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Not wanting to get my shopping delivered

53 replies

charliebear78 · 08/03/2017 14:16

So,I am a bored Housewife and get my weekly Shopping Delivered.
I work out from home using the internet-keep reading this will make sense soon-One day after finishing a work out the Delivery turned up earlier so I was in full workout gear and a sweaty mess-Typically Delivery Guy was young,musular and good looking!-He then started to ask me lots of questions about Exercise blah blah blah-said at the end of our chat-"Well it obviously works,You look good!"
So,I was quite chuffed and once he had gone had a little chuckle and hair swish to myself!!!!
Fast forward to now and hes been a few more times(not always him)and I am starting to feel uncomfortable now.
I always make sure I am reasonably dressed(not in tight gym wear etc)and he still keeps asking me about exercise-dropping little comments like "oh you could be a fitness model">cringe and telling me how good I look.
He knows I have young children(they are running about the place when he brings the shopping in)He knows I have a partner as he asked me about the bikes in my garage(partners)
Everytime I see its him now I just feel anxious.
Yesterday after delivering the shopping he sent me a Facebook friend request and a message saying"You looked Hot Today!"
Haha-this could be the start of a terrible 80s Porno!
Gonna have to be straight with him aren't I ?
Except I am quite shy and that thought scares me-instead I would rather just smile and titter nervously while he complements me!
Argh!!!!
Feeling like changing to a different Supermarket-Except I LIKE the one we use and do not really want to.
Or should I just lap it up and laugh to myself when he's gone?

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wickerlampshade · 08/03/2017 14:17

complain to the supermarket. totally inappropriate (the FB message) and could make someone feel quite vulnerable.

Underthemoonlight · 08/03/2017 14:18

I would report him he's being massively inappropriate I think I had read an article around Christmas where a yodel delivery drive used a customers number to try and chat her up he was later dismissed

ItsReginaPhalange · 08/03/2017 14:19

Report him. Not professional at all and so so weird.

JennyOnAPlate · 08/03/2017 14:20

Report him! He's being completely inappropriate!

mollymaid16 · 08/03/2017 14:21

Two sides to every story he has came a few times and you could have put him in his place at any point.

Why would you get him in trouble with work when you've been enjoying the flirting, and clearly playing on it.

Just tell him it's not appropriate and end off story

icelollycraving · 08/03/2017 14:22

Report to the supermarket. Very inappropriate.

mollymaid16 · 08/03/2017 14:23

You enjoyed the flirting and now all off a sudden it's gone too far.

In reference to a vulnerable person well you've led him on also so maybe he wouldn't have responded the way he has to anyone else and they may not have been flirting back like you have .

If obviously liked you and you game him the impression you liked him back and hes seen an opportunity to meet someone it doesn't have to be some sinister plot to capture vulnerable people god what is with yous people

xStefx · 08/03/2017 14:28

OMG (not you OP) but to the people suggesting you report him

Since when has flirting been a crime and a reason to get someone into trouble- he has only messaged OP

If you don't reply and don't accept the request he may get the hint if he doesn't then just say your not interested.

HecateAntaia · 08/03/2017 14:32

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Snowflakes1122 · 08/03/2017 14:32

Well just time the shop for your DH to be there and get him to answer the door.

SaucyJack · 08/03/2017 14:36

Not appropriate. Not least because he's only entitled to access the OP's personal information for the purposes of delivering her shopping- NOT so he look up on FB for the purposes of getting some extra-marital.

However, I do think as you've responded positively to previous attention, then the adult thing to do here is to approach him directly and reply to his message making it clear he's overstepped the mark and you'll class any future "flirting" as sexual harassment and will be reporting him to his supervisors.

Wellhellothere1 · 08/03/2017 14:39

How about you just change the times of your delivery a few times and your DH could accept the delivery? That would give him the message if you're too shy to tell him you're not interested.

FlyingElbows · 08/03/2017 14:41

"I would rather just smile and titter nervously while he complements me!" fgs grow up.

ThomasHardyPerennial · 08/03/2017 14:43

Why can't you change the time/day of the delivery? He can't be the only driver!

Bluntness100 · 08/03/2017 14:44

!"I would rather just smile and titter nervously while he complements me!"

Pommes · 08/03/2017 14:46

Respond to his compliments with "thanks, my lovely husband thinks so too."

Easy problem to deal with OP.

mollyminniemo · 08/03/2017 14:48

OP- Try booking different day/time they change drivers pretty often. Or change supermarket for a few months. If he comes again and makes another comment Id say " FYI, my husband heard our little exchange last week and wast too happy about it, so best we dont chat!" OR come to door with phone on ear, ask him to put shopping right inside front door, don't ask him in to unload etc, pretend to be on phone and keep his visit as short as possible. I wouldn't report over this though-yet.

JustSpeakSense · 08/03/2017 14:50

I wouldn't get him in trouble with work (because I think you somewhat encouraged it in the beginning)

But, I'd be changing supermarkets and blocking him on FB.

ThomasHardyPerennial · 08/03/2017 14:50

If he says something you don't like just respond with "that isn't appropriate". Put your grown-up pants on!

Coralfish · 08/03/2017 14:52

I think not accepting his FB request is a good enough sign! If he mentions it next time you see him you have the perfect opportunity to say you thought it was a bit inappropriate and then the message will have been communicated loud and clear!

knackeredinyorkshire · 08/03/2017 14:55

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FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 08/03/2017 14:56

If you're shy, surely Facebook offers the perfect opportunity to send him a message saying he's being inappropriate. Just that, then block and decline his friend request.

The ball is in his court then to rearrange his route which I am sure he will want to.

I don't think you should report to the shop. It sounds like you've enjoyed the flirting up to a point - now that point has passed, he's thinking you're interested; you're thinking it's too much.

Completely disagree with bringing your husband overhearing into it - that insinuates that you are still happy with it and happy to sneak around. Gives completely the opposite message than you want.

NewPuppyMum · 08/03/2017 15:00

OP, stop being silly. You aren't shy. You're just shitting yourself now he's responded to your apparent interest. Using company details to FB message you is what he's done wrong. If you feel the need to complain, complain about that.

Justwantcookies · 08/03/2017 15:04

I can see why thats getting a bit uncomfortable now! he is being inappropriate for sure. Perhaps he is hoping you are a really bored housewife and would be up for some fun Wink you said he is young so thats probably it. I'm not excusing him, but you can't blame a young lad for trying. The FB request is a bit Shock though.

Can you change the time you usually get the delivery, so its likely to be a different person? I expect they have the same shift pattern, so try an evening slot if its normally morning. Failing that, I'd probably change supermarkets!

Or just tell him straight. Pluck up the courage and say, look thanks for the FB request but I can't accept that. I am in a very happy marriage. or something like that, someone else might have a better way of saying that!

Umm good luck.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 08/03/2017 15:06

I would arrange the next few deliveries for a time & day when DP will be home.

Chances are it won't be the same man anyway if you change your usual delivery slot.

I would probably be starting to feel a but uncomfortable now too in your situation, and I do think the FB message was a step too far. Not very professional. I wouldn't want to get the man into trouble though, so would probably just go with changing my delivery!