I am completely willing to be flamed but I need to vent, I feel like I'm going to explode!
I already have a DS (2)
I'm slowly approaching 12 weeks pregnant, and OH is very excited to finally tell people, me on the other hand want it to keep a secret for as long as possible because of MILs actions in my first pregnancy, she ruined my last weeks of being pregnant & the first few days of my DS1s life.
At 37 weeks with dc1 I was admitted to hospital for a week, she called my OH once (to ask for help with her laptop) and never asked about me or her grandchild once.
I was induced a week after this ( still in hospital from being poorly) and she would honestly call every few hours to find out what was happening, if there were any signs, and asking very personal questions (usually about my lady parts) on the second day my OH told her he would not be taking her calls anymore as it was becoming too much. So she somehow found the ward number and started calling the nurses for updates!
My friend then calls me to let me know MIL has been updating the world about my cervix etc via Facebook, very detailed embarrassing things, I'm sure her friends knew I was dilated before I did! :(
Anyways day 3, I have my DS late one night, and tell people that we will be home in the morning/afternoon & would not like visitors as I had not been home in over a week and want time to settle. Which surprising to us even she honors!
The next day she calls us several times from about 4:30am to see if she can come over, we get that she was excited but we were all trying to sleep & had our phones on silent, so they didn't wake the baby. We wake up to loads of messages from MIL, BIL, and some of her friends, worried for our life's as we have not been in contact :/ we spoke to her at 9pm the night before, it's barley been 12 hours!
Anyway we receive calls from the ward and midwives saying MIL has also been phoning them.
We arrange a time for her to come round, and she does not turn up? A few hours later she arrives, but brings BIL, which is fine. She also has 2 of her friends, her friends mum, and daughter, none of which I've ever met? Is this a normal thing? The daughter was also full of cold! She apologizes for being late but says she had to wait for her friends mum as she had to get her hair done for the occasion.
I asked to take my baby back to feed him upstairs, and she tells me that I need to do it in front of everyone so they can see if I'm doing it right, at this point I remember just breaking down, I was so tired and sore, hadn't slept at all in over a week, all I wanted was to be alone with my OH and baby, but instead was made to host and make food and tea because they were hungry.
I felt like a zoo attraction, but with even less dignity, as the main subject of talk was my body.
(Before OH gets flamed, I wanted to make tea/food to be away from them all, and he did make them all leave very shortly after this)
Anyway this happens again the next few days, but she just brings other people, even when we asked her not too :(
I've just realized how long this is, sorry! I'm just feeling sorry for myself today, I know it could be much worse.