Or is my husband being a dick??

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So my husband is going tonight for a night out with a few of his old colleagues. His night out will be 30 miles from where we live so I'm dropping him to the train station later for him to get there but he has said that I've to pick him up later from whatever bar they end up in!! I ofcourse said uh no! He can get the last train home and I'll pick him up from the station but I am not driving 30 miles away at 1 or 2 in the morning!! We have 2 kids, the youngest only 1 who I get up with through the night as he doesn't hear him so I have no desire to get even less sleep! ( we live with his mum (don't ask ) so I won't have to wake the kids to get him) but he doesn't even see how he's being unreasonable!!!

Ok so firstly I don't go out cause simply I don't like going out to bars etc, I'm a boring fart who prefers to go out for a cuppa during the day then get into my pjs by 6 😁
I don't know who it was said that my OH doesn't provide for his family cause we live with his mum, he does, while he may behave like a total dick now and again he works hard to provide for us so I can stay at home with the kids, we don't live here for free and considering his mum broke he arm this week and can't do much one handed or drive I'm pretty sure she's grateful we're here to help.
I'm sure plenty of you think I'm a total muppet for believing he doesn't hear the baby but maybe I should've explained that the slightest sound he makes I waken whereas OH will hear him when he cries.
He knows I'm not going to get him, even if he gets the train so it's up to him how he gets home. I think he knows he was being a dick but won't admit it! 😁

Whaaat?! He is being extremely unreasonable! He's a grown man, he can get himself home, surely!

Leggit

but it is equally fine for others who choose to make that trip

No, I don't think it's fine to make a 60 mile trip at 2am, leaving two kids, one of whom is non-sleeping 1 year old, with a person who has a broken arm and could therefore be no use in an emergency or could do herself a further injury.

I would always volunteer to collect DW at any time of day or night but in your situation with a small one and an incapacitated mum he is being unreasonable as you can't leave the house safely.
If it is literally 5 minutes to the local station then you could perhaps consider it.

Just out of interest, OP can you ask your DH if he would make a 2 hour round trip at say 1 or 2 am to collect you after a night out?
Because I don't know anyone that would ask this of someone and that's not taking into account having small children.

Of course yanbu.

He sounds a very selfish person if he puts his own fun ahead of your needs your children's needs and his mum's needs.

The fact that he just expects you to do this suggests you've let him walk all over you before. You need to start sticking up for yourself for the sake of your children if nothing else.

Get his mum on side, both agree not to bend to his unreasonable requests from now on. If I was his mum I'd be embarrassed I'd raised such an inconsiderate person.