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Weird text. Does she know it's her I like? [blush]

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 12:58

I very recently came out as lesbian. I've dated several men in my life but nothing has come of it so it's been so freeing to finally be out and proud! :-D

I really like one of my best female friends. I've always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual so I've just left it.

I have a few drinks and just started telling her about how there's a woman I do like but she's straight so not interested. Caught myself saying too much and swifty changed the subject.

My friend text me today asking if I was going to tell the female friend I liked that I liked her.

I was mortified that she had remembered but I just replied saying 'oh I was just a bit tipsy last night. It's not big deal. I've already forgotten about it. Looking forward to tonight'.

She replied asking why I wasn't going to tell her how I felt.

Annoyed that she had brought the conversation back I said that the woman is not lesbian, does not feel the same, there's no point carrying this on'.

She replied saying I do not know she isn't lesbian and why don't I just tell her.

I then got annoyed and said I do not want to tell her, so please just leave it. I know she isn't lesbian.

Then she replied saying:

' Ah fair enough but you don't know that do you. Right now she's bored. Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets. Right now she's drinking coffee. Right now she's eating a salad. Right now she's contemplating getting some water from the dispenser. But she's certainly not straight' See you at 6pm.'

HUH? I've not replied. Mumsnet users please help me. What does that even mean?! She couldn't possibly know it's her. Does she think it' someone she works with? I don't even know any of them.

OP posts:
MissTakesOurMaid · 04/03/2017 15:34

Jealous - this sounds lovely. Go for it, OP!

TheGrumpySquirrel · 04/03/2017 15:35

Blatant placemark! Have a great time OP Grin GOOD LUCK!!!!

InfinityPlusOne · 04/03/2017 15:35

If you are really worried about saying anything to her I'd say this - wait and see if the subject comes up again or find a way to bring it up and say something along the lines of 'I'm just not comfortable saying something to her. I don't know how she would react. I mean, how would you feel if your close friend announced something like that to you out of the blue?'

How she reacts to that should tell you all you need to know without backing you into a corner you can't get out of.

Patsy99 · 04/03/2017 15:41

This is exciting! Best of luck. No more than one dutch courage Wine

Bearsinmotion · 04/03/2017 15:43
LlamaDrama · 04/03/2017 15:44

It reminded me of that line which I'll paraphrase, from 4 weddings:

I'm just a girl, standing in front of another girl...asking her to love me.

Err - isn't that Notting Hill ?! Grin

Have a fab evening OP

CaptainCanary · 04/03/2017 15:45

Good luck OP! Placemarking too because I really think she does like you and want to hear how tonight goes!

thesunwillout · 04/03/2017 15:47

I'll be back

Patsy99 · 04/03/2017 15:49

Ha - just got ElleDouble's "cut your nails" reference Grin

WhereTheFuckIsWonderWoman · 04/03/2017 15:56

Shit this is so much more exciting thatn anything in my life right now Grin

OP she's definitely interested. What's the event tonight. Just the two of you?

ThatIsNachoCheese · 04/03/2017 15:58

Oh she totally knows it's her you like, and she wants you to say it!
Lots of luck for tonight, can't wait to hear how it goes Smile

DoNotBlameMeIVotedRemain · 04/03/2017 16:00

What are you wearing tonight? I'd bet my shirt she's interested. Good luck!

TheImprobableGirl · 04/03/2017 16:02

Good luck smarties
Better to always try and fall on your arse than to not try at all!

SuburbanCrofter · 04/03/2017 16:06

What does that even mean?!

It means yooouuu are getting lucky toooomight!!

Does 'you go girl' dance.
Plonks bum down on floor to placemark

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/03/2017 16:08

Have fun tonight Smile

Imnotaslimjim · 04/03/2017 16:09

ooooh sounds like someone is getting lucky tonight!

BoffinMum · 04/03/2017 16:09

Can I just add my gaydar are rubbish and even I can see this is about as obvious a hint as it gets. Grin

I would be so scared to come out and do all this (although I am not actually gay, but you know what I mean). OP, I think you are so amazingly brave.

backtoworkmum33 · 04/03/2017 16:10

Ohh! Have a good night and let us know how it goes!

BoffinMum · 04/03/2017 16:13

It is quite exciting this, isn't it?

booox · 04/03/2017 16:14

Awwwww!

Placemarking

trulybadlydeeply · 04/03/2017 16:15

Have fun OP! I think she's definitely signalling her interest, and her availability, however go along for a nice evening, see how it pans out, and if she doesn't seem interested when you're face to face you can revert back to the pretence that you were talking about someone completely different. I really don't feel like you will need to though.

And thank you OP, I thought that I would have nothing interesting to look forward to on a Saturday evening, as Taboo has finished, but I do now!

Sleeplessinmybedroom · 04/03/2017 16:15

Good luck for tonight.

ShaniaTwang · 04/03/2017 16:17

It really is! You go for it op! Wine

PineappleExpress · 04/03/2017 16:19

Your innocence about this is so freaking adorable!! Grin

I'm so excited for you! Good luck tonight Wink

mortificado · 04/03/2017 16:21

Good luck!

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