AIBU to think that adults should not call their parents 'mummy' and 'daddy

[magpiemay]

It might be that work is really grating on me today but I really cannot tolerate it. I sit with a lady (in her mid 50s) who takes an awful lot of personal calls throughout the day. Particularly from her mum and she calls her 'mummy' throughout the whole call... is it totally unreasonable that this makes me cringe?

It grates on me as well OP but each to their own I guess. There's many a word that others say that makes me cringe.

It does in my experience tend to be terribly posh folk that use 'mummy/daddy' as adults although I have a friend that insists her DC's call her mummy as she doesn't like mum, and her 18 year old DS feels very awkward about it. He won't address her in front of his friends and always refers to her as 'my mum' when talking about her.

*Annesmyth, what does don't move to Ireland mean?? Another stupid general statement like on the 'Irish twins' thread where another IDIOT poster said that "Irish Catholics don't use contraception" not everyone in Ireland calls there parents mammy and daddy as adults, very very few Irish people say mummy. Grow the fuck up and don't make such general statements. Good woman

Their parents!

What the hell? It's not a racist statement - it's not derogatory. It's fact - I'm from the north and I call my dad daddy and my mum was always mummy.

My best friend from Derry has a mammy and daddy and my friend from Dublin also has a mammy.

We are all in our 50s

Unlike Irish twin there is no negative connotation at all.

I am called Mumma & my Husband is Dadda/Daddy/father/old Man.
We have 2 children in their 20's, one late teen & one who is 12.
Mumma works for me.

I find Mummy & Daddy cringey too!!

Anne I didn't say it was racist. I said it was stupid and general.

ThinEnd,

That really touched me. The very best wishes to your DM, and to you

OP,

Well, as payback (and assuming your parents are still around?), make some personal calls of your own, loudly and frequently referring to them as "Mater" and "Pater" whilst maintaining a straight face...

Belle13,

"Choke me, Daddy", as a phrase from adolescents, (or anyone else, frankly), is truly horrific. And very concerning

Yabu, but I agree with you. It's vommy. My DC stopped calling me mummy from about age 5. It just sounds babyish. I remember cringing when my gran would ring and ask 'is mummy there?' when I was about 14. I totally admit to being an inverse snob about this too - I have no problem with Irish Mammies, it's the posh mummies and daddies I object to

I have a work colleague who regularly refers to her DH as Daddy. As in 'Daddy's working from home today so he's picking up the DCs from school'. Seriously

I lump mummy and daddy in with hubby. I think they're silly.

Shatner yes! I've never been able to explain why hubby gives me the heebie jeebies but it absolutely does. I cringe every time. I thought it was me being weird.

To me it's like calling a dog a doggy in adult conversation.

"Hubby's taken the doggy for a walk so I'm going to mummy and daddy's for tea and biccies."

I don't think it makes any difference to your life what another adult calls their parents. Or anyone else, really.

I mean, I detest the word 'hubby'. It makes my skin crawl. But that's me being U because it's none of my business.

I still use mummy and daddy and so do lots of the posher people I know.

It's like loo and toilet, or lounge and sitting room, or sofa and couch.

Neither is wrong, the only thing wrong is judging people who use the other one.

I can't stand it.

Gives me the 'mummy dearest' vibes

My kids call me mum but I call my parents mummy and daddy because I'm from N Ireland and everyone I know does it too.

Although I don't particularly love it! But it's what they expect to be called and I don't see any point in rocking the boat.

My mum's always refused to answer to Mum or variations of - not sure what OP would suggest I do in that case? Just not speak to her?

I do now (at 35) call her Mama (and my dad Papa), but Mummy and Daddy occasionally slip out - it's what I've called them all my life, after all. When I was an embarrassed 14 year old it made me cringe, but I'm well past that now! It's up to her what she's called. I have a few friends who still call their parents mummy and daddy, it's not uncommon in my friendship groups.

I do hate 'hubby', but would say it's at the opposite end of the social scale to mummy and daddy!

I say mummy and daddy and I'm in my 50s. But I'm not your colleague, promise!

CRINGEY.
But how about a near 40 yr old who still lives with mummy and daddy, and goes on holiday with them, where she shares a bed with mummy? And collects kids toys? And goes out with mummy and mummy's 70yo friends only? Hmmm maybe I shouldn't open this can of worms!

These words could be placed on a social scale?!

I don't think they say anything about a person, other than they're not embarrassed to use infantile words in public.

I think it depends on the spirit in which it is said. I tend to call my father 'Daddy' and my mother 'Mother' (occasionally 'Mummy' when I want something. Obviously, when I do it, it's kind of cool and ironic, but when other people do it, it's probably naff or creepy

I've spoken to my mum today and not once did I use the words 'mum mother or mam mummy'

I can't think where the conversation would need her name repeated constantly?

If j big friends I don't use their name over and I've either!! How odd!!