DP searching his ex on fb

[Mammamia2016]

Can I be angry ?

Not the first time either.

My dh did this and it upset me too.

Depends how things were left when they broke up. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer sort of thing. Do they have kids? Is he checking up on his kids?

Oh come on, don't we all have a little Facebook stalk?

As a sole single event, I wouldn't even consider this, especially as my own browsing history proves I'm a nosy bint.

In conjunction with other behaviour, it may be part of a problem, but yikes, if searching an ex is a crime...

I adore my partner and have no interest in going back to my ex but it was a fairly amicable split and sometimes I creep out of curiosity/boredom. Also other people from my past, didn't mean anything by it

This is standard. It's far more likely to be nosiness rather than him still pining for her.

Have you never had a look for someone from your past?

Uhm I was nosy on my ex a few weeks ago and did a search! I also told my other half that my ex and his current girlfriend have matching glasses .

Honestly, it's fine, it's just a nosy thing.

Oh gosh I do that occasionally, is it bad?

DH is FB friends with his so he can hardly say anything.

you sound incredibly insecure. It's not unusual. I do it sometimes and it means nothing. I am just a nosy cow.

I do this! Been married 25 years. Just wonder occasionally what happened to people I used to care about.

Just curiosity OP. Have you never looked up an ex?

Hmm

it's always when we're having a bad time, she cheated on him and got rid of him. None of it was on his terms from what I've gathered

I haven't since I've been with him and had his baby no, couldn't care less what my ex's are doing to be brutally honest

I'm Facebook friends with a couple of mine!

If he just did it once or twice I wouldn't see the big deal, in bored moments I have a nosey at all kind of people (old boyfriends from when I was 15, primary school best friend etc.) definitely doesn't mean they're on my mind the rest of the time. If it's a persistent thing and you have other causes for concern YANBU.

I am more cutious about how you know he is searching for her. Are you checking his Facebook. Because thats a much worse crime than his.

Meh, I FB stalk mine a fair bit, I'm just nosy and do the same with other people from my past. It doesn't mean anything more than that.

How do you know?

Ooh I always Facebook search my ex. Just cos I'm a nosy cow and am hoping he's failing at life nothing more. If threre are no strange behaviours going with it, I wouldn't worry

I don't have fb. He knows I use his on the odd occasion just to keep up to date with a friend. He's fine with that, but clearly doesn't know the search history sticks.

I'm Facebook friends with a couple of mine

So do I.

How do you kno he's repeatedly searching for her?

But why are you looking at his history though? Maybe you should get your own.

Hands up, I do it too. Happily married but again just curious

I was about to ask how do you know he's doing it?

To me, this is absolutely a non-event and I really don't know why it would bother anyone if that's all it is. If he's messaging an ex and crossing the line with the nature of the conversation then I would have a problem with that, but searching for an ex is meaningless.

Are you insecure in your relationship? I'm not trying to sound snarky by the way, I just can't see why this would bother someone unless they have some concerns about the relationship in general.

Or maybe he does know but doesn't see it as being a big deal?

I stalk mine, I just like to know what he's up to! His wife has just had a baby and i like to see him happy.
DH is still Facebook friends with his long term ex so no stalking needed. It's not a problem for me.