AIBU when out with my pushchair

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To want to ram it into the ankles of anyone in front of me who walks really slow/ stops/ or cuts across me?

This thread is a prime example of why people start 'mumsnet ain't what it used to be' threads.

Come all ye professionally offended types, come all ye just looking to have a go at someone.

Op, YANBU!

Well to be quite honest even if it is just a "fun" thread it shows up all the selfish idiots out there who don't give a damn for anyone else whether they're in a wheelchair or with buggies.

Agreed SuperFlyHigh .

Professionally offended ? I am not offended personally but, I do get tired of buggy users thinking they can just push fast towards you (more than once the other day I had to move!!) and, as stated, those who speak on their mobile or texting whilst pushing the thing!

People are professionally offended because others have rightfully pointed out it isn't a joking matter? Heard it all now

NoBetter that sounds painful. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Thank you, Away. I'm very, very fortunate to still be here. I've known others who have died in similar circumstances.

Not necessarily. The most irritating pedestrians are the ones that simply have no regard for other people around them. Not all of them have prams in front of them.

The ones without buggies or scooters are easy to walk around. So yes, the ones with prams in front of them ARE worse.

True Luckless but stop it you're just mum bashing now

Men with prams are just as bad.

Rachel don't get me wrong, I agree how hard it is to push a buggy and that we all have time issues, my DB's FIL is a paraplegic in an electric wheelchair so I see his problems too but I think we could all be a bit more understanding, considerate and thoughtful re walking/pushing buggy/wheelchair etc.

The majority of mothers with buggies I see are fine but there are some selfish ones (the two abreast kind) who dawdle along taking all the time in the world and all the pavement up. Also seen mothers with husbands and buggy take up half the pavement when they can see I'm in a rush or trying to get past. Have walked home from previous job in residential area having 3 kids on scooters hurtle towards me and 2 mums with buggies taking up all the pavement, no one stopped to let me past, I could have been invisible! Was I meant to cross to the other side of the road because I was by myself?!

Manners cost nothing.

All those people with prams getting frustrated with slow walkers in front of you. Where were you actually in a rush to?

I don't think just because you have a buggy it gives you priority, but it gives me the rage when someone cuts in front of the pram and gets annoyed when you run their heels over!

Happened in a supermarket a few weeks back, I was pushing my pram in a straight line down the aisle next thing a man on a mission zipped in front of me, ive run him over a bit. He starts cursing at me and tells me too watch where I'm pushing that thing. people begin staring I say I'm sorry and he cuts me off and tells me I should be, I went " yeah my child hasn't learnt the art of teleportation for the pram yet so couldn't get out of the way when you cut us up "
A few sniggers from the people watching and he stomped off muttering.

I just think in general some people are unaware of their surroundings.

Ever been to a Baby Show? I did, at the NEC, wish I'd realised I'd need ankle protection. It was like several buggy chariot races going on at the same time.
A free teddy and winning a big bag of Megablocks just didn't entirely compensate for the risk factor!

FrancisCrawford is so right. On a visit to an art gallery the woman behind me pushing a buggy rammed it into my ankles and drew blood. Does having a child make you immune from manners? I held the door open yesterday for a pregnant woman and didn't even get an acknowledgement, never mind thanks. I like to think these gals are in the minority. Certainly hope so.

Dagenham you see there are two examples you've mentioned of rudeness already with you!

Went on nice walk today, on path in park, 2 women at a guess in 30s, narrow path, had to step on grass to get round (never mind didn't bother me), luckily on way to park saw a few people in street with and without prams, pregnant or not pregnant seemed fine. Noticed a set of 6 people with kids and buggies but walked 2 abreast but on a fairly wide pavement but behind the other, fine again.

In park no bother generally most people fine and well behaved, day. I did notice on the way back though coming up a hill and round a corner where there was a lively young girl at a guess 3 or so? Her grandmother (it looked like) said to her "be careful of the woman" meaning me, other adults with her were oblivious - I didn't care either way just smiled and walked past.

It does make you wonder though for every mum with a buggy hogging the pavement their parenting must cascade down to their children, eg letting people pass etc.

I've been brought up to always hold doors open, help people, be polite, use manners etc and I'd do that if I were a mother or not. The vast majority of people I come across "are" polite and helpful, but there are quite a few who aren't...

Several years ago I was crouching down, looking at something on the bottom shelf in Boots when a mum rammed me out of the way with her push chair. She just about knocked me flat and marched past without a word of apology, although any apology would have been hollow. She didn't do it by accident. Her arrogance still annoys me today!

In my local town the dawdling two pushchairs abreast parents are a pain.

LOL @ all the "love to be offendeds" on here doing what they always do best - being offended.

YANBU at all OP. I always felt the same. But being polite like you, it was kept firmly inside my head and was just left to my imagination

Judging from their responses, I expect all the offended "love to be offendeds" on this thread never feel any internal rage at any situation, ever So funny.

Don't know how you manage with people, pushchair, kids on scooters approaching from the rear but I know I find it difficult as I don't have any method of seeing behind me. Must be an out of date model, no sonar, rear mirrors, pressure sensors to let me know what's going on. Never been trained either to always look behind before slowing down or stopping. And of course, doesn't help being heating impaired. Too bad if you are sight impaired. Pushchair rule every time apparently.

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LOL @ all the "love to be offendeds" on here doing what they always do best - being offended.

YANBU at all OP. I always felt the same. But being polite like you, it was kept firmly inside my head and was just left to my imagination grin

Judging from their responses, I expect all the offended "love to be offendeds" on this thread never feel any internal rage at any situation, ever wink So funny.

Ooh. I can sense your indignation from here. Haha. Don't think you think it's funny at all, really.

YANU to think it but YABU if you actually do it. People think about doing stuff like this all the time, as they swan past in a pouffe of coiffure, well-ironed trousers or even a tidy, groomed obscurity. They're murdering their husbands, embezzling company funds or running over and slapping that silly teenager for well, just standing there with attitude. But whilst we might think it most of us don't and we just share the pavements and general airspace.

However, armed with a pushchair and under sleep-deprived conditions, I can see that a bit of ankle-shoving would appear completely reasonable when we put pavement/air-sharing in perspective :)

I had a few nasty confrontations with people in public when I was pushing a buggy. One time I was stationary in Sainsbury's at the checkout when a man stormed past me (he was having an argument with a woman) and caught his ankle in the buggy wheel then turned around and gave me a filthy look. I told him he should have been more careful and he actually squared up to me and forced me to back down (ds was a few weeks old).
Yes there were a few more incidents like this. Sometimes it was my fault, but just because I had a pushchair it seemed that people were ready to accuse.
I think it's a problem with both sides really- there is something about vulnerability that brings out the worst in some people, and as new mothers we kind of do want to put our babies in protective armoured environments and expect everyone to understand how precious and fragile they are. (Even though the doubt and the are not as fragile as we think)

That was an essay. Sorry.

Even though they don't

All those people with prams getting frustrated with slow walkers in front of you. Where were you actually in a rush to?

Usually towards the bus-stop, train station, nursery or just trying to get from shop to shop at a reasonable speed, before toddler wakes from his nap. It's not 'slow walkers' who frustrate me- everyone is entitled to go at their own pace. It's people who drift slowly down the middle of the street/precinct completely oblivious they are blocking others. It's good manners to be aware of others around you, step aside to faster people pass, keep to one side rather than obstruct others. When I walk with toddler on reins I'm aware we're very slow and dithery (she likes to stop randomly to look at things) so I'm careful not to block the street or trip people up.

Yes you are being very unreasonable. Get some patience lady. I walk slowly atm as I'm having chemotherapy if you ram my ankles I'll kick your cat.

Absolutely you're being unreasonable, if you ram your pushchair into my daughters ankles you will cause her some serious damage if she were to fall over- she is recovering from brain surgery and prefers to walk rather than being stared at in her wheelchair. Think about others and the reasons they may be walking slowly in front of you!!