My mum is pressuring my nan to sell her house and move in with her. She's been pushing the issue for a few years now and my nan always says yeh maybe, just to appease her. But she really doesn't want to move. We have spoken about it many times and she always says she likes her independence and her home is the only place she feels close to her late husband.
Basically last week my nan hadn't been well. Just bad tummy reaction to some medication she's on and was feeling quite down. My mum kept asking her to move in and she sounded like she was considering it. Then bam, next day my mum has had a quote for a builder for £21,000 to build an annexe in the garden for her to live in and has organised an estate agent to value nans house. She's expecting my nan to sell her house and fork out the money to build the thing.
But the thing is, mum took in her MIL before she died and absolutely rinsed her dry. Made her pay rent and bills, food, got a new car out of her and tumble dryer. Since her MIL died she's spent all the inheritance (it was a lot of money! Im talking several hundred grand) and looks like she's trying to get everything she can out of her own mum now. I never said anything when my other nan was alive and it still grates on me. I don't want the same to happen to this one. So I phoned her this morning to see how she was and mentioned what my mum had said. Just as I thought, she still doesn't want to move and is so stressed out about my mum that she's not been sleeping. She doesn't know how to get out of it and mum is coming to visit her at the weekend to get the house on the market!!
I don't want this to cause a rift between me and my mum but I can't sit back and let her take advantage. Aibu to get involved? If she really wanted to move I would support her either way but she doesn't want to give up her home and my mum and nan arnt even close. I keep in touch with her more than my mum does. I just don't think her intentions are genuine. Argh. I think I might have to confront my mum on this one.
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nicetoseeyoutoseeyounice · 06/03/2017 20:26
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