AIBU - insufferably snobby? Or me being oversensitive??

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So we don't see the in laws often (hubby reasons not mine) we saw them at Christmas to do a gift exchange, lots of prezzies, needed a big bag so used a great big lidl bag - just for transporting, all presents were wrapped nicely and thoughtfully inside. So at the weekend, met up again, SIL says she has a gift for me, makes quite a thing of it. Its the LIDL bag, returned to me "as she couldn't think who it belonged to but then thought of me" The bag was returned to me in a John Lewis bag.

I should add there is history. For example If ever tea is being made at a family occasion, she will say "you like it butch don't you" meaning I like "normal tea" whereas she likes earl grey. She travels with her slippers and brings her own earl grey tea bags if she ever visits our home (I do have earl grey in - I do have some posh friends too!) I find it all very rude AIBU?

Haha that's the sort of thing my aunt would do.

Your SIL is boring and provincial. Why would try and belittle someone's shopping choices.

However the 'you like it butch don't you' made me laugh

@whatsername17 - yes, it could become a thing! One-up-bag-ship! its so tempting but I just don't want to engage, I think she's meaner than me!

My aunt used to get all her cleaning stuff from poundstretchers (before £shops ) but she used to take her stuff out of the carrier into a white carrier she now does the same with £shop bags puts stuff in a waitrose bag for life

I would laugh out loud and call her on it. Say something like "Oh my goodness, you're so funny hiding a perfectly good Lidl bag in another bag. I mean, really - who actually does that?!?" and then say "Oh yes, you do" and laugh at her.

How old is she as her behaviour probably doesn't match her age.....at least not in my head. I'm picturing someone in their 30's acting like someone in their 80's

She isn't posh. Posh people don't behave like that. She is common and rude.

She sounds like an idiot. I drink Earl Grey and I definitely ain't posh. If she thinks that's posh, she's got a problem.

Same Aunt used to go to sommerfield and put her shopping in M&S bags

A sign of true class is someone who wouldn't dream of making someone else feel uncomfortable, she is a classless snob and you should ignore her.

It's not really a big deal is it? She is behaving in her own way-peculiar, eccentric, snobbish, whatever. If you only see them a few times a year I'd smile and wave.

Is her surname bucket?

FTR, I shop at John Lewis and Lidl. Though I much prefer Aldi to Lidl,

Oh she's got no class OP! She's laughable! I'd be tempted to do the opposite!

Gift her some very expensive and lovely tea but put it in a nappy sack.

References to 'builders' tea'

I thought builder's tea was very strong English Breakfast? Oh well. I am very posh, don't yew know.

@whatchamacallit she is in the middle of those ages, Quite a bit older than me.

Haha! So very not posh at all, your SIL Just laugh and tolerate. She must have a very lucky and a very dull life to be bothered about such silly things. The Harrods bag sounds a good idea

She sounds quite amusing tbh.

This has me in chuckles. The Harrods bag with the JL bag inside is just genius.

Also earl grey tea being posh.... tea in a tea bag can never be posh. Nothing wrong with tea bags but that isn't posh by any stretch.

Next Christmas - give her a book on Etiquette from Debretts with a gift tag saying you know how badly she wants to climb the social/class ladder

@melaniecheeks - I normally can honestly! the tea thing I do usually Laugh off and I do have friends who bring their slippers and I still love them!! The lidl bag being presented back to me in a John Lewis bag tho, it just caught me out, so weird I needed to share... Question is tho, do I return the John Lewis bag?

John Lewis bag in a Harrods bag...GENIUS!
Yes she is a total spoilt pampered princess brat of a petty waste of space. Do the 'bag exchange' and smirk in her face. Then stick two fingers up at her (in your mind...not actually) and rise above it all.

Oh hang on a missed tht the harries bag was for the John Lewis bag!! Sorry!!! Am pretending I'm working too

So she saved the Lidl bag from Christmas to give to you, in March?! i may be wrong, but surely most people would use it themselves, or would have binned it by now.

Return the JL bag inside an Iceland bag. Extra points for wrapping it in the DM before.

Bless her. Poor soul. I would just laugh and laugh and laugh if anyone did the carrier bag thing to me. It's comical. Everyone knows Lidl and Aldi are superior to JL in every way.

I think you have to practice laughing out loud, right in her face: "OMG, I love that bag!", take it from her and do a happy dance.

Although I'd dare to do the Matryoshka bag-in-a-bag oneupmanship return....