To be a bit scared - strange man

[ohdoadoodoo]

I come home every lunch to walk my dog, and a few days ago, I noticed a man sitting in his car in my apartment block's car park. I saw him looking at me quite thoroughly, but he stayed in his car.

I went inside to get my dog, and as I was walking out through my apartment building's main doors (which are locked unless you have a key), he was conveniently standing there, and asked me if I knew where "Jessie" lived. I said no, sorry, and walked away.

About half an hour ago someone buzzes my apartment, I say "Hello?" and the man on the other end says "Jessie?". I say no, sorry, you have the wrong apartment.

Ten minutes after that, I get a knock on my door, I look through the spy hole and it's the same man.

All my lights are on so he must know that I'm home, but I didn't answer because TBH I'm home alone and don't want to answer my door to strange men.

It could be nothing but AIBU to be a bit creeped out by this? From where the man was parked, he could clearly see me go into my apartment as the building is made of glass.

Did he seem calm OP or a bit stressed out?

Could you put up a video camera outside your door? Even a fake one may help, but a real one would be better - for more evidence if he was to come back.. He just sounds creepy. Did you ask him who the hell he was and why he kept buzzing?

I'm glad you called the police OP, and that you have your sister there with you. I hope the police are with you now.

I'm glad you called the police.

If you feel threatened by someone or frightened to this extent then I do think the police should be contacted. If they think the op/caller is being OTT then they'll tell them and no harm done.

I sure as hell would have called after all this.

Looks like he has buggered off. Hopefully for good. Dog needed to go for a wee so we both went and also had a good look around. Couldn't see him or the car I saw him in originally.

Police still haven't been - not sure if they will come and see me or just drive by the area? Really need to sleep as exhausted!

Some - I first spoke to him on Tuesday or Wednesday. Then tonight the calls and knocks started again.

Boyfriend is going to stay with me all next week. Luckily we work at the same place and he can do the same shift as me, so I won't have to be alone at any point! Dog does occasionally growl/bark at things that he's wary of, but TBH he's more likely to roll over for a scratch than "protect" me!

You have all really helped tonight, so thank you!

You're not being unreasonable at all. This happened a few days ago and now he's inside looking for 'Jessie'

Police did a drive around and came to see me as well if that helps

I'm pleased your boyfriend will stay over for a few days. Hopefully it was just a one off anyway, but better off safe.

Police now!

Did you get the car registration op?

Glad he's gone now

Awww that's good, hope he does not come again, what a scarey man.

I would think if he was trying something on, then he wouldn't have repeated the same question. He'd have tried asking something else to try and open the door.
It's unlikely someone having said "no Jessie is not here" at one point will suddenly say "actually no Jessie, but do come in and talk about it."

I'd put bets that something along the lines of he latched onto a girl called Jessie in a night out and she gave your address to get rid of him.

I've had a couple of these weird occurrences OP. I think they're more common if you live in a built up area. I got stuff through my door from a bloke who was convinced I was a witch Very unsettling though. Good that you have company, for your own peace of mind if nothing else. And yy to logging it with 101.

Glad he's gone.
Agree with getting number plate if you can.

Is he an older chap, ie is there any chance he has dementia or similar? Hope you get sorted.

Very odd. Hope that's the end of it and you got some sleep.

Oh dear. That turned out a bit odd.

Not that anything about this situation is good, but it's better security when you live in a block of flats rather than having him able to just stroll up to your front door.

My guess is he's been given your address and told that the person living there is the one he's looking for. You denying that is not going to make a blind bit of difference because he will have assumed you would lie. I really doubt it is anything sinister but I can understand why it's frightened you.

This is strange! I hope he's found who he's looking for

Dies sound a bit scary to me! Did you take a photo or get the car number plate?

Sch- no he wasn't old. I would understand more if he was, but he looks about 30.

The police called me back at around 10pm just to check that I was OK and said to call 999 immediately if he turns back up (I called the non-emergency number first).

Stupidly I didn't get his full reg. I made a mental note of it when I first saw him as I thought he looked suspicious, but told myself I was being paranoid and put it out of my mind. Although I do know what make, model and year his car is so and would be able to recognise him, so at least that's something.

I feel a lot less shaken today but was quite worried last night!

I can't really work out what he wants or who he thinks I am. He obviously doesn't even know who this Jessie is, because the first time he approached me he said "Are you Jessie?", and when I said no, he asked me if I knew where Jessie lived. So it seems a bit strange if he'd hooked up with someone, was so infatuated with her that he repeatedly comes looking for her, yet doesn't even know what she looks like?

I feel sorry for the poor girl, if she exists.

Perhaps he's looking for a long, lost family member??

Glad you called the police, even if it was very helpful last night it does mean that if he comes back you know what to do and they will already have heard from you.

Hopefully he'll not be back and you'll just be left with a nagging annoyance that you never found out what it was!