Am I always the troublemaker?

[troubleunderscoremaker]

Ok, so I am ready for people to throw tomatoes at me. I will be completely honest as you are complete strangers.

So here it goes: sigh.

I am 27, and I can't hold a job down. I've only got female bosses who seem to hate me all the time. I quite had nice coworkers though not of all the time. I had decent relationships with them. I work in customer services and while I do agree the pitch of my voice can be a bit loud and firm I am doing my best to serve my customers.

I am at the fourth job now, and after 4 months things don't seem any better. My director hates me, she calls me into her office every day, she blames me a lot and I really don't know what to do. The worst part is that I'm part time (4 hrs/day) and she makes everything possible for me to stay extra at least another 2 hrs (unpaid, of course), which I cannot really do as I have other commitments (hence looking for part time work).

WWYD? I can't keep job hopping anymore but also I can never seem to be able to shut up because my sense of justice is too damn high. I will have to admit I had issues in the past with customer as I lost my patience and dropped a few harsh words, but definitely not offending.

I sometimes think I am the only damn person in this world who can't hold a job down. Am I a miserable person? :(

Thank you!

So on your other thread you say you work 12 hour days

@MichaelSheensNextDW yes that's right, nc for that.
Will be 12 hours. Leaving home at 7 coming back at over 7. Nothing is wrong here.

"I've checked my contract, it says nothing about working elsewhere so I won't be able to"

Send it by email...

She told me I should go in her office when I finish to "discuss" procedures and products. So let's say I finish at 1. I call her on internal phone and say "can i come upstairs?" She says "no, busy now, I ll phone back when done" and she calls at 2.30........

See, if this happened to me, I'd just reply, 'Oh sorry, we'll have to do it tomorrow then because as you know I finish at 1pm and need to go pick up my DS' (or whatever). Then I'd leave. I've had to do this at my job many times because I do 7.30-4 and don't work on Fridays, and I've been at the same firm for nearly 7 years now so it obviously hasn't done me any harm.

@StarlingMurderation Have talked with my friend who's a solicitor. They indeed can send you to work in a different place though not stated in the contract, HOWEVER they can't change the type of work (part time v full time).

Oh jeez.. they'll ask me to sign something tomorrow that I agree, won't they?

Tell them they need to organize and pay for a taxi to take you there and bring you back, 4 hours later.

@LeninaCrowne tehnically they pay for transport, no problem at all with that, I drive and I have my own car

I think I'll actually have a word tomorrow with her and tell her I'm fine with it, but I can only do 4 hours. Which means I'll leave at 7 in the morning, I'll work 9-1 and be home just over 2. I'm pretty sure she'll start yelling😃 any advice for that lol?

Thanks!

I would say, leave at 8:30 (the time I leave home normally), get there 10.30, work till 11.30, then drive home. So I work 4 hours, as per contract, 3 of the, taken up as additional driving time.

Excuse me, "Bosswhothinksthey'reGod" I'm not the most effective person to send, as I could only stay work at that site 100 miles away for 1 hour per day, as 3 hours would be taken up as additional travel time.

Which means I'll leave at 7 in the morning, I'll work 9-1 and be home just over 2.

That is 7 hours!

Tell her you will be traveling in work time, and claim for childcare costs on expenses; she's being utterly unreasonable to put it mildly.

@LeninaCrowne your comment made me
Smile!! :) thank you!

@P1nkP0ppy that's fab! I m actually paying for childcare a shitload, as my folks live in Spain and my exdh moved in Austria with his beloved new wife :)

@ChuckDaffodils I know, but way better than 12...

You need to be more assertive with your manager.

If that fails then tell her to shove her job

I think you need to talk to ACAS.
The Acas helpline number is 0300 123 1100. It is available Monday 8am-8pm, Tuesday 8am-6pm, Wednesday to Thursday 8am-8pm, Friday 8am-6pm and Saturday 9am-1pm.

www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=2042

Just say no to signing anything and working at a different site.

I second a previous poster's suggestion to try temping work. Then you can see different styles and workplaces and find something more suited to your personality. You don't need to stick out this job just because you have had lots of jobs before, that's crazy talk.

Funny enough many years ago I once contacted ACAS on a similar matter. My employers proposed moving my department 19 miles away to another site, were offered to pay my colleagues the extra mileage for a year, but declined to pay me as I had been there less than a year*. Turns out 20 miles is the magic distance. ( I did get some money in the end though).

To be honest, if you have been there less than 5 years (for part-time) a bad employer may try and pull this kind of shit on you. I know you don't want to move jobs, but what's the harm in looking for other opportunities?

Were offering.