Why is he incapable of having one drink after work?

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Long story short, I'm pregnant and tired and suffering from a cold, I know woe is me DS also has said cold and is feeling the effects badly today.

DH been lining up his drink after work (he works in a city a 40 min train ride away) by texting at 3 saying he's really stressed. Called at 5.15 while DS was mid meltdown, winged at how hard his day was and asked if he could go for a drink. I said yep fine will you be back for tea which he said yes to.

It's now 4 hours later. And I've battled a poorly DS to bed in an epic hour long fight. He can't even be bothered to text or try and rush home.

Is he the only person who can't just have one drink and come home?????

Nope. My DP used to do this and it drove me fucking nuts. I don't think they ever intend to just have one either.

no he's not. my dp is the same. always ends up in a state and kicking off so i totally sympathise.

you're pregnant ill and tired. have an early night and speak to him tomorrow. he will be in no fit state tonite.

my dp and his friend actually text each other should we go for 1 (5). like it's a joke.

To be fair I'm like this with after work drinks. Also central London, and actually if you go for one drink/30 mins you feel almost rude. It's better not to go at all than to go for one and then leave. Poor timing all round, but I've def been there and been on the receiving end of a pissed off OH

No one goes out for one drink.

I can't have one either. Either come straight home or stay till closing.

I know it's never gonna be one drink but now he won't be back before 10.30. It gets on my nerves as well because it's my Friday night I spend waiting in for him and I never have that option to be late home because I always pick DS up from childcare as I work part time.

Does he do this often? It would annoy me no end.

One drink often leads to another in a social setting, causing decreased coherence and a warm fuzzy feeling. As pp said it's often better not going for after work drinks at all.. esp with a pg oh

I don't think it's unreasonable occasionally to stay out after work but you need to occasionally be able to do it too.

wolfie not as much as he used to as we have moved out a bit further from his work. But he still meets friends a at least once a week or will have a weekend day of drinking so I don't think I'm BU when I get irritated!

Do you get the same time off? Do you have a good balance of family time? If not then I would be pissed off!

Go to bed and lock him out

Make sure you have a night out tomorrow then!

He's not the only one - I'm the same. That's why I rarely go for after work drinks these days - it means writing the next day off with a hangover .

wolfie no not really. He works away a lot or does long hours so it's not often an option. I do get the odd weekend night with mummy friends but it's probably once a night.

That's pretty disrespectful of him. I'd be mad as hell especially if it happens a lot.

arch that's exactly it, he will be mildly hungover tomorrow now which adds to the annoyance.

I've put myself to bed with the iPad and shit the bedroom door. Hopefully he'll get the hint and piss off go to the spare room.

Come now, don't go shitting any doors-you'll only have to clear it all up

I would've locked him out!

Hope you and your DS feel better soon.

Haha that's a good typo. And the highlight of my evening!

So point out it is unfair and book a night away or evening out.
Wake him up bright and early tomorrow am. Have an early hair appointment!

I do this. no one goes for one drink! Locking out is a massive over reaction, i would think you quite mental if you did it to me (and just bang until you let me in- where on earth would you expect me to go?!)

Yep. Agree with others. Up bright and early and head out for the morning leaving him with the toddler.

Then sit him down and tell him to stop being a massive arsehole.

No I wouldn't lock him out but we have a perfectly good spare bed he can go to while i starfish in our bed!!