I am stunned at this wedding list

[Bananaknickers]

Family member is getting married for the second time. She pinched her husband to be from his first wife( she was married too).He has his own business and she works full time. Now they have sent us a list from John Lewis if we want to buy something from there although they say we have lots already. Here's the good bit, they would like cash donations as they are building an extention on the side of their house

I'd rather have new extension

thanks all the same

It looks like it's been extracted from someone's lower bowel.

Blu are you agreeing with me or being catty?

I'm not very bright

Looks more like an urn for Elton John's ashes.

Ugh, I can just imagine being served a lumpy cold soup from that with bits of dust at the bottom because it is only used once a year[boak]

Morning paper have ou ever reamrried or are you living the life of a lonely spinster whose only way to spend time is by analysing and judging the actions of others.

Weddings are like christenbings or birthdays people expect to buy and recieve gifts regardless of how economically stbale they are, and it's more about the thought than the cost at teh end of the day isnt it.

This is grannycrackers second eldest daughter.

Why would anyone use a soup tureen?

What is wrong with the saucepan?

Do they like cold soup and having more things to wash up?

I'm agreeing with you in a sort of 'yes exactly - it's an obligation rather than asking for presents'...but definitely not being catty. Humorously wry describes my feelings towards wedding lists

oh I would want to buy a present (and have done) for anyone getting married - love buying presents, and would prefer to get them something they'd actually use/like - so I'd ask.

BUT there is a way of doing things without being grasping AND I wouldn't want to help pay for their bloody extension either.

I still remember the friends who didn't have a wedding list for all these reasons

someone bought them a massive ornamental wooden horse that screwed together in two sections

how they ate their words then

So, what ARE grannycrackers? Is it an oblique reference to Madonna's thighs? Are you Madonna?

I live in my big lonely houses in Edinburgh London and Austria where I scuttle about in dark rooms and lean over dusty computer screens and tsk tsk a lot while I judge other parents.

What's wrong with that?

LOL at the wooden horse

wooden horse, VERY good

Money for extension...rude!

If I was getting married I'd probably request vouchers from family/close friends but would in no way expect a gift!

yes greeve i am madonna.

i have just finished some aggressive hoovering which has calmed me down a bit.

morningpaper - could i swap houses with you - i like big, dusty houses and mine is full of (too many) children

just shows how feckless i am, doesn't it ?

oh i'd give a donation - but it would be to a charity of my choosing, on their behalf, and I'd send them a copy of the donation letter

in my opinion that's what they should have done themselves - say that presents aren't necessary but if people want to they could donate to, say, NSPCC, on their behalf.

I don't think wedding lists are necessarily a bad idea per se, whoever is getting married, and whether it's 1st time round, 2nd time round, or whether the couple are rich and poor.

However, what I do object to is the damn thing being sent with the invite as it assumes that you will buy a present and it will be from this list.

Obviously, regardless of circumstances, many people do want to buy a gift to mark the occasion and they'd like it to be something useful, and/or for it to be well received. But in that case, what's wrong with phoning up and asking for the list, if one exists ?

To send a list, AND to ask for donations to a bloody extension at the same time is rude and vulgar. I hope no-one gives them any money at all.

and who are you?

actually, i've ballsed that up...

it must be 'and who is she?'

Buy them a gift from oxfam like this
Helps someone who really needs somewhere to live build a house!

We didn't have a wedding list as DH is very firmly in the 'my god they are vulgar' camp. I did ask my parents for something specific, though, as I know from bitter experience what they'd come up with without some guidance.

(Mum told me that she was planning to get my sister a nice set of saucepans for her 30th. I steered her firmly in another direction).

The great thing about not having a wedding list is that we got some hilarious presents and some great things we wouldn't have thought about asking for. Like the complete set of plastic goods (washing up bowls, storage jars, even loo brush) from a friend of the family - fab idea and not expensive.

And lots of tea towels and towels - haven't had to buy any more nearly 9 years on.

My cousin recently got married, first time around but he and his fiancee had been together for years, and living together for at least 5 years. Their invitation read 'Please do not feel you have to buy us a present. As we have lived together for so long we already have all we need and just seeing you on the day will be enough'

Your bride and groom are very greedy and, I agree, vulgar to ask for stuff when they must have very little need. Blardy cheek, wedding list my arse.

As for giving them money. Pah!