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Not to tell DH how to cook the gyoza?

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KellyBoo800 · 24/02/2017 20:30

DH is cooking dinner (I cook most nights, chores are evenly split so it's not about pulling his weight or anything). We had some frozen gyoza in the freezer that he fancied.

He's just called me into the kitchen to ask me how to cook them. I told him to read the instructions on the packet, but he said they don't make sense. I have cooked them once before, a few weeks ago, and just followed the instructions. Apparently that means that I should know how to cook them now and tell him so he doesn't have to try to understand the instructions.

Problem is I don't remember exactly how to do them with the timings so he is literally expecting me to stand next to him and read him the instructions and tell him exactly what to do. Apparently I'm being difficult because I told him to figure it out.

I know it sounds petty but I just hate the expectation that even on my night off from cooking I need to stand there and help him do it. He is more than capable of following a set of instructions himself. For what it's worth they are as simple as "fry in a little bit of oil for this amount of time, then add whatever amount of water the instructions say, and then add a lid and let them steam for another period of time". I have been looking after my DSD since 3pm and my 10 month old niece all day, I just want to sit down with a glass of wine ffs!!

PS I realise this is a small problem and hasn't triggered an actual argument. It just bothered me because no one stands there and reads the instructions for me when I cook something new!

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blowmybarnacles · 24/02/2017 22:42

'learned helplessness' Angry

Oh yes, we have that here in spades. Its the case of 'you tell me the answer/what to do/where to find it' because my mind is too full of really importantly manly stuff I'm too fucking lazy

YANBU.

Laquila · 24/02/2017 22:51

AndImAnElf that reminds me of the time an ex-boss of mine phoned me from abroad, stone-cold serious, to ask me how to defrost soup in a microwave. After 5 minutes of me explaining he still hadn't got it, I had to pretend we'd been cut off so I could go and giggle uncontrollably. He was a very successful and minted entrepreneur bit that was the definition of learned helplessness (my new favourite term).

ProfessorFlead · 24/02/2017 22:53

Sapporo still going strong, bollocks. Grin

LostMyDotBrain · 24/02/2017 22:56

Hmm have you never wanted to chat to someone to clarify something that hasn't quite clicked? I wouldn't have thought twice about this. 30 seconds of reading and chat shouldn't be such a bone of contention.

donquixotedelamancha · 24/02/2017 23:06

"Oh and YANBU but is there a chance he'll do a shit job now and mess up your dinner?"

Assuming he's following Standard Operating Procedure, this is exactly what he should do next. Follow it up with some compliments about how much better OP is at cooking and how things just work better when she's doing it. Next time, same again, but 4-5 stupid questions and break a plate.

Do women think we do this stuff by chance? Many hours go in to training new lads up, swapping best practice and comparing who can get away with the most :-)

chicken2015 · 24/02/2017 23:25

Just wanted to add these are amazing!! I've found frying them for little longer then steaming makes them stay together more. Best thing about ocado !

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