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To park outside my neighbour's house and refuse to move?

129 replies

Graceful1 · 22/02/2017 01:59

We live on a busy road and as such parking spaces are always at a premium, but we usually take up the same spaces. Anyway when I got home earlier there was nowhere to park as someone had parked right outside my house.
I had to park about 4 houses down as it was the nearest space available.
About an hour later the person who lives in the house (who has never spoken to me before and I have lived here 5 years) knocked on my door and asked me to move my car, I refused as I had just washed my hair and was in my pyjamas.
He walked off calling me ridiculous.
AIBU or would you have moved your car ?

OP posts:
womanwithoutasong · 22/02/2017 12:48

I wouldn't have answered the door personally.

steff13 · 22/02/2017 15:38

Yanbu! When I moved into my new house my neighbour knocked on our door. To welcome us I thought. But no, she wanted to tell our friend to move their car from the road outside our house.

We had this at a previous apartment. We were moving in, and my husband and FIL parked in front of our apartment, and I parked on the other side of the street, in front of her house. She ran out shouting, "excuse me, you can't park there, that's where my daughter parks when she comes to visit!" There were no spaces on our side of the street, and I was the only car parked on her side. Literally, the entire street was empty, and I wasn't even directly in front of her house, I was in between her house and a house next door. I told her I'd park where I liked.

She called the police and told them I had been parked there for days without moving, which was a lie. She did that every time we parked near her house. She also called the police on us because she claimed she could see us having sex through our windows. In our own home. We had curtains and blinds, but besides that, the road was fairly wide and she lived downstairs and we lived upstairs, so she's have to be looking fairly intently to see anything through out windows.

seafoodeatit · 22/02/2017 15:43

steff13 - I hope she was dealt with by the police for harassment and wasting their time!

steff13 · 22/02/2017 15:48

I assume they said something to her, because she eventually stopped. They didn't even approach us about the sex thing (it's legal to have sex in your own home, even without curtains) the first couple of times she called, and when they did, it was only to let us know that she might be looking in our windows.

xStefx · 22/02/2017 15:54

OMG Steff that's awful. I once gave a neighbour a key while I went away for a few days incase anything went wrong i.e fire alarm went off.

I had forgotton to get the key off them and about a month after giving it to them I came home from work early to find the old man (neighbour) in my bedroom upstairs. He said he had heard someone in the house ...

I changed the locks but what was worse , the lid on my washing basket was moved ... I can only imagine !!!!!

LucklessMonster · 22/02/2017 15:59

AIBU or would you have moved your car ?

Hell no to both!

Will never understand the mentality of thinking you own the bit of road that happens to be closest to your front door.

NotYoda · 22/02/2017 16:00

I wonder if he asked nicely or not. If he asked nicely, I think you were being churlish and possibly antagonistic to not move it, even though you don't have to.

If he was rude, then YANBU

PutTheBunnyBackInTheBox · 22/02/2017 16:10

I guess I'm in the minority then Blush
I would have moved if a space had become available outside my own house. Partly because I think it's common courtesy but mainly so I didn't have as far to walk in the morning Grin
I would have been annoyed at him coming round though, I would move it because I wanted to, not a because HE told me to.

HappyFlappy · 22/02/2017 16:23

even though YANBU this does not absolve you, OP, of the duty per MN parking thread law which states you must provide a diagram

This - as Whispers has stated; diagrams are NOT negotiable on parking threads (if you can show yourself with wet hair and in pyjamas, and neighbour getting aeriated (I envisage him with a pipe, a sleeveless fair isle jumper and a small toothbrush moustache, a la* Hitler - please don't disappoint me)) you will get extra points.

  • I know it should be "a le Hitler" but somehow it loses something.
Babybubblescomingsoon · 22/02/2017 16:24

Unless there are designated parking spaces then YANBU. tear

HappyFlappy · 22/02/2017 16:26

Also OP. I would have said if you didnt need the space yourself to hire a skip for a week or two but im petty like that

I think we should have a whip-round for a skip --even though OP hasn't given us a diagram, in many colours, and preferably 3-D)

NapQueen · 22/02/2017 16:28

I have street parking and frankly as long as I can get parked on my own street im happy. Its par for the course in streets with no drives and anyone can park anywhere.

What annoys me is when people dont pull up to the car in front or behind them and leave their car in the middle of what would have been a big enough space for two cars.

HappyFlappy · 22/02/2017 16:30

we like different coloured pens to represent houses, gardens, driveways and cars but these are not obligatory.

Yes they are - take no notice of cuzo. She is on glue!

HappyFlappy · 22/02/2017 16:35

it's legal to have sex in your own home, even without curtains

Blimey!

Who knew?!

Kikikaakaa · 22/02/2017 17:35

I have lived in my rented house for years - with numbered but never allocated parking. The numbers don't match the door numbers and no one ever bothered about it. The first day my new neighbour moved in (rented) he left a rude note telling me to get my car out of his space. No hello, no knocking, nothing.
I had no idea about these allocated spaces and now I seem to have been allocated the one he refused from the landlord (i.e. His space) he didn't want - next to a load of bins and a low wall. I spoke to the landlord who said this neighbour 'needs' the particular space so they just said 'oh ok then' AngryPulling in and reversing is horrible for me. On principal I will never speak to this man in my entire life I will not give him the pleasure of a response

CatoftheMilkyWay · 22/02/2017 20:36

YANBU. There are no restrictions or bays in our street apart from at corners and where some people have driveways but we have a busybody neighbour who hassles everyone about parking. She once left a passive-aggressive note complete with smiley faces on my DH's car asking him to park closer to other cars so more cars could fit into the street. If there are ever workmen parking a van in the street she will without fail come scuttling out of her house in her dressing gown to give them an earful even if they are parked totally legally. We just laugh (privately) at her.

BlondeBecky1983 · 22/02/2017 20:55

YANBU but I would have moved it to the space outside my house, I live on a similar road.

lilywillywoo · 23/02/2017 17:32

We have arsehole neighbours across the road, who even though there is plenty of space for their 4 cars on their side of the road( they live on a corner, so could park on 2 sides of that), frequently park just at our drive. BMW usu parked across from our drive, and idiot son car sits next to it, so difficult to get in and out. They do the same to our lovely other neighbours across the road, twats. I did leave a passive aggressive note after one particularly tight episode a couple of weeks ago, and there has been a bit of improvement (They also hang their washing out in all weathers, mentalists )

RustyBear · 23/02/2017 17:42

I know it should be "a le Hitler" but somehow it loses something

It would be "au Hitler" wouldn't it?

Postchildrenpregranny · 23/02/2017 17:50

It would RustyBear (i''m a pedant too and just back from a French class)

Smiler2013 · 23/02/2017 17:52

I wouldn't move! However, which I have to deal with at my area, people parking in the street when they have a f***g runway!!

2017SoFarSoGood · 23/02/2017 17:53

IFailed your diagram starter link cracked me up. Should ask MNHQ to park it somewhere very handy for future use Grin

Smiler2013 · 23/02/2017 17:53

That's doesn't even make sense 😴😴

Pigflewpast · 23/02/2017 18:01

We once went back to look at a house we'd had an offer accepted on, to work out what alterations we wanted to do. We parked further down the street as the Estate agent had parked outside the house. A woman immediately appeared from the house we parked by, and started telling her dog she was going to shove our f-ing car down the hill because her daughter parks there. I'd of loved to see her try. The dog had obviously heard it all before as it ignored her. We pulled out of buying the house as didn't want her for a neighbour especially when we knew we would have builders vans parking for weeks.m

Jayfee · 23/02/2017 18:02

some people like to try it on..you were in the right

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