AIBU

[Bluebell28]

OK long story short, I am recently recovered from serious near fatal illness. I live separately from DP of four years . I borrowed £500 from him whilst in hospital, first time I have asked him for money. He grumbled about his ex and paying her debts. He takes home 7k a month. After months of hospital and convalescence at my house , I am back working . I offered him back the money he says no I don't want it. We talked about me moving to his house as planned before I got ill. He says why don't you come for a few days I like your cooking. AIBU to be fed up? I can't work from his house , I have income from an investment but after he grumbled when I asked to borrow 500 pounds AIBU to live in my house he says he hates my house as his has more garden

Just read that back , sorry for terrible grammar and no paragraphs how do I edit on the app?

I'm sure exactly what your AIBU is?

Sorry, NOT sure

Eh? Just stay in your own house. He can stay in his.

If staying in your own house makes your happier for now then do it but what are yous going to do in the long run you will have to make a choice at some point. And he sounds like he's not really the compromising sort

I'm not really sure what the problem is?

So he wants you to stay for a couple of days so you can cook for him.

Doesn't sound like he is that serious about you.

what are yous going to do in the long run you will have to make a choice at some point

Why? It's perfectly possible to live on your own for your whole life.

Apologies I should have been more clear. The problem is if I go to his house he would expect me to do all the cooking and housework as he has a much bigger income . I could live on my rental income without working.

We are both older have grown up children , none together and he says after being married before he will never do it again.

Do you like him? Does he like you? It doesn't sound as though either of you does very much. That is a good reason not to move in together.

So just stay in your own house! Why do you need to live with him?

Sounds like he wants live in domestic help rather than a partner.

On a side note YABU to start a thread with only the title AIBU. It's better if people have at least some clue what it is going to be about.

ZilphusHatpin I am starting to think that I should stay in my house , he's a bit 1950s but doesn't believe in marriage , we are both divorced.

Leave the £500 in a drawer at his home. Alongside a take away menu - and then leave. .

Hmmm on that income I'd tell him to get a cleaner and or cook and continue to live seperately.

Sounds like you need to rest not take on a big house with chores!

Apologies you're right the title is crap

Thanks I am supposed to be resting more , am not up to full physical strength yet. Laughing at the menu in the drawer suggestion

Why do you even want to live with him in the first place? He doesn't sound at all attractive!