am i being precious about dd's injury

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Dd had an accident which resulted in her breaking her elbow, she needed pins put in and she fell ill after the operation so has missed over a week of school.

She is keen to go back so I thought I would start putting things in place. I asked the school If I could arrange a meeting about her return and got told I would get a phone call from the head to arrange.

Its now been three days and I've not heard anything. I feel like I have embarrassed myself as I called again to come in it they keep fobbing me off.
I don't want to just send dd to school without any expectations. I'm sure they will be familiar with similar injuries but I want to know how she's going to manage and If I can do anything to make life easier for her. It's a nasty break and the Dr suggested three weeks off school but she's keen to go back now and well in herself and wants to give it a go.

Aibu to think the school should be doing more to have things in place ready for her return? Or am I being precious and expecting too much?

What would happen if a child bumped into her and she fell on her elbow? I'd keep her off just to make sure this didn't happen she's going to be in a class full of 6 year olds.

I spoke with the teacher today and she had made some notes. There are a few children that sit in during break times for what ever reason so she can join those. She is going to be given a class buddy to help with the toilet, opening things etc and the teacher has alternative things she can do instead of writing. The school office are now aware that she may need calpol once a day if needed. I have stressed to the school she will only be returning if we get the go ahead from the doctor.
The teacher didn't seem concerned or put out.

I literally don't understand why you can't just keep her off, let her heal, and deal with her medication requirements yourself. This is the aspect of "teaching" that I can imagine drives teachers mad.

There is no point in her missing out on her education and something she loves doing if she is well enough and passed fit by a doctor. It's only calpol ffs, the school office handle that side of things not the teacher. There are loads of kids that require daily medication. It's not a massive deal.

I will take the doctors advice and if he says stay home, she will stay home. She isn't in any pain, I wouldn't send her if she was uncomfortable and struggling. The calpol is there only if she needs it. Missing three weeks of school is a big deal to her. She loves school and wants to go back.
The teacher has made some minor adjustments and I have asked lots of questions so I can make life easier for the school and for dd. The school are happy to have her back and if the Dr gives the go ahead, that's what we will do.

Keep her home, fgs . The school should not be allocating another 6 year old to help her with the toilet! I'm surprised they're engaging with you at all, when the doctor told you to keep her off for three weeks.

At 6 I doubt a couple more weeks will ruin her education whereas an injury to her elbow could ruin her gymnastic hopes and dreams, but whatever you think is for the best is what you should do.

If she can not use the toilet independently due to her injury, she should not be going to school. Allocating another 6 year old to help her in the toilet...?
Seriously??

She can use the toilet herself and pull her trousers up. The teacher still wants her to have a buddy to help with any potential problems.

I went to see the doctor today and he's very happy to send her to school and said she will be fine in a classroom setting as long as she's not running riot.

He also said she can come off her medication and only have it if she has pain, she has been fine and pain free so I don't think it will be a problem.

I am not going to keep her off needlessly and she wants to return. Her health is obviously very important but I've got advice from our doctor who we have never had a problem with so I'm happy to send her.

Can I just echo that you're doing the right thing by sending her in? This is my field. I often get enthusiastic juniors or A&E doctors who are adamant treatment will by x or that people will need so many weeks off school work when in reality that's not necessary.

For the type of fracture that I think she probably has had, once she's back to her usual self she's fine to go in so long as school are sensible. I don't advocate parents try and continually remind their children that they have a fracture because when the plaster comes off I've found those dc can sometimes take more time to return to normal function as they are scared of moving their arm. I would trust the surgeon who gave you the advice last after treatment because they know the stability of the fracture etc etc.

School need to be supportive and keep an eye out as well as have plans in place for breaks, circle time etc. Most children manage just fine.

Btw it sounds like you have a lively GP - a lot wouldn't deal with this sort of thing.

It sounds like you have a good solution for her to return to school safely. I don't understand why you wouldn't try to enable her to return if you and the school think it's possible and she wants to!

pishedoff I'm glad you said that about breakfast clubs, my son is in preschool and we definitely use breakfast club so that I can get to work on time- he doesn't even eat breakfast there as I give it to him at home. Why else would they go to breakfast club except to enable parents to be elsewhere when required?!

How did her return to school go? And how is her recovery going? My daughter is facing an operation next week possibly and I am keen to find out what the recovery is like. I don't know exactly what will be involved as the Dr didn't go in to much detail on Friday, I think as she was also unwell (tonsillitis). But she fractured her ulna 4 week ago and has been in cast. When cast came if it looks as it she may also have a dislocation that wasn't showing previously.
Looking at her arm it doesn't look right and she's not moved it since cast came off although she doesn't seem in pain. (Although was in pain when Dr touched it).
We were so excited to get cast off on Friday and now I've worried ever since. She's such an active little girl (break was falling off beam at gymnastics) like your daughter and really hope she gets full use back.