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Original poster

Driver caused me to emergency stop and just drove off!

319 replies

MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 13:31

Hi,
I've just returned from going out with my 20 month old daughter in the car. Whilst driving along a road, a learner driver pulled out in front of me, causing me to emergency stop, the driver just carried on and swiftly drove away. Am I being unreasonable to be shocked that the driving instructor in charge didn't get out to see if we were ok, or even awknowledge what had happened. We are ok and I have his reg no.
Thanks!

OP posts:
bimbobaggins · 28/02/2017 20:06

So you don't get the responses you like so you resort to calling posters, bitches,childish and bullies. The only thing that's laughable is your response
Hmm

NavyandWhite · 28/02/2017 20:09

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CharminglyGawky · 28/02/2017 20:13

To be honest if I'd had to emergency stop to avoid someone and then they got out the car to apologise I would be more annoyed, and would want them to get out of the way and stop holding me up!

As long as there was no contact between vehicles all that was needed was a sheepish wave from the person with the learner if not the driver themselves and everyone gets on with their day. What can you report them for? You aren't leaving the scene if no accident has occurred!

Original poster
MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 20:15

Bimbo-Not at all, if people had nothing constructive to say, why bother responding. What is the point?

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PurpleDaisies · 28/02/2017 20:17

mama I think it was constructive to say you were unreasonable to have expected the other driver to stop, even if it wasn't necessarily what you wanted to hear.

Original poster
MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 20:19

Charmingly-There were no cars around, so no one was being held up. Where did I say they were breaking the law? You do know if an emergency stop results in whiplash though and you drive away, you are breaking the law.

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Original poster
MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 20:20

Purple-A simple I think you were being unreasonable, would have sufficed. That's not what the majority of people said.

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gamerchick · 28/02/2017 20:21

OP if you got out of your car to check someones OK after they had to stop suddenly you may end up with a mouthful for blocking the road.

Don't be a doily, let.it.go.

Willow2016 · 28/02/2017 20:22

Oh please you didnt get the responses you wanted so we are all bitches and miserable old women!

You did get constructive advice -
You asked if you were BU - you were.
You stated that it was ilegal not to stop after causing an 'emergency stop' but this is not true, people pointed this our so now you know for the future.
Many people said they were sorry you had a fright (including me) but there was no harm done so nothing further to do about it. It will happen again and again over the course of your driving life.

All perfectly constructive advice.

BTW what were you going to do with the reg number if you werent hoping people would advise you to go to the police with it?

Verbena37 · 28/02/2017 20:22

Pretty sure an emergency stop properly executed shouldn't cause whiplash.
Where is this written down?

Original poster
MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 20:22

I am not asking everyone to agree with me, but the ganging up and the general childish posts were uncalled for.

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beebeecee · 28/02/2017 20:23

It was the self righteous tone in the PP that's got people's backs up.

That said there has been a fair bit of piling on.

YABU and YANBU

culprinol

beebeecee · 28/02/2017 20:24

*OP

BackforGood · 28/02/2017 20:24

The point is, you asked in AIBU and you started posting all sorts of made jp facts. What you suggested was ridiculous. So posters told you that.

If you wanted sympathy and a pat on the head, then post in chat and say you are a bit shaken up, should the instructor have done differently. However, you didn't. You chose to ask on the most robust board on the site if someone else should have done something ridiculously unnecessary and annoying. You therefore got blunt answers.

Original poster
MamaMoose1 · 28/02/2017 20:24

Gamer-If you had read my post, you would have seen i said we were the only ones of the road.

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PurpleDaisies · 28/02/2017 20:25

You were the only ones on the road at that moment. Who's to say another car wouldn't have arrived?

Redglitter · 28/02/2017 20:27

Where on earth do you get the idea that driving off after forcing someone to do an emergency stop is illegal Hmm

It's not the same as an accident. Loads of people are probably oblivious to the fact someone's been forced to do an emergency stop because of their driving

MsMarvel · 28/02/2017 20:30

'Where did I say they were breaking the law?'

When you said it was illegal to not stop after causing someone to do an emergency stop. Ilegal means against the law.

Willow2016 · 28/02/2017 20:30

Where did I say they were breaking the law?

Here
but it's still illegal to carry on, if the person carries out an emergency stop. I

TheFairyCaravan · 28/02/2017 20:32

You do know if an emergency stop results in whiplash though and you drive away, you are breaking the law.

How on this earth do you know that the person in the car behind you, who has just performed an emergency stop, has got whiplash from that manoeuvre?

ExplodedCloud · 28/02/2017 20:35

Most people who make you do emergency stops are plainly oblivious to your very existence. How would they know you had whiplash? I can't see how a sharp controlled stop from less than 30 has given you whiplash.

whirlygirly · 28/02/2017 20:41

I have something constructive to add. If you don't like erratic driving and emergency stopping, best to avoid Cornwall.

melj1213 · 28/02/2017 20:43

You do know if an emergency stop results in whiplash though and you drive away, you are breaking the law.

Under which law? Do you have evidence of this?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/02/2017 20:43

Where did I say they were breaking the law?

Where you said it was ilkegal to carry on.

You do know if an emergency stop results in whiplash though and you drive away, you are breaking the law

Can you please point to any law that says this.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 28/02/2017 20:44

*illegal

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