This came up on the thread about the cruise cabins that I posted yesterday. Luckily we resolved that issue.
Many posters were concerned about dss and four year old ds. He will tell his half brother to shut the fuck up and be fucking quite or piss off. This happens when ds is loud and playful but is particularly bad in the mornings when dss gets woken up by ds. He has also called his little brother a cunt. We do punish him for this behaviour but have given up because it is very difficult to punish a 17 year old as many might know.
When ds was a baby he was much kinder to him and actually used to play with him/hold him.
He has little consideration for his brother for example he was in a strop when we went as a family to Disneyland Paris. I know they are teenagers and wouldn't want to be at Disneyland as much as a four year old but it was only for two days and then they got two days in Paris which we tried to aim towards them.
This causes huge problems as my sons don't like his attitude and dh gets really angry at him. Dh used to be close to him but they aren't anymore he gets really cross at his sons behaviour and ends up giving him money to just go and do his own thing. He gets on much better with my sons and it must hurt to see them do things together when dss isn't. But it is clearly his own making due to poor and disrespectful behaviour. I think he's got into a vicious cycle where he rejects everybodies love as a protection because he rejects them first. It's a really sad state of affairs. His mum and him are close but she is very involved with the new boyfriend and seems to give him more attention than she does her son. He has seen a counsellor in the past but he ends up saying what they like to hear and then leaving.
I used to clash with him but I've actually ended up getting on better with him and dh ended up getting on worse. I think I have come to expect little from him.
Not really aibu but I thought I should post it hear since it links to the previous thread.