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AIBU to ask for a night on my own in a hotel for my birthday?

64 replies

Collienova · 20/02/2017 18:18

My husband thinks it's 'weird', but I've got my 40th birthday coming up and I'll be 25 weeks pregnant. I don't want a big party or a night out watching everyone getting p**d. All I ask for is a night away on my own in a little hotel (maybe with a spa) so I don't feel tempted to do stuff at home even if I was child free. I'm an introvert and everything's been very full on. I just need to recharge (on my own). My husband's an extrovert and he recharges by spending time with friends and family or going out. Is my request really that strange?!?

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DorcasthePuffin · 20/02/2017 18:20

God, that sounds wonderful. What a brilliant idea.

HarperValleyHypocrite · 20/02/2017 18:20

YANBU at all this is like my top fantasy! It's your special birthday you should spend it how you like.

acquiescence · 20/02/2017 18:21

Sounds absolutely amazing.
Although I suppose maybe he wants to come too? Do you have childcare for any other children?

BaggyCheeks · 20/02/2017 18:23

That sounds amazing. I'd do that tomorrow if I could get away with it.

CoraPirbright · 20/02/2017 18:23

When I had little ones, this was my favourite number one fantasy!! I even had it planned down to timings for swimming, steam room etc. Do it!! And report back about how wonderful it was!!

redfairy · 20/02/2017 18:23

YANBU. I have asked for this for my 50th. I want to dine alone then go and spend the night in a fabulous hotel room with a huge box of chocolates. Just the luxury of waking up without children, husband and dog will be heaven.

2014newme · 20/02/2017 18:23

No its fine.

PerspicaciaTick · 20/02/2017 18:23

I did this for my 35th birthday. It was awesome. I only went about 3 miles from home but I had room service and watched some crap TV and slept. Bliss.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 20/02/2017 18:25

Oh my god it sounds like heaven.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 20/02/2017 18:25

I did it a few years ago but asked for two, was the best time ever, I am not a spa person but went to Oxford with birthday money and some serious bookshops to peruse and then an afternoon with wine and reading

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Collienova · 20/02/2017 18:25

We have a nearly five year old and he would be with her while I'm away. I might just add that I'm planning to go out for dinner with my husband on my actual birthday while grandma and grandad babysit. I do want to spend some time with him as well (just not with anyone for one night)... Dinner, spa snd I may read a book from cover to cover - lol

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IveAlreadyPaid · 20/02/2017 18:26

Sounds lovely :)

Unfortunately when I try to tell my dh I would like some time alone all he hears is "I don't want to spend time with you" Constantly trying to explain but he doesn't get it!Sad

DorcasthePuffin · 20/02/2017 18:26

You don't want dh to come, that would completely ruin it Shock

SouthernNorthernGirl · 20/02/2017 18:26

Oh, this sounds wonderful. I've been wishing I could do it all week actually. Just one night.
Please do it, and let us know how it went (seriously)

Wonder if I can get away asking for this for mothers day

Craftylittlething · 20/02/2017 18:27

Sounds utterly blissful, enjoy!

SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter · 20/02/2017 18:27

It's fine go and enjoy but I think the going out with your DH for a meal as planned near the time is nice too

Bubblysqueak · 20/02/2017 18:29

Please do it and then mn all night so we can all live vicariously through you!

NavyandWhite · 20/02/2017 18:31

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SecretWitch · 20/02/2017 18:33

I did this the year I had two children under the age of two. I checked in, ordered a room service dinner then spent hours in the tub, reading and having wine. Nobody was outside the door yelling "MUMMY MUMMY MUMMY" I slept by myself on beautiful bedding, no snores or late night potty trips. It was bliss..

I hope you do it,Op. It was lovely.

TheLivingAsheth · 20/02/2017 18:37

When my children were younger I used to fantasise about doing this all the time. Go do it. My fantasy hotel was like the castle in Beauty and the Beast, but without the beast - food would appear, there would be lovely gardens and things left out for my amusement- books, music, etc - and nobody else there at all!

Bonkerz · 20/02/2017 18:37

Sounds perfect. Me and a few girl friends have booked ourself into the local (4 miles away) hotel for 2 nights. We plan to do face masks and wine Friday night. Spa Saturday and bingo Saturday night!

Nectarines · 20/02/2017 18:38

This is exactly what I want for my birthday this year. It's not for a while yet. Also I'm not pregnant, just knackered!

I'm fantasising about it now. Dinner for one. Nice few glasses of wine. A bath, all by myself with nobody coming in to ask where stuff is or to go to the toilet etc. A book. A whole night of gorgeous uninterrupted sleep then a nice shower and get dressed for a big hot breakfast. Bliss!!

girlelephant · 20/02/2017 18:39

I think it sounds like a lovely way to recharge! Plus you are celebrating with your DH too separately so sounds perfect.

Enjoy!

sycamore54321 · 20/02/2017 18:39

Sounds perfect for an introvert. If your family want to spoil you on the day of your birthday itself, a good compromise would be to have your night away the weekend before or after.

SmallBee · 20/02/2017 18:40

This is my ultimate fantasy. I even look up different hotels when I'm up in the middle of the night with DS.

DH and I have both made a pact that when DS is consistently sleeping better we are going to take turns to do this.