AIBU to think that adults should not call their parents 'mummy' and 'daddy

[magpiemay]

It might be that work is really grating on me today but I really cannot tolerate it. I sit with a lady (in her mid 50s) who takes an awful lot of personal calls throughout the day. Particularly from her mum and she calls her 'mummy' throughout the whole call... is it totally unreasonable that this makes me cringe?

Urge my older sister does this and it makes me cringe! And one of my mates too! I don't like it personally and I do take the piss of my sister (she banters back so no worries) but if others wanna do it that's okay but I understand where your coming from op!

How is 'mummy and daddy' smarter than 'mum and dad'?!

Yes it's really strange!

My kids defiantly grew out of it as they become more independent- it's a good sign!

I'm still mummy when they want something and Mother when in trouble!!

But yes it annoyed and cringy

The loud family chatting would drive me mad, does it bother anyone else? Why does she have to talk to her family at work every day?

But other than that,I couldn't care less what people call their parents.

Perfectly normal if you are posh or Irish.

My in laws call each other Mother and Father and they are divorced!

Like HairsprayBabe, I call mine Mummy and Daddy when talking to them, but 'Mum' and 'Dad' when talking about them.

It's just what I've always called them. Are there any other people in your life for whom you're 'supposed' to switch and call them something else at an arbitrary point in your childhood? There aren't, are there? It's kind of a weird notion IMO.

Yes there is another in our office who also spends a lot of time on personal calls... between them they drive me insane but are also both very lovely.

The constant chatter about family members and weekend plans drive me up the wall!

If you are from New Orleans it is perfectly normal. Well, mummy would be mama, but you get the jist.

I think the issue here is the personal calls at work rather than the name she uses for her mum, that would drive me insane if it was so blatant and loud. It shows a total disregard for her employer and colleagues.

I do and my hubby does and we are in our thirties and forties. Tbh, it's none of your business and you need to mind your own business.

I agree OP, makes my skin crawl a bit. I can't bear to listen to teenagers do it even. I am a black hearted cow though.

You would just call them Mum and Dad surely ?

I do it , I do get why you find it weird though .i wouldn't do it in public I'd just say mum and dad . It doesn't feel weird for me because a lot of people here (ni) seem to do it.

I find it cringey too OP, but each to their own is my motto.

DS calls me mummy age 23, not in that imagined upper class way, it just started as a joke when he wanted something but it stuck, in the same way as I call him by his middle name as a joke because I always preferred it to his first name. I am the only one that does it and he answers without thinking or questioning it.

Like a PP, he would never refer to me as mummy outside the house though and would describe me to someone else as his mum.

I am over 30 and still call my parents what I have always called them. Which is roughtly equivalent to "Mum and Dad". I can't just suddenly start to call them by their first names, and "Mother and Father" would seem weird.

Mummy and Daddy seems a bit cutesy, but if that's what she's used to then I see how it would be hard to change.

Tabblylady- I'm from Northern Ireland and I call my mum mummy or in the city close to where I live they are more inclined to call their mums 'mammy'! I never really thought about it! My daughters nearly 16 and calls me mummy. It's normal here

Loud personal phone calls at any time, but especially during work time is not on.

Calling my Father Daddy during his final illness made him happy as a pig in shit.

I don't speak to my mother, but if I did she prefers it if I call her Mummy, as she called her mother Mummy until the day she died.

Is there a time when we should stop calling grandparents Granny and Grampy? Just so I know for my grandkids.

All the very posh people I know call their parents Mummy and Daddy throughout their lives, none of them would ever use 'Mum' at any age. It isn't childish though it is totally standard for a lot of people.

The loud personal calls would fuck me right off though!

Does your office not have a policy on personal calls? I would be deeply in the shit if I carried on like that at work! On the mummy / daddy thing, I call my Dad daddy, but only when I'm pretending I want something (it's more like daaaaddeee tbh) I wouldn't do it as a matter of course, it sounds quite juvenile - thus the joke...

Slippery

I seem to have something in my eye now.

I think you can feel both OP. I totally believe everyone should call their parents whatever feels comfortable for them - my children always called me by my first name.

But when I hear grown adults saying Mummy and Daddy it grates on me too...

I would never say anything just tell myself to be more tolerant - whilst wanting to gag them

I find it a bit weird but it doesn't particularly bother me. What really grates on me is when people use "mummy" to refer to their mother in conversation with people who don't even know "mummy". I know someone like this. "I went to see Mummy the other day. Mummy said..." It's not her name! If I'm talking about my mum I refer to her as "my mum" unless I'm speaking to a member of our family.