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AIBU?

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Annoyed - drinks at work

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ChanningsPony · 01/03/2017 15:56

So, I've been in my new job for a few months now and we all share making teas and coffees.

I like doing it sometimes, chance to walk about and get away from the screen. I'll do it once a day or so for 5/6 people and we take it in turns with no issue.

I like sugar in my drink. Another team member feels like I shouldn't have sugar and will not put it in. Just one sugar, that's all I have.
Surely, it's up to me if I would like sugar or not and not for them to dictate?

AIBU to put milk in their black coffee everyday?

OP posts:

Jaysis · 02/03/2017 13:24

Sugartits

kimann · 02/03/2017 13:48

i used to get this - a colleague used to give me half instead of the 3 i asked for, then when i decided i would make it myself, she would comment how i 'would regret it one day when i woke up and became fat with all the sugar i consumed'. People can be so strange sometimes! Imagine what she would have said if i told her i used to have 7 sugars in my tea!

BeALert · 02/03/2017 14:02

VeryBitchyRestingFace My mother does this too

DoomGloomAndKaboom · 02/03/2017 14:15

I agree, put milk and sugar in the bitter bastard's coffee.

And by "coffee" I mean "Bisto."

user1485984489 · 02/03/2017 14:31

Next time he makes a comment about you not 'being allowed' sugar, just say in a very loud voice (while sounding hurt) 'OMG, are you calling me fat? That's SO RUDE!'

What a pompous tit!

FurryLittleTwerp · 02/03/2017 14:41

Pathetic to try control other people's choices.

Definitely put sugar in their drink - either lots, so it's horrible for them, or perhaps just a tiny amount so they're not sure but you know it's in there

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 02/03/2017 14:50

I'm another one who would put a sugar in their drink. When he complains just smile sweetly and say "well, that's how I like my drinks, and you seem to think you can give me drinks as you like them so fair's fair."

Hissy · 02/03/2017 16:21

He makes your coffee missing one component of it.

Make his black coffee with no sugar with one component missing.

Yes... give him a cup of boiled water.

When he says "oy, you forgot the coffee" or "where's the coffee?"

Reply "when you put the sugar in. Y coffee, I'll add coffee to the boiling water" and "see, 2 can play at being a twat..."

Shallishanti · 02/03/2017 16:37

very odd behaviour but I would try what PP suggested, just be straightforward and ask WHY- if you keep asking why they will eventually sound stupid
OP- tea with 1 sugar please
colleague- you'll be lucky
OP-why? what do you mean?
colleague-I'm not giving you any sugar
OP-why?
colleague-it's bad for you
OP-why is that your business?
colleague-well, I don't want you to get fat/have bad teeth etc
OP-why? why is that your business?
colleague-er, er...

TransvisionTramp · 02/03/2017 20:50

Any drinks made today OP?

Original poster

ChanningsPony · 02/03/2017 20:58

No, no drinks today, sorry to disappoint 😬

Thanks for all the brilliant tips though, food for thought indeed.

I wish I could be more specific but fear it'd out me.

I do have a mug for them though, it was a leaving gift from my previous work. Read into it what you will

OP posts:

thegoodnameshadgone · 02/03/2017 21:02

I like be the above post so much I could use that in work forever xxxx

thegoodnameshadgone · 02/03/2017 21:03

I love it 😍

Oblomov17 · 02/03/2017 21:08

I can't believe this. They don't put sugar in your drink? Staggeringly rude.

TransvisionTramp · 02/03/2017 21:36

Best. Mug. Ever.

Littledrummergirl · 02/03/2017 21:58

They give you your drink, you take a sip and say very loudly "oi, you forgot my sugar" and hand it back to them with a big smile on your face. Every time.

Doilooklikeatourist · 02/03/2017 22:02

I'd just not put coffee in his coffee
Just serve hot water and milk

cantmakeme · 02/03/2017 22:06

I had an ex who did the same thing. He said that "the fat women" at work had sugar in their tea, and he didn't want me to become like them! I hasten to add that this was over a decade ago, and I always went and added sugar anyway. What a knob.

pictish · 02/03/2017 22:09

Fill hates the fact that we both take sugar in coffee. I take one, dh takes two. The tea and coffee things come set out on a special tray and there's never any sugar on it. Invariably dh has to ask for some and there follows a lot of humphing and fussing as fil makes big show of trying to find it. His wife once archly told us, "We don't know anyone who takes sugar in their tea." Dh looked at his dad baffled and said, "Hi I'm (dh name), I'm your son."

Anyway yes...being controlly over other people's drinks is a twat move. They deserve derision. I'd put milk in his coffee.

BadLad · 02/03/2017 22:37

Why not just make your own? That way you can drink it how you like, when you like and have a few more chances to get up and walk away from your screen, as well as not having to bother with some bellend's bafflingly pointless fuckfacedness.

pictish · 02/03/2017 22:47

Sounds good to me. Just make your own. You win!

SnazzyLapels · 03/03/2017 09:05

There are some odd people about aren't there!

If you put a bag on your desk he might actually remove it and pretend it was the cleaners etc. So I'd put sugar sachets in your bag and make a big point of putting the sugar in your tea every time. If anyone asks you why you put sachets in your bag you can explain that some people have stated a moral objection to putting sugar in your tea so you've solved the problem for them.

Noodoodle · 03/03/2017 10:56

Any tea today OP? We only have about 5 tea/coffee drinkers here and if someone gets it wrong they always offer to fix it straight away and so nicely. I can't imagine someone dictating how my tea is made! I think I'd just give it back to them and make a fresh one myself.

Soon2bmummyto2 · 05/03/2017 18:23

Omg can't believe there are people I make drinks at work on a Friday (work in a factory ) and I always put in each persons preference to sugar milk sweetener etc etc none of my business to not put their choices in I'd keep sugar sachets at your desk and when they bring coffee put it in in front of them 😂

Wickedstepmum67 · 05/03/2017 18:43

Ooh, this one takes me back! My ex bf's parents had quite strict ideas about health, one of which was no salt on food. Now I add salt to my food and whether or not it's healthy is, I feel, my business and my choice. But ex 'in-laws' used to play 'hide the salt' whenever I came for a meal. At first it would simply be that the salt pot mysteriously never made it to the table, but I could go fetch it from the kitchen. Eventually we got to lies about having any salt in the house and hiding the salt pot in odd places! They had similar rules around tea and coffee too. But yes, possibly 'insisting' your sugar dodging colleague tries some horrid concoction you bring to work on the basis black coffee is 'bad for her' might make your point. I seem to recollect there are some interestingly flavoured dandelion coffee substitutes available! 😆

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