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Original poster

Annoyed - drinks at work

123 replies

ChanningsPony · 01/03/2017 15:56

So, I've been in my new job for a few months now and we all share making teas and coffees.

I like doing it sometimes, chance to walk about and get away from the screen. I'll do it once a day or so for 5/6 people and we take it in turns with no issue.

I like sugar in my drink. Another team member feels like I shouldn't have sugar and will not put it in. Just one sugar, that's all I have.
Surely, it's up to me if I would like sugar or not and not for them to dictate?

AIBU to put milk in their black coffee everyday? Grin Grin

OP posts:
LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/03/2017 17:23

Make your own drinks and just say that you prefer to as you like it a certain way - that way there's no drama or hassle. But then I have worked in an office long enough not to trust people to make tea for me Grin

LateDad · 01/03/2017 17:31

Make a nice big Sugar Monitor badge and award it to the perpetrator - just like a badge in primary school ... "Hasn't s/he done well? Shall we all clap? Would you like to take your badge home to mummy and daddy? They'll be ever so proud."

If you can manage a Joyce Grenfell voice, then bonus points!

LateDad · 01/03/2017 17:32

... alternatively, try "Just put the sugar in, and group up, you infantile twat."

LateDad · 01/03/2017 17:32

grow, not group Blush

x2boys · 01/03/2017 17:36

i,m not all that keen on hot drinks full stop personally although i will occasionally have a tea strong with just a drop of milk no suger but when i worked and made everyone a drink i did try and make it how they liked it i was a bitShock when my fil asked for a tewa with ten sweetners [no wonder hes now Diabetic Hmm ] but i still made it.

x2boys · 01/03/2017 17:37

tea*

BerylStreep · 01/03/2017 17:38

It's passive aggressive and controlling.

I think I would have had to have asked what they meant by 'you'll be lucky'.

I would be inclined to make your own from now on. If they offer, just say 'no, I'd rather make my own, the way I like it.' Short and factual.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 01/03/2017 17:41

I mean piss off susan I want the cake!

Grin Grin

OP, this is ridiculous behaviour from your colleague. Call him out - ask what his issue is with your sugar intake. Fool.

TransvisionTramp · 01/03/2017 17:52

Oh please do what TheOnlyLivingBoy suggested and let us all know how you get on Grin

Original poster
ChanningsPony · 01/03/2017 18:24

Home now with a lovely tea just the way I like it Grin

I'm armed and ready for tomorrow- my get DD to make him a badge - arf.

It is controlling and ridiculous and, frankly, rude.

There is something about the sugar/class thing, not sure it's at play here but hilarious if it is Grin

OP posts:
LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/03/2017 18:32

He may be irritating but is humiliating him with a badge that your child made really a proportionate response?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/03/2017 18:34

Just don't make him a drink if you are doing a round and say no when he offers!

NiceCuppaTeaAndASitDown · 01/03/2017 19:06

YANBU.

I work with a woman who has four heaped sugars, a quarter of a spoon of coffee and half a mug of milk, all topped off with boiling water.

I find the thought of it absolutely disgusting but I still make it with a smile!

GruffaloPants · 01/03/2017 19:19

"is humiliating him with a badge that your child made really a proportionate response?"

Yes. Yes, it is.

OnTheUp13 · 01/03/2017 19:24

I'd get a mug with my name that also said COFFEE MILK 2x SUGAR

Moanyoldcow · 01/03/2017 19:29

Personally I'd leave them out of my round. If they mentioned it or asked I'd say 'as you can't or won't make my tea the way I like, I won't ask you to make me any more drinks. I think, therefore, it makes sense for me not to make you anymore drinks given the circumstances'.

This would make me seriously angry. It's a power game and I hate shit like that at work.

EatsLeavesAndShit · 01/03/2017 19:39

Please make their drink with sugar and milk tomorrow (every time) and then report back.

This would be a red line issue for me, I could never let it go and would fight them to the coffee soaked death with every bit of my petty heart.

Janey50 · 01/03/2017 19:58

And the food police strike yet again......Grin

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 01/03/2017 20:06

The irony of people who hate pettiness so they come up with even more petty ways of dealing with it Grin

NoSquirrels · 01/03/2017 20:12

I love all of these responses Grin

What I'd actually do though is wait for Sugartits to offer a brew, and then ask politely if they were intending to put sugar in "this time". And when they said no/you'll be lucky/it's bad for you or whatever, then I would sweetly decline but accompany them to the kitchen and make my own.

Ameliablue · 01/03/2017 20:13

I probably wouldn't put milk or sugar in theirs but I would make it really weak or really strong.

VonHerrBurton · 01/03/2017 20:23

Oh god there's someone v similar where I work. Only she keeps trying to 'catch us out' with bloody decaf everything and low cal sweetener, hot choc etc.

I don't take sugar or like hot chocolate but she's hell bent on getting someone to say 'oooh lovely cuppa x' so she can say 'aha!!!!! It's decaf! You said you didn't like decaf coffee'

Bore the fuck off love.

coconutpie · 01/03/2017 20:31

Shameless placemark for tomorrow.

I would also stop making this ignorant twat any drink from now on.

justilou · 02/03/2017 08:34

I'm also dying to hear how this plays out..... PLEEEEEASE put a mugful of sugar on Sugartit's desk instead of coffee....

RB68 · 02/03/2017 08:56

It is a form of bullying to single you out - no really it is.

Personally I would follow them into the tea room and make a point of putting it in and just make a comment about not seeing them single anyone else out and sugar or not is your choice and you have your reasons for it, so if they could stop trying to put you in the corner over it you would appreciate it.

Half the time people get arsey cos they have to pay for it and don't consume it - they will be leaving the milk out next ...