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To ask for help responding to my daughters letter to the fairies?

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 14/03/2017 20:59

Poor dd is 6 and has had a few nightmares recently.
She's decided to write to the fairies to see if they can help her. The letter reads (at least I think it reads)

I have lots of bad dreams all about scary monsters and aliens because they hide under people's beds at night. They roar at people and chase them all around

I think she's excepting some sort of a reply from the "fairies"

Does anyone have any clue what I can do to help her? I'm crap at creative stuff.

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Wolfiefan · 14/03/2017 21:03

Thank you for your lovely letter x. One of our fairy jobs is to check under beds during the night to make sure they are monster free. Monsters and aliens spend their nights at monster parties in the woods/up mountains (choose somewhere not near you!) and their days sleeping after all the fun! They do love chasing but prefer to chase each other. They are actually really terrified of little girls (watch monsters inc?) and would never chase one.
Please make sure your bedroom and the space under your bed is nice and tidy to help the fairies in their work.
Love and fairy sparkles
X

alabasterangel · 14/03/2017 21:04

I'd say that dreams are just your clever brains ways of making up many different stories, good and and bad, and that stories are all they are.

The hypocritically sign off by the fairy!!

Or suggest the fairy will be back with a gift then quickly order some 'worry dolls' (mine love these)

My DD loves it when the fairy visits the dolls house, ruffle the bedcovers and rearrange the crockery. But then I am a sucker for all that and encourage all these joys. Life can hard enough, a bit of fairy magic really doesn't hurt for us.

Greenfingeredfun · 14/03/2017 21:04

Got and old spray bottle that you can fill with water with some perfume in? Maybe prettify the outside? It could be a gift from the fairies. Monster spray. To spray around her room before bed to keep scary things away.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 14/03/2017 21:05

That's so cute wolfie she'll love it.

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WindwardCircle · 14/03/2017 21:06

Perhaps the fairies could leave her a present of a dream catcher with an explanation of what it is.

Shallishanti · 14/03/2017 21:06

Dear DD,
we are sorry to hear about your scary dreams, they sound really nasty.
But we can promise you there really aren't any monsters or aliens under your bed. Under your bed there is just (list what's under there).
Scary dreams are horrible but they are just dreams they aren't real at all. No matter what happens in a dream when you wake up you will still be in your warm cosy bed with (mum/dad/sibling) in the next room- all safe!
Maybe next time you have a scary dream you will remember what the fairies have told you, and you can just say to the monster- you're not real! I'm not scared of you! You are only pretend!
lots of love from
the fairies

BerylStreep · 14/03/2017 21:06

What I did (and still do) with my DC is explain to them that nightmares are actually your brain's way of trying to work out what it would do if X or Y or Z happened. So your brain is really clever by practicing what it would do, a bit like the way you practice fire drill in school. Then a conversation would ensue that your brain isn't that clever, because we all know that aliens aren't really real.

I have also done teeny tiny typed letters from fairies in the past (usually apologising for being late with tooth money) but you could do a letter saying that the fairies know that there are no aliens or monsters under the beds and wishing her a good night's sleep.

Is there anything bothering her that is causing nightmares? Is she having too much stimulation before bed?

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 14/03/2017 21:07

Ooh loads more ideas - off to google worry dolls

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memyselfandaye · 14/03/2017 21:08

If you google tooth fairy, you can print your own certificate from the fairies. I'm sure you will be able to change the text to whatever you want to say.

DerFlabberghast · 14/03/2017 21:10

Hmmm, I'd write a letter back on some creative kind of paper, maybe one with a leaf or other nature pattern, and a sprinkle of glitter for good measure, saying the fairies have said they will take care of the monsters and put a 'fairyesque' night light under the bed so she can see there's nothing under there, maybe a toadstool one or something of that flavour?

Domino20 · 14/03/2017 21:10

Watch Monsters Inc, she'll love Monsters by the end of it!

StarUtopia · 14/03/2017 21:11

Could you treat her to one of these?

Her own fairy

PersisFord · 14/03/2017 21:12

In our house the monsters are really scared of little children because they think they smell disgusting. Also if a child licks them they will get all itchy and have to have a bath in tomato ketchup. I don't know if the fairies know this but it has definitely improved the situation here.

BellaGoth · 14/03/2017 21:15

Do you have any pets? When my 4 year old was scared of monsters I told him that our dogs had been trained in monster detection and brought them in to his room each night to check. Perhaps the fairies could arrange for a pet or favourite cuddly toy to undergo the relevant training?

KanyesVest · 14/03/2017 21:15

Dd has a fairy mother with too much time on her hands who leaves her notes like those above. One of them suggested she made her own dream catcher (paper plate, bits of wool and whatever sparkles she found lying around) and it worked a treat.

And now I must go leave one about how brave she was while sick...

LoupGarou · 14/03/2017 21:16

When DS went through a phase of being scared of monsters under the bed and having bad nightmares, it was based around d the fact that he didn't like the dark and nighttime. We spent ages doing fun things in the dark to try and get him past the assumption that dark = monsters = nightmares.

We got those neon glo sticks, put on music, turned off the lights and had dance parties. We watched meteorite showers and the northern lights on the deck. We "camped" out in a tent fort in the living room and had midnight feasts. We had fireworks in the yard. That sort of thing. We also taught the dog a command so that DS can get her to check nothing creepy is about. It worked really well for us.

Howlongtillbedtime · 14/03/2017 21:18

I love what wolfie had to say. And adding a dreamcatcher is a good idea. My ds had one for a while (I had to empty it down the toilet every morning but it worked)
The worry dolls I gave to my younger ds for a different reason but he eventually admitted to his auntie that he didn't want to worry the dolls so hadn't been telling them anything Hmm

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 14/03/2017 21:23

She's got a dream catcher, it worked for a while but the dreams have crept back again.

I think a fairy gift of worry dolls might be a good plan.

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MumW · 14/03/2017 21:36

My mun sat a teddy on my bedside table and told me to tell him what was bothering me and he would deal with it (monsters under the bed) or look after it until the morning (worries and concerns) so I didn't have to during the night.

Ohyesiam · 14/03/2017 21:38

Dreams and irrational fear come from the unconscious, so sending a reply like Wolfie suggested is engaging with her unconscious, and should work well.
We did something similar with dd when she was tiny, and you could see that something deep in her mind was satisfied, and we had no more owl trouble. Previous to that we had lots of rational explaining that owls didn't come into houses, are more scared of us etc, which didn't help at all.

armsandtheman · 14/03/2017 21:45

I caught the monster under my daughter's bed and showed her (my empty hands). I said it was a tiny baby monster and it was scared so it was hiding under her bed. Now it knew it had scared her he would tell all the monsters not to disturb her. We then released it back to its mum. She was much better after that (and said the monster could live in her dolls house)!

Chicken86 · 14/03/2017 21:50

These look like they'd be a lovely present from the fairies!

Fair Trade Fairies - Worry Fairy https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00FJ217ZG/ref=cmswwrcppapi_nvgYybWQB9JZY

MrsDustyBusty · 14/03/2017 21:54

She might like these:

www.theirishfairydoorcompany.com/

lilyboleyn · 14/03/2017 21:54

When I was little the fairies sent me a soft toy who chased bad dreams away.
(Even now Blush) whenever I had a bad dream I just had to pick up the soft toy and hug it and I'd just go straight back to sleep because I believed so deeply it would chase the bad dreams away.
Would this work for your LO?

buttfacedmiscreant · 14/03/2017 21:58

Does she know that monsters and aliens in dreams are dreadfully ticklish? My son didn't know this when he was four and having the same problems.