AIBU to be pissed off about so many of DS's teachers always getting his name wrong?

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We have a surname that has (fairly recently) become a fashionable first name - think Morgan.

DS's first name is also a name that can be a surname.

I've had two parents evenings where DS has been called Morgan in consultations in meetings and just received an email from a teacher saying that he will speak to Morgan about the issue tomorrow. This teacher has taught DS on and off for 2 years and it's a state school where teachers use pupils' first names rather than surnames.

Honestly, is it too much to ask that a teacher remembers your child's name? Particularly when the email they're replying to is entitled 'Re Marcus Morgan - 4C'.

I might reply with 'Dear Halfpenny' and see if he gets the message.

nb no real names have been used in this post.

i think it was pronounced curedwynne or similar but I couldn't bare DD going through life with people constantly saying what was your name again, mocking her name or getting it wrong deliberately or on purpose.

Presumably you mean 'Ceridwen' or 'Ceridwyn'? With the partial exception of the hard C when you (an English speaker) might expect a soft one, it's spelt as it's said!

Incidentally, as a person with a 'weird' name (the shortening mentioned above doesn't help here as it's the first couple of syllables people struggle with!), it's a mild pain but nothing like the life-ending disaster people on Mumsnet often seem to imagine. It was annoying at school, and I don't think I'll do it to my own children - but I quite like it as an adult, and being easily googleable is really helpful for me professionally.

My first name + middle name can be a double barrelled first name, but it never has been. Middle name has always been meant as a middle name. Not a biggie but it does mean to avoid misunderstanding I only put middle name on official documents like passports. Even job applications I only use a middle inital at the most.

To make things worse my (married) surname can be a girl's name and many people think first name + surname is a double barrelled surname and when I tell them my name they ask me what my surname is. Now when I'm asked I say ''my first name's x, my surname's y.'

When I send emails, the top line reads Surname, First name so people respond as if my surname is my first name, much like OP's on. It's bloody irritating but not really anyone's fault.

It isn't deliberate or rude, just a mistake. Teachers are human.

I sometimes used to call DCs by the name of an older sibling I'd taught in absent minded moments, or by the name of another DC in a moment of distraction. Or maybe even by the surname that could be a Christian name sometimes. It happened to my DCs and I couldn't get worked up about it. It doesn't matter, really.

Love all these people saying, "It's their job!" Sometimes teachers make mistakes. Get over it.

Sometimes teachers make mistakes. Get over it

So, they should just let the teacher call him repeatedly by the wrong name? It's not a big deal to correct someone when they make a mistake. At least it shouldn't be.

Watery - I wrote this teacher an email using DS's first name twice. They then referred to him by his surname.

It's rude and it would be completely unacceptable in any other profession.

Like I said, I've let it go several times before but after 3 years of teaching DS, I really think he should have got the hang of his name by now.

I used to know a man called Russell. Although it might have been Grant. Only one of those names was an actual name of his, but for the life of me I could never remember which one

Of course it isn't rude. It would only be rude if it was deliberate and it clearly isn't. It's just a mistake.

Of course it happens in other professions. Nurses or carers used to get my parents' names wrong sometimes, sometime the GP called one of my DS's by the other's name. It isn't a big deal.

Is he a good teacher? Is your child learning? Those are the important things.

No wonder teachers are leaving in droves.

When we were moving house DH called our Notary by his surname (it was Birt). DH was embarrassed when I called him out but the Notary didn't say anything.

My surname can be a first name, I am shocked and dismayed by how many people, even people I know wellish call me by my surname. It really pisses me off actually, but I figure there must be something about it they can't help.

As a teacher, I would double check a student's before sending an email. I would also hope that after teaching someone for three years I would know his or her name! I think you are perfectly within your rights to correct the teacher.

Is this a boy's Grammar or private school OP?
Boys at DS's school are all called by their surname.

I'm Scottish and went to secondary school in England, my friend in my class was Irish. Our (geography!) teacher could not get it and referred to us, even to our parents at parents night, as '[Scottish city I'm from]' and 'Dublin' respectively. My friend was from Northern Ireland.

The teacher is being lazy and unprofessional.
It's definitely not rude to point out their mistake.

State primary.

Yy teacher should get it right. Doesn't sound like it's you doing either op.

It can be hard tho. I used to work in a school where the same class included James Taylor and Taylor James! I now teach a lad with a v common boy's name as a surname (not parents' fault) and a name more commonly a surname as his first name. Think Mitchell Paul. To me it just looks more likely the other way round. I call him Mitchell, not Paul tho :)

YANBU, the teacher should be able to remember your son's name.

My surname is a fairly common boy's name - a parallel would be Thomas. At work I quite often have to email clients who don't know me, and I always sign off using my Firstname Surname. I get loads of emails back starting 'Hi Thomas' but the ones that always raise a smile are the ones beginning 'Hi Tom'.