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AIBU?

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Is it unreasonable to think everyone is wrong

139 replies

iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:25

If everyone said the same thing about something but you disagreed, would you reconsider or think they were wrong?

OP posts:
Jaagojaago · 17/02/2017 13:59

Depends. If you're Trump and think all the media are fake and lying about things you believe are actually truly beautiful - then well, you are fucking crazy aren't you.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/02/2017 14:00

Sorry, cross posted, but I'm worried about that other poster 💐

Your original question can't be answered easily.

I think if 'everyone' says x but you think y, then you should have a good think about WHY that is and be open minded to change, but if after a good think you still feel you are right, then that's your decision.

Except, there's always the worry that the person isn't thinking straight. People who feel suicidal often think others would be better off without them, 'everyone eise' says they wouldn't. The mentally ill person could think about the situation, still decide that 'everyone else' is wrong...and take action.

On the other hand, you could paint your sitting room bright red, 'everyone else' could think it's too bright, you might not, you are right if YOU live there & like it.

FlyingElbows · 17/02/2017 14:00

Quick answer based on the zero info you've given: if your reply to your friends is "but I love him" the chances are they're right and you are an ostrich. Or a massive drip feeding attention seeker.

Jaagojaago · 17/02/2017 14:00

Read the full thread now. Backing off very slowly. Take no heed of me OP

PageStillNotFound404 · 17/02/2017 14:02

OP, people are trying to engage with your thread but you can't blame us for wanting more information if we're going to be capable of answering your question. It doesn't have to be your exact scenario, just an example of something similar.

I'm not sure that posting something so vague that 1001 different scenarios could apply, thus making your question impossible to answer and then getting defensive when people ask "do you mean as in X or Y?" is going to get you the answer you're looking for, but whatever is making you dissatisfied enough to pose the question is not the fault of those trying to engage with you.

Stormtreader · 17/02/2017 14:03

if your reply to your friends is "but I love him" the chances are they're right and you are an ostrich.

This is excellent, I might actually make this my new mantra.

Bluntness100 · 17/02/2017 14:04

Op why are you so angry, people are trying to guess as they have no clue what you're talking about.

Why ask if you don't want to explain the issue, surely uou must know people can't help if you don't and people on here only want to help. No one knows you, so just explain the issue and you'll get the answers required.

Ginkypig · 17/02/2017 14:08

Starving because of your user name some posters think you may be another person who started a thread about an eating disorder which she didn't realise she had.

As for your thread I can't give you an answer because it's far to vague of a question, without context it is impossible to answer sorry.

Oldraver · 17/02/2017 14:14

OP... you cant talk in riddles then get arsey when people want more information or dont agree with you.

If you have an issue you want opinions on then spit it out

lougle · 17/02/2017 14:16

"iwasstarving

If everyone said the same thing about something but you disagreed, would you reconsider or think they were wrong?"

Nobody could make you reconsider. You would only reconsider when you are ready to accept that you were wrong.

DesolateWaist · 17/02/2017 14:16

because they think they know and actually don't have a clue.

No. No one on here has a clue because you won't tell anyone what it's about. Shall we guess what's in your pocket now?!

AcrossthePond55 · 17/02/2017 14:18

If 'everyone' was saying that I should cut my hair, lose a few pounds, not put carpeting in the bathroom, or something not 'life changing' like that I'd just go my merry way.

BUT if 'everyone' was saying I was an addict, had an eating disorder, was acting in a bizarre manner, involved with an abuser, or even that I shouldn't have a baby now, I think I'd give what they were saying very careful consideration. Friends, as a rule, don't sit you down (separately or as an intervention) and tell you something life-changing if they don't truly believe it is for your own good.

DrRichardKimble · 17/02/2017 14:21

I'm not sure why the op is asking AIBU as she clearly doesn't think she is. Is there any point in anyone else replying?

Maudlinmaud · 17/02/2017 14:21

You're right dear. You're always right.

Butteredpars1ps · 17/02/2017 14:23

Sometimes having a whole bunch of people disagree with you makes you realise why you think what you think. If you instinctively don't wish to follow their advice, be honest enough to ask yourself why. It might be a way to clarify your own thinking.

On the other hand, sometimes others have a better perspective than those close to an issue. This is especially common in relationship concerns.

If a friend had your issue, how would you advise them?

melj1213 · 17/02/2017 14:24

Forget it. THIS is why I know damn well I'm right and other people are wrong, because they think they know and actually don't have a clue.

People can only work on the information you've given and since you've given no other information than "I'm right and everyone else is wrong" ... how exactly is ayone supposed to have a clue what you're on about instead of thinking up their own scenarios?

Give us one concrete example of where "everyone" has been wrong except you obviously and we might be able to actually answer whether or not they are in fact wrong or not, even if it's a hypothetical.

TheAugury · 17/02/2017 14:25

Place marking just for fun nothing to contribute just ignore me

walkinganhouraday · 17/02/2017 14:27

TheAugury Grin

Vandree · 17/02/2017 14:33

YABU to think everyone on MN has psychic abilities. Going by your reaction on here then I would say you are probably wrong not everyone else. HTH

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 17/02/2017 14:41

OP you're making about as much sense as Donald Trump.

Hang on, are you President Whotsit?

Willow2016 · 17/02/2017 14:43

Well that was a waste of 2 minutes I will never get back again!
Was there a point?
Is it a psychic test?
Is it 50 guesses as to what I am on about (but I am not telling you anyway so there)

Desolate:
"Handses"?

morningconstitutional2017 · 17/02/2017 14:44

It depends on what it is. Some opinions are right for you but not everyone else. Facts are different but your point of view will depend on reasons that are relevant to you.

Sometimes you have to be brave enough to plough your own furrow.

Katy07 · 17/02/2017 14:45

If everyone said the same thing about something but you disagreed, would you reconsider or think they were wrong?
Well several times on MN I've posted an opinion totally different to pretty much everyone else on the thread, got slated for it, but I still think I'm right and get frustrated that they can't see what seems so blindingly obvious to me Grin But that's usually where it's something that I seem to have strong opinions on & sometimes I might possibly be rather blunter than I intend. On issues where I don't have a strong opinion either way I might reconsider my original view.
I doubt this helps the OP at all but it's more explanatory (or waffly) than just saying 'sometimes'....

KayTee87 · 17/02/2017 14:48

Award for the most confusing thread ever goes to...

gamerwidow · 17/02/2017 14:49

Of everyone hates your DP because he's an arsehole who abuses you but you love him and think he can change then you are wrong wrong wrong.

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