To not send in cooking ingredients to school tomorrow with DS2

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So DS2 has just announced he's cooking at school tomorrow. (He likes to spring these kind of surprises on me, in fact he's given me more notice than usual)
It's pea and ham risotto. I don't have the risotto rice, the bacon, the peas or the onion.
As a dutiful parent I'd normally whinge a bit, tell him off and send him to the shops for the ingredients.
However tomorrow I'm working until 9.15pm, so I've already prepared dinner. DH doesn't get home until late, DS1 will be looking after DS2&3 and serving up the meal to them. So the risotto thing will not get eaten, and also erm, the chances of it being edible anyway are minimal as his talents lie elsewhere
So AIBU to send a note with some sort of excuse?
I'm not normally a slack parent but I'm reluctant to part with money to pay for food that will go to waste.

Don't even send a note. He knew he needed so he can deal with it.

Well yes you are a little bit

He's not cooking for you, he's doing it as part of his lesson

However he should not spring this on you the afternoon before you are supposed to havethe ingredients

How old is he? Very unusual (in primary) to ask parents to send in cooking ingredients?! Unless he's in secondary and it's a food tech class, but even then I'd be surprised they ask parents to provide the stuff?

I'd just send it tbh -speaking as someone who currently has an inedible looking vegetable curry cluttering up the fridge

When did they ask HIM to bring in the ingredients? If not on Friday then YABU. It is part of the curriculum and you can afford it, I assume, or you would have said otherwise.

Could it not act as his lunch?

Otherwise I would say YANBU as he knew way in advance and I'm guessing old enough to bear the consequences.

Meant I'd send the ingredients rather than the note. Sorry that wasn't v clear was it?!

I wouldn't send him without - he is likely to get in trouble from the teacher. He should definitely go shopping for the stuff though!

Can the risotto not be frozen? Or kept in fridge for the next day? I have done this in the past and added a little extra liquid when warming to prevent it being dry.

Or can you freeze/save what you have prepared?

Pain but tbh I'd get him the stuff (but I'm soft with things like this)

Send him off to the shops pronto. Job done.

Yeah I'd be sending him off to the shops.

It may be inedible tomorrow, but he will learn from it and one day, it won't be.

Ah you're all much more sensible than me. He can't have it for lunch as he doesn't make it until last period. He's in year 9 (age 14). He's known for weeks, so yes it's his responsibility to tell me in good time!
Not keen on reheating something that has rice in it.

You can't stop him doing a lesson because it doesn't fit your plans

However, ywnbu to let him suffer the natural consequences of not telling you this as soon as he knew about it

Yep many fair points I hadn't thought about so he's heading down the shops to see what he can find. Maybe I'll eat it when I get in from work....

Well I totally get that it's annoying from your point of view, but what will the teacher do if everyone takes this view and doesn't send in the ingredients?

I hate waste too, but can't you look it at from the point of view of your son learning an important skill? Lots of resources (pens, paper, paint, clay) get wasted with people learning to paint and draw, surely cookery is the same?

He's 14, send him to the shop to get the ingredients.

I'd either send him in without the ingredients and let him explain to his teacher why he hasn't brought them or write a note in his planner explaining that you were told at the 11th hour so weren't prepared.

I've scraped many a cookery lesson into the bin because it was inedible - at 14 I would send him to the shop, yes

What's the problem with reheating rice? There are endless rice based microwave meals around.

So what will he do during the lesson if he has no stuff?

YABU. I am assuming if he's Yr 9/10 that he chose Food Tech this year so it's a bit shit not to provide the ingredients so he can participate in the lesson.

DS chose this last year in Yr 9 and as he has severe learning difficulties ( in MS school though) the finished product was pretty bad and no one wanted to try it even him! I quite often had to nip to Tesco at midnight or at 7am to get the ingredients which I knew were going to be wasted as he and I forgot ( 3 other DC) so I feel your pain on that. I was so relieved when he finished the year. He also got detention the one time we totally forgot the ingredients.

I would suck it up though as he chose to do it and send him out to get the ingredients. I would tell him to have it for lunch if lesson in morning or he can have it for his dinner.

Arancini on Tuesday is the answer.