To send a passive aggressive text?

[BrightonBelleCat]

My dp has had a shocking 2 weeks, issues at work, plus without being too revealing a nasty accident and has been feeling really down.

His best mate sent him a text earlier saying catch up later. Now it transpires his own db has arranged a night out with all their mates and not invited his own brother.

Dp is a bit miffed understandably. He could have really done with a night out. Obviously he is a grown man so can handle his own argument.

I'm so tempted to send a passive aggressive 'that's nice of you' type text. I am being completely unreasonable I know.

Stay out of it. Might be a simple error..not worth getting upset about.

Can you and dp go out instead

Perhaps they are assuming he is too unwell to go out? Maybe he can call his brother and say he feels like getting out of the house.

If anyone should it's your dh

Keep out of it.

Nope. It's tonight and we won't be able to get a babysitter at this short notice.

I think I would send a fairly straight forward texting saying that your DH was hurt not to be invited out, particularly as he has had s tough couple of weeks. I'd also ask if there was any particular reason he wasn't included in the arrangements.

If he had a nasty accident, is it possible his brother might think he's not up for a night on the town yet?

Ooh turns out he has just sent him a 'thanks for inviting me text' himself. I will await the response.

He is back on his feet now and to be honest could do with a drink and a night out to let his hair down a bit. Well as much as a 40 year old man can.

So tell him to go, if his best mate is there then there's no reason he can't invite himself is there? His mate clearly thought he was going anyway from the catch up later text.

It sounds like his injury has been exaggerated for sympathy but backfired.

Keep out of it.

How did it 'transpire'? Usually when men catch up with each other, it's a informal 'invite', more of a "we'll be in such & such pub, at x o'clock"".

Either you DH was overlooked because they didn't think he was up to it, or they felt that he'd bring the night down.

Either way, keep out of it.

I don't think passive aggressive texts are ever a good idea.

I've thought about it a number of times but thankfully always stopped myself in time!

Not a good idea to get involved, it's his issue with his relative, for him to manage.

SiL gets involved in BiL's issues like this, in a "BiL was hurt" passive/aggressive way: it annoys the whole family!

Oh dear no definitely stay well out of it.