucher by getting her item half price. Why does she need to MAKE money on top of that?

Screwinthetuna · 21/03/2017 16:32

YANBU, your friend is.

arethereanyleftatall · 21/03/2017 16:34

She doesn't need to. But since she's just saved the op £15, a gesture from the op to the friend would be the nice thing to do.

FreedomMummy · 21/03/2017 16:39

They both saved £15.
If I was the person with the voucher and I could help a friend benefit from it too without it effecting how much I paid (which it didn't in the OP's situation) I would happily do it without any expectation of 'commission' etc.
YANBU OP but it is possible your friend thought she was going to benefit from your suggestion and misunderstood the end result.

liz70 · 21/03/2017 16:41

The OP effectively got her chosen item for 75% of the original price. Fair enough, since the half price voucher wasn't hers to begin with.
Her friend got her chosen item for 50% of the original price, which is what would have happened if she'd used the voucher herself.

I think that's perfectly fair. The OP INBU.

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