For DH to not give a stuff about Mother's day?

[Bethan2]

Hi all,

My DH has declared nothing will happen on Mother's day this year as our 6 month old son is not old enough to contribute anything and also that I'm not his (DH's) mother. Am feeling pretty cheesed off as I was looking forward to something, be it a card 'from' the baby, breakfast in bed etc but now I won't get anything... Feel like it's my birthday and I'm not getting any presents! Or am I just being stupid?

Thanks for reading x

The shittest thing is announcing in advance just what she has to look forward to. Actually trying to take the moral high ground, which will make your dp/dw feel even shitter than just the absence of card.
Don't get me wrong, i hate mother's day, i hate having to be nice & grateful all day. A card on her first mother's day is not asking a lot.

All those going on about Mother's day being made up by Hallmark...

Educate yourselves

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday?wprov=sfla1

And OP, your DH sounds deeply petty. I think you should definitely take your DC out somewhere nice and celebrate it just the two of you.

My DH tried saying we won't be doing Mother's Day but I told him it's not his day to decide. If he doesn't want to celebrate Father's Day that's fine but I want my day!

MN as a place to work out relationship issues - while we watch!

I'm liking that idea.

What we need now is a cheating husband thread where the bastard in question makes an appearance.

It does have more meaning when your little ones make a card and excitedly bring you breakfast, but he is being really cold hearted to not show his appreciation of you on behalf of his child. I wouldn't trash fathers day, I would do a simple card and breakfast for him as that would make more of a point in my opinion. Tit for tat can slowly destroy life. I would make sure you have a lovely day and buy yourself flowers.

Wow this thread moved on whilst I was distracted.

He doesn't need to show appreciation on behalf of his child. He can just appreciate the OP for being the mother of his child.

Feel like it's my birthday and I'm not getting any presents!

It isn't your birthday. I am a mother. I find the angst that goes on about mother's and father's days deeply perplexing.

What a miserable bastard.

We don't go in for big gestures here (ie no flowers sent to work etc), but even so, I can manage a card for DW.. and she (usually) remembers to do the same for me.

To actually plan to do nothing, on the first mothers day, is shite.

sounds to me like he's getting his excuse in early because he's a lazy fuckwit. I'd take the baby out for the day somewhere just you and him and not invite your partner as he's clearly not arsed. Is he selfish in other ways?

Mine got worse. One year I didn't even get a card for Mother's Day. Kids are all 9 and under. Last year nothing for my birthday, anniversary or Christmas. He's on very thin ice. He's not an arsehole just a thoughtless, lazy git. Needless to say I'm not hugely happy. You need to outrightly tell him you're not happy about that.

I don't give a stuff about Mother's Day and nor does my DH. If he is nice to you all year why should he/you?
Likewise birthdays and Christmas.

really glad that this came to such a satisfactory conclusion, OP

topcat2014 Sat 18-Mar-17 09:29:18 0
"What a miserable bastard."

What, the one who posted pages ago that he has learnt his lesson and now realises that he was wrong apply his own logic to the OP? Not much point in reforming if you are on MN- nobody will notice it. (except, hopefully, the OP)

You're not his mother but you are the mother of his child and for that reason he should be making the effort.

My first Mother's Day was 1 week after DD was born and I was so excited to be a mother, but now ex H didn't think anything of it. I sent him out for a card and flowers 😤