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To park outside my neighbour's house and refuse to move?

129 replies

Graceful1 · 22/02/2017 01:59

We live on a busy road and as such parking spaces are always at a premium, but we usually take up the same spaces. Anyway when I got home earlier there was nowhere to park as someone had parked right outside my house.
I had to park about 4 houses down as it was the nearest space available.
About an hour later the person who lives in the house (who has never spoken to me before and I have lived here 5 years) knocked on my door and asked me to move my car, I refused as I had just washed my hair and was in my pyjamas.
He walked off calling me ridiculous.
AIBU or would you have moved your car ?

OP posts:
NotYoda · 23/02/2017 19:45

Elvish

and that worked out well Hmm

Tapandgo · 23/02/2017 19:46

Waitrose - of course, and many cannot afford cars. But if you have no private drive you have to accept they haven't got the right to own the street, anymore than people without gardens can commandeer the local park as theirs by right.

WaitrosePigeon · 23/02/2017 19:50

I don't disagree with you.

I was just saying life isn't black and white in reply to you saying people should just buy a house with a private drive.

Eminybob · 23/02/2017 19:56

If you can't afford a private drive, you can't afford to be precious about your parking space.

I used to have 2 giant trees in my front garden, I always always got a space right out front because no one else wanted thier cars covered in bird shit, tree sap and leaves.
I've cut them down now (thank god with this storm) so am less likely to get a space, but we can't afford to get a drive put in, so I just park wherever I can. It's not an issue for a normal sane person.

WaitrosePigeon · 23/02/2017 19:57

If you can't afford a private drive, you can't afford to be precious about your parking space.

Agree..

Pebbles1989 · 23/02/2017 20:43

There is a lady in our street who is disabled so we always leave the space outside her house free (non-allocated parking). That's not enough for her, though - she insists not only that people leave her space free but also that people park outside their own houses. Last week, completely unprovoked, she screamed abuse at me and DP in the street for not always parking outside our house - calling us 'fucking pricks', 'cunts', etc.

The next day we parked our cars one in front of the other, in the space outside her house. I would have paid good money to see the look on her face when she got home Grin.

Pebbles1989 · 23/02/2017 20:45

She's lucky we're nice people and won't do it to her again. My dearly departed GGM would have bought a car and parked it outside the woman's house for a month, just to teach her a lesson.

HappyFlappy · 23/02/2017 20:46

It would be "au Hitler" wouldn't it?

Ooooh! You know Rusty - it just might! Thank you. ("A la" still sounds best, though Grin)

Everyday is a schoolday on MN Grin

HappyFlappy · 23/02/2017 20:49

You can get self cleaning ovens???!!! Why did I not know this? I need one!!

Before I cam on MN I didn't even know you could clean an oven, Wiggle. I thought you just had to buy a new one when the kitchen filled with smoke every time you out it on to warm up . . .

. . . Blush I am ashamed . . .

Panga63 · 23/02/2017 21:13

I drive in my pyjamas when picking up DC late at night misses point of thread Grin

Cosette123 · 23/02/2017 21:29

I probably wouldn't have answered the door. However, if I did,then I would have moved it. In fact, as soon as the space became free outside your house you should have moved it. (IMO)

car5ys · 23/02/2017 22:23

I had knock on the door one day and answered to find neighbour next door but ones son. He said can you move YOUR car from outside YOUR house so I can park my van there as mum dosn't like it outside the house (their house!!!). I just said "sorry OH pride and joy and I don't drive it" and closed the door! Same neighbour had a go at my visiting niece who parked outside their house once, entitled idiots. If I was in my pjs I wouldn't have moved it either

Pankhurst09 · 23/02/2017 23:22

Oh my god Graceful, I had literally the same question! However I didn't ask it in the same way! I asked if I was being unreasonable thinking it was not ok for someone to continually park outside your house. But what had actually happened was the person from across the road had done exactly this (telling my ex/mum to move their cars)- AND was also Parking right outside our house! So! I absolutely no where you are coming from. It's all very well to say, this is the law, you have no rights, blah blah blah. Yes, people can park wherever they want within the law, however there is also an argument where people are being purposefully confrontational or obstructive then this is anti social behaviour then you can forget throwing road traffic law at the OP this then becomes a whole other issue 🤔

Pankhurst09 · 23/02/2017 23:30

Sorry quick typed response there, one little munchkin up- so attack my grammar/spelling at will keyboard warriors 😁👍🏻🤗

Pankhurst09 · 23/02/2017 23:34

Pebbles I've not read the whole thread, a shooting offence I've gathered on mumsnet, but your post made me really sad. I just don't know why those actions would make you happy, I really don't 🤔

Pankhurst09 · 23/02/2017 23:50

OP some practical advice I found useful was, is there anyway you can put in a dropped kerb in front of your property? That could be a good solution but that also takes time and money that perhaps is not practical! How about always getting visitors to park in your drive while you park out front?! I appreciate this is not an avenue you want to go down when you are not an antagonistic type but maybe just sends out a message short term that you are using the space infront of your house. Entitled to or not I absolutely understand your frustrations.

WhispersOnTheWind · 24/02/2017 00:24

Cosette "As soon as the space becomes free outside your house you should move it?"

At what intervals are we supposed to check out the window waiting for the space outside our home to become free? Every 5 minutes? 10? Or should we just sit there in the window until it does? And until how late? What if it's 2.30am? Should we buy incontinence pants just in case we need the loo while we're waiting?

No one, unless disabled, is that inconvenienced by having to park a few doors away that they need to be disturbing the neighbours to play musical cars all evening.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 24/02/2017 00:57

I think I would park outside his house forever more. Just to piss him off.

AndNowItsSeven · 24/02/2017 01:03

Genuinely don't understand why pyjamas affect ones ability to drive.
Yabu.

Thehappygardener · 24/02/2017 05:16

My neighbour where I used to live, would leave two parking cones and a plank of wood outside her house, so she could park directly outside. Her husband also liked to park his van next to her car. She said they liked to see the car and the van, in case they were broken into. However, in other ways, they were fantastic neighbours, so I tried not to over worry about it, although it was EXTREMELY annoying at times.

Not sure how they got away with it, there were some fairly tough people in that road. Very pleased to live now where people generally seem to be far more considerate. 🌺

Char22thom · 24/02/2017 05:41

When I lived on a terraced street I once had a note left on my car windscreen 'dont park your bloody car outside my bloody house ' type of note. I scribbled on it 'its a public street I'll park where I bloody like' and posted it through the neighbours door 😊

NotYoda · 24/02/2017 06:37

Moving

Would you really?

You'd punish someone for doing this once, and create friction with a neighbour, just for the sake of it?

Iittlemisstax · 24/02/2017 06:38

I take DC to a class based at someone's house. The next door neighbour spends all morning looking out her window ready to pounce on anyone who parks outside her house. We all dutifully park outside the house we're going to, miss her house then park down the (wide) road so as not to cause the people whose house we go to any problems.

Except one week. There were two black mourners cars and a horse and carriage outside the next house down the road from no parking lady so someone parked outside her house. There was ranting and a complaint made that parking woke up her students and disturbed her dogs. It was 11am......

paddypants13 · 24/02/2017 10:02

I used to live on a street with no parking and had knob head neighbours. They had three cars, we had one. They used to take the space outside their house, the space outside next door and the space outside out house. Whenever we parked outside their house they would come out and shout abuse (even their 8 year old son) and vandalised our car as well. We got CCTV installed in the end, which put a stop to the vandalism at least.

Now we live in a house with a drive and it's wonderful to know I will always be able to park no matter what time I get home.

Tapandgo · 24/02/2017 10:42

What sad lives some people live, constantly 'guarding' a piece of public road outside their house as if it was their private property. littlemiss - I thought your mention of the hearse and mourners cars was going to be outside the 'parking ladies' house..........which really would have emphasised the futility of spending her life on nonsense!