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AIBU to ask for a night on my own in a hotel for my birthday?

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Collienova · 20/02/2017 18:18

My husband thinks it's 'weird', but I've got my 40th birthday coming up and I'll be 25 weeks pregnant. I don't want a big party or a night out watching everyone getting p**d. All I ask for is a night away on my own in a little hotel (maybe with a spa) so I don't feel tempted to do stuff at home even if I was child free. I'm an introvert and everything's been very full on. I just need to recharge (on my own). My husband's an extrovert and he recharges by spending time with friends and family or going out. Is my request really that strange?!?

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monkeyfacegrace · 20/02/2017 18:40

No, I'd have to have Dh with me. Uninterrupted sex all night as loud as you like.

It's a dream!

jackieeee · 20/02/2017 18:41

That sounds perfect Smile yanbu

user1487519954 · 20/02/2017 18:42

Seems fine - if you're an introvert surely they know this and would understand?
One of my mum's friends (mid 50s) goes away every year to a hotel by herself for a weekend. Not sure if it's her birthday though... Also she has two useless sons and from what I've heard a fairly shit husband who doesn't help out at home.

iklboo · 20/02/2017 18:43

Oh yes. With room service. Naice hotel with a decent bathroom, fluffy robe etc.

ItsNachoCheese · 20/02/2017 18:45

I want to do this for my 25th birthday. I looked at booking a suite at a hotel as a treat to myself after the last few months. I would put my dog in the kennels and get ds watched after all your only 25 once lol

HecateAntaia · 20/02/2017 18:45

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user1483387154 · 20/02/2017 18:45

That sounds a great idea, I might have to ask for similar for my 40th!

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 20/02/2017 23:43

I love an occasional weekend away. Another fantasy is having a little bolt hole somewhere - a place where the only mess is of my own creation. I can do what I like when I like and eat what I like without needing to remember who likes what and I can watch whatever I want to on TV.

SumThucker · 20/02/2017 23:44

How utterly bizarre... And absolutely something I'd love to do Grin

TroubleinDaFamily · 20/02/2017 23:55

I was very sick from the middle of 2015 and including recovery I would say until Christmas 2016.

I was told by my consultant to go to bed and stay there and I did (firmly believe it speeded up the recovery) anyhoo... if it was not for how poorly I was, that would have been my favourite time in my life.

I slept eighteen hours a day for months, I rose to the surface checked in with my Dh and DS, took some more morphine and then off I went...

Even before all this happened, DH used to say I was descended from a doormouse. Grin

Sleep is under rated.

Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy.

mygorgeousmilo · 21/02/2017 00:56

THIS is my ultimate fantasy!!!

glitterazi · 21/02/2017 01:29

Sounds like my perfect night, and you'll have the best of both worlds! Night out with DH on your actual birthday, and then a night to yourself in a hotel as well.
Sounds absolute bliss. In fact I now totally want this for my upcoming birthday too. Smile

DrCoconut · 21/02/2017 02:13

The ultimate bedroom fantasy. Dinner, a nice bath and a luxurious bed. And then no bugger disturbs you for at least ten hours 😂

Reow · 21/02/2017 08:13

That sounds fucking amazing.

Are you an INFJ?

Gardencentregroupie · 21/02/2017 08:17

I did that this year. Had a swim then a pregnancy massage, watched some tv in my room with a cup of tea, dinner by myself with a book, back to my room and more shit tv, long uninterrupted sleep, delicious buffet breakfast, stroll around the grounds and a very leisurely drive home fully recharged. Bloody bliss :)

iamanintrovert · 21/02/2017 09:29

Sounds great, but by spa do you mean hot tub? Coz I think they are a no-no while pregnant?

TheLivingAsheth · 21/02/2017 09:53

Lots of hotels have spas that have other things than hot tubs though. I went to a spa when I was pregnant, was lovely.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 21/02/2017 10:24

Sounds wonderful! I go away once or twice a year for the weekend to cycle, hike, kayak and relax - DH was Hmm at first but he's used to it now and doesn't feel like I'm rejecting him. He goes away to his home country 2-3 times a year for a weekend of drinking socialising with his mates, often at the same time I'm away. Once this baby arrives it'll mean we can't both go away but we'll still have our own trips I hope (as well as lots together).

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 21/02/2017 10:27

What I suggested for myself this year for my birthday

SoMuchPain · 21/02/2017 10:29

I think because you're an introvert it's ideal. I'm the opposite! I crave company and miss my family when I'm not around them. Maybe not on your actual birthday but as a gift for another day?

Maverickismywingman · 21/02/2017 10:30

Do it and enjoy it

knackeredinyorkshire · 21/02/2017 10:32

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Beelands · 21/02/2017 10:35

I do this once a year. It's bliss.

SeeMyVest · 21/02/2017 10:50

I did this last year. My DH was away with work so I went to London, booked into a hotel right next to Harrods. Went shopping, Got my hair done at Harvey Nicks then back to the hotel and ate room service and had an early night.

  • bliss.
Jackiebrambles · 21/02/2017 10:53

Sounds amazing! I turned 40 this year and my DH and I went away to a hotel for a night leaving our two kids with the grandparents. It was fantastic!

But I totally get wanting the alone time too. Sounds blissful!