Not to tell DH how to cook the gyoza?

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DH is cooking dinner (I cook most nights, chores are evenly split so it's not about pulling his weight or anything). We had some frozen gyoza in the freezer that he fancied.

He's just called me into the kitchen to ask me how to cook them. I told him to read the instructions on the packet, but he said they don't make sense. I have cooked them once before, a few weeks ago, and just followed the instructions. Apparently that means that I should know how to cook them now and tell him so he doesn't have to try to understand the instructions.

Problem is I don't remember exactly how to do them with the timings so he is literally expecting me to stand next to him and read him the instructions and tell him exactly what to do. Apparently I'm being difficult because I told him to figure it out.

I know it sounds petty but I just hate the expectation that even on my night off from cooking I need to stand there and help him do it. He is more than capable of following a set of instructions himself. For what it's worth they are as simple as "fry in a little bit of oil for this amount of time, then add whatever amount of water the instructions say, and then add a lid and let them steam for another period of time". I have been looking after my DSD since 3pm and my 10 month old niece all day, I just want to sit down with a glass of wine ffs!!

PS I realise this is a small problem and hasn't triggered an actual argument. It just bothered me because no one stands there and reads the instructions for me when I cook something new!

Oo you can buy packets of gyoza? I'm going to have to seek them out.

YANBU. This is how learned helplessness happens. But now I desperately want some gyoza and can't get any so for that YWBU.

i looooove gyoza (pot stickers) and you can make your own!

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/gyoza

I'm literally making gyoza tomorrow night. Literally.

How do you cook them tho ?

no really - do you have to deep fry them?

God I love gyoza... what are you dipping them in? Do ocado sell the proper sauce too?

"Learned helplessness"

I've never heard that phrase but reading it was like a lightbulb went on in my head!

M&S Food do them in their Taste Japan range if you want to find/try them.

They do prawn ones and mushroom ones - they're tasty (and the mushroom ones are less than 200 cals for the whole pack!)

YANBU. This is how learned helplessness happens.

Hit the nail on the head. He is a great husband but needs a lot of hand holding at times. If I had known exactly how to do them and was a pro, of course I would have told him!

For what it's worth we didn't actually argue about it I just told him to read the instructions himself. It's not a job that requires two adults...

Pp who said why not look up gyoza - this is a CHAT forum! Honestly...

OP - how do you have your gyozas at home? Just with soy sauce to dip into or what?

And my DH is EXACTLY as lazy as yours if any consolation.

Anyway, might add some to my next Ocado order - this thread is most enlightening as I thought you only got them at Lidl which is nowhere near me!

YANBU but YABVU to have gyoza and not invite me over. Are they veggie or chicken or another meat? Fuck the diet!

Duck gyoza with cherry hoi sin sauce from Wagamama....OH MY GOD.

YANBU. There is no reason why he can't follow the instructions - he just wants you to do it. Leave him to it.

I think both wait rose and marks do steamed pork gyoza that you microwave.

Heaven.

For dipping I just mixed some soy sauce with a little bit of chilli oil to improvise. I'm sure Ocado probably sell the sauce too but I never thought to look!

I'm intrigued by the M&S ones they sound amazing!

And I'm sure you probably could deep fry them for crispy gyoza, but these ones just say to fry the bottom and then add water and steam. Nice and easy AND delicious.

First world problems.

I'd personally order them from nearest Wagamama either collect or get a deliveroo.

I love this thread. A bit of polite lip service has been paid to the AIBU but a sturdy 85% of the posts are basically either asking what gyoza are or saying how freaking awesome they are. You're a good 'un, OP.

Lol so if your DH or partner refused to make dinner by himself you'd just order a takeaway?

Morrisons also sell them in the freezer section.

Gyoza sales boom across the UK tomorrow.

I think you might be married to my dh's twin.

If i've done something before, be it cook something, drive somewhere, use the washing machine, I'm expected to talk him through how to do it. More than once. If i refuse, say i'm busy, figure it out like i did i'm being purposefully unhelpful. It's normal to ask questions or for help apparently, i am just being stubborn and independent when i get on with things without needing step by step instructions.

He has actually asked me how to boil rice on two separate occasions. "Read the packet" is being petty, it takes no effort to just tell him.

"Just help him" may seem simple enough, but when you're trying to get kids to bed and he's pissing about asking me whether he should boil the water, then add the rice, or put the rice in cold water then boil it, it's far more of a pita than if he just read the fucking packet.

It is fucking annoying when a grown adult needs handholding through a task a 12 year old with half a brain could figure out.

Deliveroo don't deliver to our area and the nearest wagas is a 30 minute drive away so would be cold by the time they got here, and can't exactly eat out with DSD up in bed. But we have learnt tonight that when left to his own devices, DH is capable of cooking some very nice gyoza. He is now feeling very proud of himself. I feel like I've played a significant role in allowing him to succeed

Also, they are chicken gyoza. My favourites are obviously prawn from Wagamamas but Ocado clearly didn't get the memo.

off to google gyoza

Costco sell duck and vegetable gyoza. If you have a local Thai supermarket they sell them in the freezer section. They also sell the gyoza wrappers so you can make your own. I think there is a recipe in Gok Wan's book.

Yum, I love gyoza. We have a deal that my DH cooks one night a week. He is perfectly capable (although has to follow a recipe to the letter) but since we had kids and I started working part-time and then became a SAHM it has been more my thing. Gets a bit fucking relentless after a while so we agreed he'd do one night. But fucking hell, the MESS! I can't decide whether he's doing it on purpose to make a point or whether the concept of cleaning/tidying/wiping as you go (as I do) is lost on him. He cooked tonight. Fairly crappy fajitas. Now I want gyoza...