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To think that people living on welfare shouldn't be running off every five minutes for a new tattoo or piercing?

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allfurcoatandnoknickers1 · 09/03/2017 17:02

I'm probably going to get shot down for this, but I just had a little disagreement with a woman I know. She posted a photo on Facebook of a rather large tattoo on her forearm that she'd just had done. Last month she had skin divers put in her chest and hand. The month before she had another shit tattoo.
This individual is single and has two children. She hasn't worked a day in the last decade, but is living off the state. Am I being a bitch by thinking she should spend the money she receives on feeding the children and keeping a roof over their heads? I noted that she feeds her boys Pot Noodle for dinner but makes sure she's got her fags too. It just annoys me.

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Alfieisnoisy · 10/03/2017 11:32

...and Redpoll chimes n with no evidence for his/her assertions.

Yes I am on benefits....I worked for 30 yrs prior to that and some of it as a HR taxpayer. Thankfully I never envied those on benefits ...it's apparent that Redpoll does..."ooh it's not fair".

You can have my benefits and my "free from work" life Redpoll but you need to take all the caring responsibilities as well. It's not a picnic.

And why am I even replying as you are a goady fucker who knows they can post shite without backing any of it up .

I called you "a charmer", it wasn't a compliment....but you seem too dim to work that out, who on earth employs you with that intellect?

C'mon, where's your evidence.,.and I DO mean EVIDENCE and not "my neighbour looks like he has it easy so everyone else claiming benefits is the same".

And yes...maybe feck off until you learn some humility and are able to get that Daily Mail out of your arse.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:34

Always an excuse why they cannot come of benefits, feel entitled to more benefits. Question why their lifestyle has to be reduced in anyway "just becuase they don't work" and then wonder why people are sick of it.
Ffs, there are threads on this board from people moaning that they cannot afford a third child from now on as they cannot afford due to the cuts in benefits. I am just shocked that people plan their family based on how much they think they are entitled from state money. Sickening!

PortiaCastis · 10/03/2017 11:35

I challenge all goady fuckers to live on £73pw JSA because that's what unemployment benefit is.

Annesmyth123 · 10/03/2017 11:35

Nceccoli what a pile of nonsense.

Dawndonnaagain · 10/03/2017 11:36

Doesn't mean we all do it nceccoli. Some of us work 24 hours a day, seven days a week for our benefits. Do try to stop judging everyone by the same standard.

needsahalo · 10/03/2017 11:36

take a real look in the mirror at what you are doing to yourselves, your children and the opinions your behaviour is setting to the as I put it hard working english classes

I am hard working, but I still claim benefits. I dare you to say otherwise. I am a teacher for christ's sake. So I look in the mirror every day and thank god for the support of those like me which means my children and I have everything we need.

Would you prefer the poor to live in ghettos? in make shift housing, without basic services? or in poor houses, separated from family and friends? would you prefer that my children had been put into care the day their father walked out given that I was no longer able to support them alone without benefits? or something else?

Please think about who you are talking about. Your insults are misguided, ignorant and totally miss the point.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:37

Have you actually read the threads here? There is one on this board bemoaning the fact that a third child is off the cards due to upcoming cut off for benefits.

Annesmyth123 · 10/03/2017 11:38

You know why it took me years to come off benefits? Because my exs abuse damaged my mental health so much I could barely hold it together.

Stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

iLoveCoffeeAndChocolate2017 · 10/03/2017 11:38

I agree that people on benefits shouldn't be able to waste that money on tattoos/drink/drugs etc..... A woman that I know has 5 children and has never worked a single day in her life....She regularly posts photos of her latest tattoos... and talks about how she needs a bigger house and car, and wants a fancy wedding- all at the expense of the state. It's a bit of a piss take when I work (and have kids) but can't afford the things I'd like because I pay for everything.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:39

Dawndonnaagain I am well aware not everyone on benefits take the piss. It never is everyone. BUT a sufficient number or at least what the voting public perceive to be a sufficient number as taking the piss and voting Tory and perpetuating the need for austerity as an ideology.

SumThucker · 10/03/2017 11:40

One poster's thread, nceccoli, not representative of all claimants.

Maybe you should leave the thread, you can't have read the Daily Mail from cover to cover yet surely?

There are pictures in there too.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:41

And so the voting public is voting Tory I mean

AwaywiththePixies27 · 10/03/2017 11:41

People need to be controlled on every aspect of what they do if not conforming to the social expectations of the hard working classes

Blimey! Have I woken up in the 19th century? Hmm

Dontactlikeyouknowme · 10/03/2017 11:41

Everyone seems to know a woman who has 5 kids blah blah blah.No one seems to know any men like that though.

Funny that.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:42

Oh with the DM insults again! Sign of someone who has run out of any logical argument. Tiresome.

BantyCustards · 10/03/2017 11:44

N - do you know what is truly sickening? The fact that you cannot seem to grasp that the vast majority of families claiming benefits are working.

If I was to work 40 hours a week I would STILL have to claim benefits because O couldn't afford not to.

Now, do you not think that is shocking?

Think for a moment who the real sctounfers are: those having to claim benefits or the fact that huge companies can get away with paying such low wages while reaping the benefits of what is essentially stealing the Labour from ordinary people?

SumThucker · 10/03/2017 11:44

It's the only other place I read ridiculous comments, nceccoli, I just presume it's where most people get their bullshit from.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 10/03/2017 11:45

Have you actually read the threads here? There is one on this board bemoaning the fact that a third child is off the cards due to upcoming cut off for benefits.

One thread. Which means one person. One person is not representative of that demographic.

Annesmyth123 · 10/03/2017 11:46

Nceccoli any chance you could answe me as to what exactly I was supposed to do?

Alfieisnoisy · 10/03/2017 11:47

There will always be unemployable people though...I don't mean the sick and/or disabled here but those who live their lives in such a chaotic way that no employer would want them. Generally these people have been failed since birth and that isn't going to change. You will always have them...but with the right resources early on we would have less of them.

My son is autistic and attends a special school, he WILL be employable because he will have enough functional skills to do so and I will also help him.
He also WANTS to achieve but has a background of stability behind him wth parents who support him. We already talk about the world of work with him, we look at jobs he could do and where his interests lie. He has grown up seeing me go to work and now sees me going to college and also to some voluntary stuff I do.

He will probably always need some help but the last thing I would ever wish to see is him sitting unemployed.

Contrast that with someone who grows up in a chaotic neglectful family...that person might not have the challenges my son does but won't be nearly as employable.

Finally I look around my street...in a cul de sac of around 15 families...all in social housing. Currently the only one out of work is me...and that's only on a temporary basis, every other house has at least one person in employment,,.sometimes both adults. One lady works three jobs at times to pay her way and she has a husband in work too.

Dontactlikeyouknowme · 10/03/2017 11:47

What if you were a member of the hard working classes but then ypu lost your job? How hard do you have to work to be considered a member of the hard working classes in the first place?

What if you work hard but still claim WTC because your wages are crap?

I need to know the hard working class rules.

PortiaCastis · 10/03/2017 11:48

Nobody apart from myself has mentioned the unclaimed benefits have they

www.politicshome.com/news/uk/social-affairs/welfare/opinion/turn2us/74827/new-research-shows-£15bn-welfare-goes-unclaimed

Alfieisnoisy · 10/03/2017 11:49

Sorry necolli but she sounds like the average dim DM reader.

I think you will find my posts on this thread have been reasoned and logical.
When you read the shit that people like Redpoll post though even the sanest of people can become a little childish and insulting.

So yes...she got a DM insult but that doesn't mean I have run out of logical argument. AngryHmm

Alfieisnoisy · 10/03/2017 11:51

Anyway, out of here. Some of us have responsibilities beyond those people posting goady shit on MN.

nceccoli · 10/03/2017 11:53

So one poster is not representative of all benefits claimants but your mythical virtuous, blameless victim clam ain't is somehow representative of all benefits claimants and the scrounger is a mere figment of imagination?