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Original poster

Is it unreasonable to think everyone is wrong

139 replies

iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:25

If everyone said the same thing about something but you disagreed, would you reconsider or think they were wrong?

OP posts:
MaidOfStars · 17/02/2017 13:37

OP, are you able to tell us what it is, because it's very difficult to help without knowing?

Chickiwick · 17/02/2017 13:37

You cannot get substantive answers from strangers with so little information. You need to give some details if you want more help.

Original poster
iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:39

I know but then people say youre dripfeeding and I'm not I just don't know what to say!

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FeckinCrutches · 17/02/2017 13:41

Tell everyone exactly what was said and they might be able to give you an answer!

Bluntness100 · 17/02/2017 13:42

You need to give more details, all you have said is everyone thinks something about you or your life is wrong and you agree but it's not making you unhappy so you want to go ahead, it's hard to tell.

Could be you make yourself sick every night, or your partner beats you, or simply you like to go out in uou pyjamas to Tesco, unless more info people can't really help.

BrieAndChilli · 17/02/2017 13:42

Everyone else ; you are too thin you have an eating disorder
You: no I'm fat

I would say you are wrong

Everyone else: you should go do the new job, it's better money
You; I'm happy where I am

You are right, it's your decision

Everyone else: your husband is cheating on you you should leave him
You: I suspect he is but I'm happy to live in denial

Everyone else is right but the decision is ultimately yours

WhereYouLeftIt · 17/02/2017 13:43

"If everyone said the same thing about something"

I would consider:

Who is 'everyone'? Are they a variety of people regarding the 'something' from a variety of perspectives, or are they a dominant personality plus their fawning toadies?

Do I respect their individual opinions generally (assuming they have individual opinions)? Or have they spouted verifiable rubbish many times at me?

Do they have an agenda for what they are saying, e.g. the teenager who claim all their friends parents say it's OK? Would your acceptance of what they are saying cause you to change a behaviour to their benefit, e.g. 'everyone' says it's your responsibility to pay for something they want, or to do something they don't want to do and won't have to if you can be guilted into doing it?

I would consider that I might be wrong if it was a variety of people whose opinions I respected, who did not stand to gain anything from me accepting I was wrong.

allthelaundrywecannotsee · 17/02/2017 13:43

I would probably consider their opinion in that case...just because we feel ok with a certain type of behavior doesn't make it right. Sometimes we need a wake up call from those who care about us...or they find the person who we have become difficult because of what is happening to us.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 17/02/2017 13:44

ah yes, i remember it's half term! Wink

Trills · 17/02/2017 13:45

If people were saying something was wrong. and you knew it was, sort of but it didn't make you unhappy

I am going to guess that the OP is in an abusive relationship, and her friends/family are telling her to get out, but she is saying that she "doesn't mind" whatever it is that her partner is doing.

KatharinaRosalie · 17/02/2017 13:46

What are they saying? "Oh everybody says I'm so beautiful but I don't really believe them, here's a photo, what do you think?"

Original poster
iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:46

Point is that when you do what people "want" they aren't there then.

They just call you a troll.

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ICanCountToOneHundred · 17/02/2017 13:49

Is this about your eating habits?

ICanCountToOneHundred · 17/02/2017 13:50

I am wondering if you posted the other day about being sick after meals and your sister thinking you had an eating disorder?

Original poster
iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:52

What the hell Hmm I don't even have a sister Confused and I definitely don't have an eating disorder

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Chickiwick · 17/02/2017 13:52

Just explain the problem.

Original poster
iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:52

Forget it. THIS is why I know damn well I'm right and other people are wrong, because they think they know and actually don't have a clue.

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AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/02/2017 13:53

Was that your thread the other day - the one where the OP throws up when she feels she has eaten badly, but insists she doesn't have an eating disorder?

Something like that, then yes, one needs to reconsider.

Original poster
iwasstarving · 17/02/2017 13:54

I honestly do not have a clue what you are on about.

I am actually if anything a little bit overweight right now, if you mean my username it's a song.

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Fruitcocktail6 · 17/02/2017 13:54

Well this is the most pointless thread I've ever read.

ICanCountToOneHundred · 17/02/2017 13:54

Sorry, I was just trying to help. It is impossible to answer your question without having a clue what you are talking about.

JoanofNark17 · 17/02/2017 13:54

Is this about your horrible controlling husband that you still think is amazing?

beebeecee · 17/02/2017 13:55

This thread is like a child saying "I know something you don't know" then you have to guess what it is Hmm

SuperVeggie · 17/02/2017 13:58

Whereyouleftit - I honestly wish everyone had reasoning and critical thinking skills as good as yours. If they did, I'm pretty sure Trumpalump wouldn't be the president right now.

SuperVeggie · 17/02/2017 13:58

But I agree, this thread reads like it was written by a 12 year old.