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Woman threw water at me

396 replies

ijustheartdietcoke · 04/03/2017 21:45

I was cycling and came to some trafficlights. A woman was looking at her phone so I banged on her window and shouted get off your phone. She tried to throw water at me and drove off, would police be interested?

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whatsthecomingoverthehill · 07/03/2017 11:39

No there isn't WHaT. It's a recommendation, just as it is recommended to wear a helmet (the highway code says 'should' not 'must' like it does for lights).

I wear hivis and a helmet, not because I think I should necessarily, but more that I don't want to give a driver any excuse if they do go into me.

STFU · 07/03/2017 12:06

You're lucky she didn't get out and punch you.

Is that what you would have done?

MrsTrentReznor · 07/03/2017 12:21

Is that what you would have done?

Grin No.

I don't unlock my car or wind down my windows because my drive to work involves driving through the sort of areas where you would get punched.
There's some utter nutters out there. I don't engage.
I've seen quite a few screaming matches at traffic lights thanks.
I maneuver round, pootle off home and ignore pretty much everyone else.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 07/03/2017 12:30

The AMOUNT of cyclists who've illegally UNDERTOOK me, makes my blood boil!

How slow are you driving for a cyclist to undertake you Confused

Cycling as a form of transport is fine; racing and rallies on country lanes should be banned.

100% agree. We used to live on a route popular with cyclists who'd unofficially road race, they were extremely inconsiderate and dangerous and would make up their own rules using pavements etc and riding 4 abreast on narrow lanes (sorry but there's just no need to ever do that).

Cyclists who are not racing however and just going from A to B, I can't say I've had a problem with any, ever. Except when I saw one pull out right in front of a female driver without looking, then when she beeped he swore and screamed at her then started banging on her window....however he was just a twat who happened to be a cyclist! It was so bad DH stepped pulled over and told him to pack in and leave her alone.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 07/03/2017 12:31

They even knock on our door for water, lavatory, directions and to use the telephone as they are rather surprised to find they lack any mobile reception.

Yes we used to get this where we lived. I always said no though as it was always men and I was on maternity leave so home alone.

STFU · 07/03/2017 13:01

So why did you say that? Are car drivers likely to be violent? The last time someone tried to punch me when I rode a (motor) bike got thumped much harder. I then called the police and waited whilst they got in their car and sped away.

@aDifferentOP

The AMOUNT of cyclists who've illegally UNDERTOOK me, makes my blood boil!

I suggest you give this a read, as well as acknowledging that driving when angry makes you many, many more times more likely to have an accident.

www.solent-advanced-motorcyclists.co.uk/riding-tips-mainmenu-46/157-riding-tips-filtering.html

MrsTrentReznor · 07/03/2017 13:38

Hmm.
No. I won't engage.
Grin

MadMags · 07/03/2017 13:51

I might not punch someone...but if my car door opened on her, we'll, accidents happen! Grin

unicornsIlovethem · 07/03/2017 14:05

Dooring cyclists is also illegal and can amount to gbh which can carry very substantial prison sentences. Even longer than killing someone by driving without due care and attention because liking a cat meme on facebook is more important than actually paying attention while you drive.

Next time op, take a photo of her on the phone and the registration number and send that off to the police. A number of police forces are actively requesting this sort of information and are following it up, and that will be far more effective than you telling her off.

NavyandWhite · 07/03/2017 14:11

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STFU · 07/03/2017 14:18

@MadMags

Ah, violent and cowardly. Just like the man I legally floored.

Opening a door is a specifically defined illegal act.

Rule 239 of the Highway Code states that motorists “MUST ensure you do not hit anyone when you open your door. Check for Cyclists or other traffic.” The Highway Code serves as guidance only, and non compliance with a rule of the Highway Code is not an offence. However, s.42 of the Road Traffic Act 1988 makes it an offence to open “any door of a vehicle on a road so as to injure or endanger any person.”

Are you saying that you would deliberately risk someone's life or are you just being a bit gobby, safe with the anonymity of the internet.

@NavyandWhite

didn't factor in some twat in the third lane running a red!

How does that make it their fault? Did I miss-understand the situation?

NavyandWhite · 07/03/2017 14:21

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MadMags · 07/03/2017 14:39

Just for you, STFU

Woman threw water at me
STFU · 07/03/2017 14:44

And nothing suggests failed humour like linking to a definition of a joke.

I bet you're fucking brilliant at a dinner party.

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 07/03/2017 14:51

Yep, if people on bikes are stupid they are mostly putting themselves at risk. The driver in that situation walks away, albeit with the guilt (perhaps) of hurting themselves.

And yes dooring someone is really dangerous. But you can get away with an £80 fine if you do happen to kill someone. If you want to get away with murder in this country the best way is to drive over them. Just claim the sun dazzled you.

MadMags · 07/03/2017 14:51

Calm down, dearie.

Met a couple of car doors in your day, have you?

STFU · 07/03/2017 14:55

Met a couple of car doors in your day, have you?

No, but several cunts. As I said, the last one got thumped and then a visit from the police the following day.

Have a lovely day.

MadMags · 07/03/2017 15:00

You're well 'ard, you are. Bet your mother is so proud!

MrsTrentReznor · 07/03/2017 15:48

Presumably to take their statement for the assault they endured... Grin
You really are no better than they are.

Do. Not. Engage.

unicornsIlovethem · 07/03/2017 16:51

I've said it before on these threads - roll on autonomous cars and make person driven cars uninsurable.

Bodicea · 07/03/2017 16:58

I don't get how looking at a phone while stationary at lights is now illegal.
Yet it's still legal to light and smoke a cigarette whilst driving!!! Surely that is more dangerous. What if you drop it in your lap?!?

Toocleverformyowngood · 07/03/2017 17:49

You can smoke whilst driving however you aren't allowed to actually light up whilst driving

Toocleverformyowngood · 07/03/2017 17:50

Il second what you said about dropping it in your lap, only because when I used to smoke I lit up, the fag got stuck to my lip, burnt my finger, dropped the fag in my lap & ignored the fact I was driving towards someone else's car!

Just wanted to get the fag out so it didn't burn me!!

Don't smoke anymore.

SoulAccount · 07/03/2017 18:51

Seamstress: how far exactly, into a hazard, does a STATIONARY car travel? All the idiots, as you do rudely call posters, are pointing out that the driver in question was NOT MOVING. There is a big difference between the chance of crashing into someone while driving at 30mph, and the chance of hitting someone while stationary at 0mph.

You must know this. Surely you have watched Top Gear, or something?

No one has said it is ok to look at your phone while moving.

Megatherium · 07/03/2017 19:42

I think the reality is that we have to have a blanket rule about not using phones in any way whilst driving, even if stationary in traffic jams, because anything else would be unworkable.

It can produce some odd results, though. As mentioned upthread, I was once told off by a policeman for, as he thought, using my phone when stuck at a traffic light, when what he saw was me reaching out to turn off my satnav and putting it on the passenger seat. Before he realised his error, he solemnly told me that just switching off my phone at a traffic light was potentially dangerous. Once he realised, he was very apologetic, and suddenly what I had done wasn't dangerous at all. I wasn't going to get into a debate with him, but I did wonder why, if it wasn't dangerous to switch off my satnav, it was dangerous to switch off a phone.