To be a bit scared - strange man

[ohdoadoodoo]

I come home every lunch to walk my dog, and a few days ago, I noticed a man sitting in his car in my apartment block's car park. I saw him looking at me quite thoroughly, but he stayed in his car.

I went inside to get my dog, and as I was walking out through my apartment building's main doors (which are locked unless you have a key), he was conveniently standing there, and asked me if I knew where "Jessie" lived. I said no, sorry, and walked away.

About half an hour ago someone buzzes my apartment, I say "Hello?" and the man on the other end says "Jessie?". I say no, sorry, you have the wrong apartment.

Ten minutes after that, I get a knock on my door, I look through the spy hole and it's the same man.

All my lights are on so he must know that I'm home, but I didn't answer because TBH I'm home alone and don't want to answer my door to strange men.

It could be nothing but AIBU to be a bit creeped out by this? From where the man was parked, he could clearly see me go into my apartment as the building is made of glass.

Yy is there anyone who could come over in the meantime, preferably someone massive and menacing?

Well I'm glad you called the police OP. Hope they appear soon if he's still hanging about.

Of course you should have called the police OP I can't believe posters are saying you shouldn't! Can you get someone to sit with you?

Agree with debt collection. I had a dodgy neighbour who had taken out countless loans and done a runner. I always had people knocking at my door asking for him. Once a man in a suit knocked and asked if I knew who lived opposite (where neighbour had lived) as there had been a report of a child in danger. No children had ever lived in the flat they were trying by to find out if he still lived there by stooping low.

Thank you everyone. The virtual hand holds are really helping. I feel really shaken up!

My sister has come over so at least there's two of us now.

Hopefully the police will be there soon! A 4th time is crazy. Poor you OP.

So did your sister encounter the man/see him at all on her way in to yours?

When your sister came over, was she approached? Did she see him? is she Jessie?

Is he leaving in between knocking/buzzing or going off & coming back?

Just wondering if the police are likely to see him there to have a word with him or not

Sorry that should say is he leaving or is he just hanging around outside

Write down as much as you can about him now so you don't forget.

Fucking hell OP. My anxiety is going through the roof just thinking about this. I'm glad the police are taking you seriously. Does your block not have a concierge? ( I'm assuming not which is mostly the norm!) I'm glad your sister is there, you will be fine, and hopefully the police will review the cctv and find the weirdo. Sending

I called the police for someone aggressively knocking my door and shouting through my letter box at night around 10pm. The Police were in my area and drove around a couple of streets to see if they could see him, then phoned me after to let me know they couldn't see him. So glad I was able to be reassured by them. Good on them. Never heard anything from the guy again, thank goodness.

It seems like he is "leaving" between knocks/buzzes. There was about ten minutes between the first knock and buzz and then buzzed again about twenty minutes after that.

I have asked my other apartment neighbours if someone has buzzed them asking for someone called Jessie and they said no. Surely if he was looking for someone he would have knocked on everyones' door? I haven't had anything from him since I told him that I was on the phone to the police. Fingers crossed he never comes back/they find out who it is.

Let's hope he doesn't return later or another day. I'm pleased you have someone with you.

He wears plain clothes, hangs about and rings only your door asking for someone who isn't there and keeps doing it? If that's a 'debt collector' like what's being suggested then he must have memory loss too

Incredibly weird. I would be completely shook up.

I think you really do have to trust your instincts in these situations. Not quite the same thing but one night when I got the train home from work 2 guys got on (busy commuter train) and I just had a weird feeling about them. They didn't do anything, I just had a sixth sense somehow that I needed to be careful. When I got off the train I very carefully (and out of sight) transferred my phone from my bag to my pocket. Less than 10 mins later while I was walking home along a busy main road at 6pm they walked up behind me and mugged me. As they ran off thankfully my instinct had meant I could immediately call the police as I still had my mobile - which I wouldn't have had if I hadn't of had that weird feeling something was going to happen.

Has he gone now?

Glad you called for advice/help that is something that would freak me out too. Hopefully it'll be the last you see of him

When did this start? In your OP it says a "few days ago" but then continues as if it's all happened today. Have I missed something?

If you see him again take a photo of him on your camera phone, blatantly, right up in his face. I had an odd bloke poking round the garden once and took a photo right in his face. He asked me why I was taking his photo and I said because if you do anything then I will be able to tell the police who to look for.

Either he's a private detective of some kind or...

There was a spate round here a while back of someone knocking on doors and asking for someone who didn't live there. However, if nobody answered, they robbed the place.

In either case, I don't think you'd be unreasonable to ring 101 about it.

I may be being a bit ridiculous. Could you get a malefriend to send you an audio if them saying to piss off? Which you could play through your intercom if he buzzes again. Do you have a video intercom? Take a picture and send it to the police if poss?
Be careful, now and in the future.

God that is creepy. Hope he doesn't come back. :(