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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to think there is nothing wrong with this!

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FedUpAndTiredOfTheWorld · 20/03/2017 18:50

So my friend had a voucher for half price for a high st shop and was planning on buying a item for £30 I was going to buy one for £60. I said to her give me the voucher and I'll give you the money saved back cause might as well make the store pay more. So I gave her £15 she says I should have given her £30 since the voucher was for half the price and that was what I saved. Aibu to have given her £15.

OP posts:

Buttercupsandaisies · 20/03/2017 19:45

Why is it cheeky to ask to use a voucher? The friend was using it anyway - single use - and would only have saved £15?! To expect extra for helping s friend also get half price is awful! I can't believe people that cheap exist

What type of friend would ask for commission and why is it cheeky to ask? It's only a discount voucher!

Chloe84 · 20/03/2017 19:53

Who on earth charges a friend for use of a voucher?

She is BU. Did she pay you the remaining £15 for her jumper?

SuperTrumper · 20/03/2017 19:54

I think it's important to clarify whether the friend actually gave any money to OP though, or did she just give the voucher??? If she didn't give any money, then she's got a £30 item for free along with £15 from the OP!! That's better off than had she just used the voucher herself, where she would have paid £15 for a £30 item I.e she wouldn't have got the item for free like she has thanks to the OP!!!

ThreeLeggedHaggis · 20/03/2017 19:57

as it is you got all the benefit from her giving you the voucher.

They both got exactly the same benefit - a half price item.

MadamePomfrey · 20/03/2017 19:59

I thought it was 2 separate transactions the op spent £60 with the voucher making in £30. And the person who's voucher it was spent £30 but was given £15 back by the op so actually spent £15??

topcat2014 · 20/03/2017 20:01

I can see her point.

She had the voucher, and you didn't.

If you gave her £15, then she paid £15 pounds for her item - she was no better off than originally.

You, on the other hand, who didn't have the voucher, saved £30, that you wouldn't have originally saved.

So you benefited by using her voucher, and she gained nothing.

ILikeBeansWithKetchup · 20/03/2017 20:02

This is like being in the most confusing GCSE maths lesson ever. We need Rachel Riley.

WinnieTheW0rm · 20/03/2017 20:03

The voucher belonged to the friend, and was worth £15 to her.

There are two ways of looking at this

a) the £30 saving is split, so you each get £15.

b) you friend, as voucher owner, gets the £15 that was the situation originally, then you split the additional £15, so £7.50 each.

She clearly prefers b, it was her voucher, and if you value the friendship more than £7.50, then do consider dong it that way

CookieLady · 20/03/2017 20:03

Grabby friend she is. Although you're not brilliant for not passing some of your savings on to her in the form of a drink/cake/etc.

MrsTeller · 20/03/2017 20:05

They both got 50% off rather than one person getting 50% off, what's wrong with that? If you give her £30, she's got her item for free and you've saved nothing.

Why would the friend expect to get more than 50% off her £30 item?

Unless she was inconvenience? In which case I'd maybe have taken her for a coffee.

Derlei · 20/03/2017 20:08

But the OP hasn't saved!! She says in her OP that she told her friend to give her the voucher implying that she'll get both the products. These come to £90, the OP paid £45, she then paid £15 to the friend, so the OP has still paid £60 for a £60 item!

HoneyDragon · 20/03/2017 20:08

She's not a mate if she didn't offer to share the benefit in the first place.

Chloe84 · 20/03/2017 20:08

topcat

If you gave her £15, then she paid £15 pounds for her item - she was no better off than originally.

Erm, no. The friend got a £30 item for £15. She benefitted too. Just because OP's item was more expensive doesn't mean friend deserves to get her item for free. Friend is greedy.

Crispbutty · 20/03/2017 20:11

If she had taken the voucher she would have paid £15

If you had the voucher and paid her £15 then she still got her item half price.

You then use the voucher and get your item half price.

She is being a bit cheeky to ask you to pay her more.

You are correct.

irregularegular · 20/03/2017 20:14

Well you both have a case really. She could have saved £15 on her own purchase anyway, so if you only gave her £15 then you were keeping all the extra benefit of you making the £60 purchase instead and not benefiting her. On the other hand, if you gave her £30 then she was getting all the benefit and you weren't getting any (but then it was her voucher). Anything inbetween £15 and £30 would be reasonable. If I were you I would probably have offered at least £20, if not £30, but if I'd been your friend I would have said £15 was fine..

MadamePomfrey · 20/03/2017 20:14

The op saved £15 .

She got her items for £30 (half priced) saving £30
she then gave her mate the £15 she would have saved if she used the voucher
op now got the top say for £45 instead of £60
the mate got her top for £15 instead of £30
they have both saved £15 by the end of it.

Boiing · 20/03/2017 20:15

Yabu. She gave you a voucher worth £30 because she thought you were going to give her £30 cash, basically she thought you were doing her a favour helping her use up a voucher. It's not up to you to then decide how to split the saving, or talk about what a fair share would be - it was her voucher, she's legally entitled to all of the money for it unless she agreed to accept less, which obviously she hasn't. If I was her I would feel that you'd deliberately misled me, pretending to do a favour then expecting to make money out of it. If you'd originally said 'hey can I buy your voucher off you for £15?' that would have been fine, and it would have been up to her to say yes or no. But you didn't say that did you? So your error.

KindDogsTail · 20/03/2017 20:20

If she had not given you her voucher, but just bought her own £30 item with it for the half price discount, she'd have got that for £15 - making a saving of £15.

By giving you her voucher, you got your £60 item for £30. So, you ended up with twice as much advantage, thanks to her letting you use her voucher.

Between you both you saved £45 at the shop. Of that you got by far the lion's share at over 60%.

Why not split the extra £15 you ended up with between you.-
you so you get £7.50 more each?

Then you would have benefitted by £22.50 each.

It was her voucher. In my opinion you are being unreasonable.

If you gave her all of the £30 though, you might as well not have used the voucher for your £60 item, so it depends how much of a friend she was as to whether she should expect that whole £30 you saved back from you.

HoneyDragon · 20/03/2017 20:20

Boing it was a 50% off purchase voucher.

KungFuEric · 20/03/2017 20:26

I think it was cheeky of you to ask for the voucher, she could well have gone to the store and Fancied £50/60/100 worth of items that seemed good value at half price.

Dencar · 20/03/2017 20:26

MadamePomfrey
The OP saved £15
The friend saved £15

She got her items for £30 (half priced) saving £30
she then gave her mate the £15 she would have saved if she used the voucher
op now got the top say for £45 instead of £60
the mate got her top for £15 instead of £30
they have both saved £15 by the end of it.

^^^^^^^^^^^
THIS

ArchNotImpudent · 20/03/2017 20:30

If the voucher was 50% off the whole of your shop, OP and her friend missed a trick by not combining the purchase to save £45.

If the voucher was 50% off any one item, they wisely used it on the more expensive item, saving a total of £30.

If the OP passed on the whole £30, there is nothing in it for her - but her friend gets the item for free. If she gives £15, the friend makes the same saving she'd have been able to make alone.

A less contentious solution might have been to spend the £30 on something together - go for lunch after the shopping trip or similar.

KindDogsTail · 20/03/2017 20:35

Sorry I was confused. The voucher could only be used once.

You were getting the most expensive item at £60, so only had to spend £30. if you just gave her £15 of that so she got the equivalent of half off her item, that is fair in a way.

But it had been her voucher, so if you were already going to buy that £60 item anyway perhaps it would have been nice to give her more of the £30 you saved.

QuarterMileAtATime · 20/03/2017 20:37

If she'd just used the voucher herself, she would have saved £15. This way, she still saved £15 and also saved her friend £15. This would give a good friend a warm fuzzy feeling, and a less good friend a feeling of resentment. I guess she is the latter.

HashiAsLarry · 20/03/2017 20:38

Your OP isn't clear.

If you both were buying a £30 item together, totalling £60 and used the voucher then YANBU to give her £15.
If you bought a £60 item alone with her voucher saying you'd give her the savings back, then I can understand why she thought you were going to give her £30.

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