This could be identifying so changed a couple of details but the main facts remain the same. I have a good friend, we have known eachother since primary school so about 22 years now! We have have 2 children at the same ages. She is always short on money, her and her partner are in low paid jobs so when she asks I always help her out with the odd £10 for bread and milk etc and it's never been a problem.
Yesterday she rang me in tears asking me to lend her £20 for some bread, milk, yoghurts etc for her DC and she would pay me back next week. I explained I was at work but could transfer the money when I get home as I didn't have my card reader thing with me, or she could ask someone else and I could then send the money to them and she could pay it back to me iyswim?
Friend didn't like this said I'm being tight and letting her kids starve and slammed the phone down. About an hour later a mutual friend emailed me to say she had also been asked to lend money but refused because friend had been on a night out over the weekend and spent £150! I didn't know about the night out or how she could have spent that much!
So who is being unreasonable? I had no way of transferring her any money until I got home but would have sent the money to someone else if they'd given her it. I'm now unsure about lending her money if she is spending excessive amounts on nights out but has nothing for her DCs lunches.
We've been friends so long and she's always paid me back promptly so not sure what to think
Sorry this is long