To think this text message was rude?

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Sorry, a bit of a tl;dr coming!

My friend recently had his 30th birthday on the 18th Feb. We went for dinner on the 15th where I gave him his card and I made him a cake which we ate at dinner and said as he was going on holiday the next day until the 20th, I would give him his present upon his return. I had intended to give it to him on the 21st as we go to a club together, but due to other factors I forgot about it completely.
That night after I'd gone home, I received this message

"Not that I'm bothered at all but did you actually get me anything for my birthday? 😇"

I was slightly annoyed! I have ignored the message thus far. And have had a few days to mull it over and still have the urge to not give the gift

However am I being unreasonable?

I think its one of those 'im joking but not really' things.

Yes yabu, it's a joke.

Bloody rude. What is he, a 5 year old?

What did he get you for your birthday?

He might mean it as a joke but that doesnt mean that a) its actually funny, cos it isnt and b) that the OP is BU.

It's a joke.

Just text back, "yes, but if you're honestly not bothered I will keep it, shall I??"

I'm pretty sure it's a joke, after all, you did say you'd give him his present on the 21st. Text back with 'cheeky sod, you know I did, and you'll get it when we next get together, that's if I don't forget again.'

It's a joke, lighten up!

I think it is. I'd never send something like this even in jest for the fear of looking grabby.

It's only a joke if the OP gets it, and she doesn't, which means that she doesn't share the sender's sense of humour. Which makes it inappropriate.

I would exchange a message like that (well, not like that but you know) with one or two people in my life, who I know would get the joke.

OP, if you don't have that kind of humour relationship then YANBU. I thought it sounded pretty grabby to be honest.

I think it's rude and don't see it as a joke.

it's NOT a joke.. he's coyly demanding where his gift is....

I'm pretty sure it's a joke, after all, you did say you'd give him his present on the 21st. Text back with 'cheeky sod, you know I did, and you'll get it when we next get together, that's if I don't forget again.'

This.