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Leaving the kids there

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cheeeeselover · 05/03/2017 16:39

More of a WWYD I suppose. I have a weekend booked at centerparcs for me and the kids it's for a Friday to Monday. Kids are 14,13 and 11.

I have the Friday and Monday booked off work but have been asked to attend a meeting on Sunday evening. I work about 45 minutes from centerparcs so easy to nip back for the meeting.

Would it unreasonable to leave the kids at centerparcs instead of dragging then with me? They are all good swimmers and very responsible and when we are there they always set off swimming earlier than me and I join them later on. I'd be away from about 5pm to 8.30pm . I would leave them the villa key and money to get themselves a pizza and they can leave the pool when they are ready and go back to the villa. I'm sure they would prefer this than being dragged from their holiday to sit outside a meeting.

They have been left at home for this length of time before and no problems. My only concern is that I'll be 45 minutes away and not sure if I'd even be allowed to leave them there if I had left the holiday village.

What would you do?

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cheeeeselover · 06/03/2017 21:35

Mycateantstokillme1

No, of course not. But I feel that way about myself. I want to better our lives for my children. Sounds like a cliche but it's true. I'm not judging anyone else, just me.

I can't actually see us ever owning a home but that doesn't mean I'm going to stop aiming for it.

I was silly for posting here.

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AnyFucker · 06/03/2017 21:35

Good God, how can you manage to stay upright with that massive chip on your shoulder? Nobody has said anything of the sort about your parenting.

In your taking offence you have managed to be more offensive than the accusations you feel have been levelled at you.

And no, I don't believe a large profit making organisation like CP who have a reputation to uphold would agree to an adult leaving the site with dependent children left unsupervised

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cheeeeselover · 06/03/2017 21:39

I'm sorry if I offended anyone.

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mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 21:44

please don't feel that way about yourself. The way you've described your kids on here shows what a great mum you already are. Of course you want what's best for them, but you've done a fine job so far without having loads of money or as much material things as others may have. Keep on doing what you're doing and they will carry on being just fine. I have rtft and don't remember anyone blasting you, apologies if I missed anyone doing so. Just be careful OP that's all, the last thing you need is it being in the T&C's that you have to be there and them finding out you're off for a few hours. It sounds like they will be fine if you do, but just don't do anything that could bite you on the arse if CP find out.

And try and have a good time. You need a break to recharge your batteries. I know how hard being a LP is, DS's son did a bunk when I was pregnant and has never been around so I know how hard it can be. I only have one son but he is SEN, aspergers and other health problems. It's hard work, but so long as they know we love us and are there to guide us we're doing OK, and it sounds as if you are Flowers

mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 21:45

oops we love them that was meant to say!

AnyFucker · 06/03/2017 21:45

You don't sound ok, love. You need a proper break with your kids. This shouldn't even be an issue and you know it. That is really all anyone is saying, honest Flowers

Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 21:48

Use a babysitting service.

NavyandWhite · 06/03/2017 21:49

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Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 21:49

You are not silly. You are being a good mother. Your kids will gain from your good example.

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cheeeeselover · 06/03/2017 21:50

Thankyou Flowers

I'm perhaps a wee bit emotional atm. I'll pull myself together in a few hours.

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Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 21:52

My cat wantsto kill me. Back off.
Kids do notice if parents never work. Our society is brimming with people who are lazy. Not I'll or disabled or raising kids alone. I mean bone idle we all know someone like that.

celtiethree · 06/03/2017 21:52

OP go with your original plan. Don't cut and paste anything someone is bound to send it to CP for further clarification. Hope the meeting goes well!

Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 21:53

You are doing nothing wrong.

Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 21:57

Ignore any trolls. Stop beating yourself up. I am a working mum. Three of my four kids have gone to university. All of them working. Well adjusted and happy.

AnyFucker · 06/03/2017 22:00

There are no trolls on this thread.

AgitatedGuava · 06/03/2017 22:02

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38cody · 06/03/2017 22:03

I think i would do it but i'd make them stay in the villa - get some popcorn or another treat and a movie and make them promise to stay in - and also to make sure your and their phones are charged and on!

mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 22:09

Jeanne51 back off how? I'm not slating anyone, working mums or stay at home mums. I'm saying both should be recognised. I haven't been able to return to ft employment because of my son's SEN so I work part time. Unpaid carers save the government billions a year and it's the work we do bringing up kids that should be recognised. Not quite sure why that's so offensive to you, if you think that's trolling then we have very different meanings of the word.

OP enjoy your break.

mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 22:10

Thanks Agitated Smile

mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 22:15

Oh and Jeanne51 your comment 'our society is brimming with people that are lazy' is a fucking insult to those people who have been laid off and can't get work. Perhaps you should watch I, Daniel Blake and get a reality check. Or Cathy Come Home, just as relevant now as it was in the 60's.

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cheeeeselover · 06/03/2017 22:20

Sorry,I did go a bit ott there earlier. I received news my aunt who has been ill , so not unexpected, had died and then found my car had been stolen when I attempted to drive to my mothers. My car which is seriously not worth stealing as it's pretty old and worthless but it means the hassle of getting insurance payment and finding anew car and I liked my car because it was old but reliable. My aunt was expected , bless her soul, in all honesty but still it's emotional when it actually happens.

So I do apologise for my rant. It was unnecessary and uncalled for. I'm rather embarrassedBlush

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mycatwantstokillme1 · 06/03/2017 22:24

Don't be embarassed . We all have those days! And your aunt dying and your car being stolen on the same day are shit - sorry to hear.

Night all Smile

AnyFucker · 06/03/2017 22:26

Bad day ! Wine

NavyandWhite · 06/03/2017 22:28

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Jeanne51 · 06/03/2017 22:48

Hi. If you read what I said I mean the people who do not wish to work due to being bone idle. Nothing to do with being laid off.
Plus Cathy come home was in the 60s and was more judgemental than related to today's problems. It is statistical correct about children learning behaviour from parents re work ethic or studying or just trying to be a decent person. That said I have met people who have never worked, or wish to work who receive the paltry benefits but who tax payers pay for. And I am sick of it so I say if you cannot beat them learn from them. So I think I will claim all benefits as possible and fuck it x

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