AIBU to think that adults should not call their parents 'mummy' and 'daddy

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It might be that work is really grating on me today but I really cannot tolerate it. I sit with a lady (in her mid 50s) who takes an awful lot of personal calls throughout the day. Particularly from her mum and she calls her 'mummy' throughout the whole call... is it totally unreasonable that this makes me cringe?

"These words could be placed on a social scale?! confused"

Yep. Not saying it's not daft. But yes they can. Also all the various words for grandparents.

I say mummy (my Father has died) mostly to wind up my plain -speaking Yorkshire Mother.
My teens,plus my DD1 (uni student),call us mummy and daddy and they are not unique amongst their peers in this. I do tell them, when out and about, not to shout it out quite so piercingly! They seem oblivious to the sneering, black looks they attract. I'm not so thick skinned. Their choice I guess.
I am a lost cause, I can only call rabbits bunnies even at work. Draw the line at hubby though.

If I'm referring to them/talking to them normally, it's "Mom and Dad".

If I want something it's "Mommyyyy"/"Daddyyyyyy" they know to expect me to ask a favour if I say it like that

Mummy and daddy is for small children ime. My dc are 3 and 5 so I don't know how I'd feel if they still called me that in 10 or 20 years..maybe I wouldn't care?

Ours call us mummy and daddy when they speak to us but refer to their mother and father. Most, if not all, our friends children call their parents mummy and daddy.
I don't because I'm from a less privileged background but my husband and siblings still say mummy when talking to or about their mother amongst themselves.
I dislike the use of 'mum' or 'dad'.

Well, my first language isn't English, but I do.

I still call my father "Papi" (but sometimes also by his first name), which is the equivalent of daddy and I call my mother by her first name or say "Mama" (not Mami, which would be Mummy).

I don't see why that's a negative thing?

If I talk about them it's either mother, father, first name (if I'm talking to a cousin, for example) or "papi"/"mama".

Did you already say what you cally our parents? Have to look through the thread, I suppose.

But I don't see why it's cringy. DH's sisters still say Mummy and Daddy.

Btw, I'l lnever allow DD to call me "mum".

Mummy, Mama, Mamma, Maman? sure. Mum? no way.

Idk. I pressed her out of there, had swollen feet, felt nauseous etc. I feel like I deserve more than one syllable. But when she's a bit older I'd be ok with my first name, I suspect...

"I'll never

As others said earlier:

loud personal calls - yanbu

But grown adults can call their parents what they like, too on that score - yabu

I pressed her out of there, had swollen feet, felt nauseous etc. I feel like I deserve more than one syllable.

I feel like this might become my new parenting philosophy

I'm fairly posh and I'm definitely not posh enough to say mummy and daddy. My husband is from Northern Ireland and he doesn't say it either and I've never noticed his friends say it.

I have tried to stop my nearly 15 and 13yo DD's calling me mummy for their own sake, for years and nothing is working 😂 They also use daddy

I might possibly be mummy FOREVER and people can post threads about them.

"I feel like I deserve more than one syllable."

I'm Mum, and my given name has one syllable. I don't think that demonstrates that neither my children nor my parents respect me

I'm Mum, and my given name has one syllable. I don't think that demonstrates that neither my children nor my parents respect me

No, of course not.

But that's what I'll tell if somebody ever wants to call me "mum". It's nothing bad, but it also means something else in my first language (as in, it has an entirely different meaning).

So, I'll just say it's disrespectful imo ;)

(Mind you, I'd the interesting time of it being normal in the little London-Irish enclave where I lived; thought weird & "posh" when I stepped outside that for secondary school; then when I went to university I was surrounded by the wealthy elite users of the terms [& a handful like myself who may, of course, have been accidentally let in due to confusion arising over how we refer to our parents in conversation ])

Anyway, OP, quite right to be annoyed by the personal calls on work time, but YABVU thinking you've any right to comment on what people choose to call their parents. I mean thinking long strings of abuse is a bit off is reasonable, clearly, & I can understand eyebrows being raised if you heard a colleague calling their mother "Your Serene Highness, Empress of All That Is Sparkly And Magical" (for example) but the use of mummy or daddy in context of child to parent really shouldn't raise an eyebrow, comment, your blood pressure or anything else.

My mother was mummy when I was little then mum and now is Mama. (Ma ma not ma maaaar)

My father was daddy when I was little and then Dad and is still dad.

My grandmothers were both Nanny Surname when I was little but have become Nan and Grandma (nan because that's what my cousins use, grandma because she just decided). My grandfathers were both Grandpa Surname but one ended up being Grandad (because that's what my cousins use.)

Ds1 (18) has just started calling me mummy again after a 12 year break

Pure Cringe

But each to their own.

I thinks it terribly upper class dahling, not my cup of Darjeeling, but live and let live.

Normal if posh or Irish. I would change to ma and da if "real" English people were listening but could never say mum or dad, it's just too English and my parents wouldn't have answered to those names

My neighbours refer to each other as Mummy and Daddy....

Love your name treaclesoda

Each to their own but seeing as you asked I associate the mummy and daddy thing from adults with upper class types. Personally, it makes me cringe. But then I also hate the constant "love you" said robotically at the end of every phone call on a mobile, which also irritates.

Well I am Northern Ireland born and bred and YANBU xabout a million! I totally get you OP. Yeah people can do what they want but hearing grown adults calling their parents Mummy and Daddy makes me want to cringe myself inside out. It's so infantile. If I ever called my Mum 'Mummy' she would tell me to grow up and get a grip on myself, once she'd stopped dry heaving.

I used to work with a woman (English) who was in her mid 30s and was forever putting posts on Facebook talking about 'my lovely Mummy/Daddy'. I had to hide her posts in the end because it was just so cringy.

I also can't stand the words 'yummy' and 'tummy'. Ok(ish) if you're talking to a 5 year old but a grown adult referring to their 'tummy', ugh!