My birthday, no card from DH.

[Flossiesmummy]

A bit likely to out me, but I don't care.
It's my birthday and my DH just told me he'll get me a card "later" as he's been too busy.

AIBU to be upset over this? I feel like he just couldn't be arsed.

Happy Birthday

Most years we put effort into each others birthdays but I have forgotten my husbands before, for some reason that year I was convinced it was two days later. He has also forgotten mine once, despite by that stage it coming up on Google calendar and FB reminders. He had remembered until the day before when his brain wiped the info out. He realized when he looked at fb that day to see lots of messages from friends and family laughing at him and a photo of me with cake at work.

It was fine because in both cases it was a genuine mistake and we both attempted to make up for it once we realised. I would find it very dismissive to be told that a card for me would be picked up later. Why not tea, toast, apology, suggestion of wine and cake later.

OP from another of your posts on page one, this isn't just about the card is it? It's the tip of the iceberg of him being selfish and thoughtless and not giving a shit about you.

Maybe have a good think today about what you're prepared to do for this relationship in general, and give yourself the best birthday present of all - a brand new pair of cojones to tell the twat to shape up or ship out!

If you lived in lreland it would be a great day to have a birthday as its a day off for everyone every year. St Patricks Day.
You need to kick up a bit of a fuss saying l want nice things on my birthday and lm not happy to have it ignored. Im not into big splashes but by golly l would not accept a half hearted effort.

That is utter bollocks OP. My DH has a crazy busy job/travels the world with lots of stress. He has already booked my May birthday off work and planned a lovely surprise- he always does. Your DH has just not placed enough importance on you.
Happy birthday, you share it with my lovely Granny. Sadly she is dead now, but I think of her a lot.

Update: DH just showed at my work with a card and a piece of cake and an apology. He said that he was being a bumhead and that he should have gone before.

Where's the rest of the cake?

It's a start, mind

Enjoy the cake

Oh wow this happened to me and I didn't get a valentines card... got a Christmas card mid jan though! Always too busy with work I said have you heard of moonpig?? He said am I ever going to hear the end of it..I was like well why didn't you just get one?? Yanbu!!! X Happy Birthday X

Oops just saw your update! Glad he got it sorted! X

He said that he was being a bumhead Good self-assessment there Flossiesdaddy

Hooray for

A bumhead.

Glad it's all good now, and happy birthday!

Ah good! He needs to be blooming apologetic!! Enjoy your cake!

Yay!