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To wonder why a friend keeps telling about all the attention she gets?

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CatchTheRainbow · 16/02/2017 22:11

It's got to the point where it's none stop..

  • She got a massive bouquet of flowers delivered on valentines but no idea who they are from.
  • Guy had a couple of dates with her and was saying she's the one.
  • Guy asked for her number on the bus.
  • Colleague is sending her naked photos.
  • Guy at work said she's absolutely stunning (she's told me this 4 times now).
  • Another guy telling her he's fallen for her.

I honestly could go on ....

I just don't get why she does it. She's a lot prettier than I am 100% so it's not a jealousy thing ...

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ProudBadMum · 16/02/2017 22:12

But did it happen?

frauleinsallybowles · 16/02/2017 22:13

maybe she making it up to make herself feel better op.

F1GI · 16/02/2017 22:14

How awful for her.

She just needs to find one from this letchy bunch or preferably a nice one!

Justmuddlingalong · 16/02/2017 22:14

She sounds insecure. Just nod and smile.

clumsyduck · 16/02/2017 22:14

Daft as it sounds she's probably not confident in herself

DonaldStott · 16/02/2017 22:14

If all of the above happened to me, of course I would tell my mate.

Tell her to keep quiet if she is boring you, but she will think it's because you are jealous, as that what it sounds like.

Pancakeflipper · 16/02/2017 22:15

She's insecure.

hearyoume · 16/02/2017 22:16

This is my DM's response to such people.

To wonder why a friend keeps telling about all the attention she gets?
Original poster
CatchTheRainbow · 16/02/2017 22:16

Tell her to keep quiet if she is boring you, but she will think it's because you are jealous, as that what it sounds like.

Jealous? I'm not in the slightest bit jealous.

I've said she's a lot more pretty than me. I'm very average and so I'm realistic as to what attention I get and I'm fine with that.

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Birdsgottaf1y · 16/02/2017 22:17

I'd say a lack of confidence, so she wants constant reassurance.

When you get older/wiser, you realise that these situations are all about the men and not about you.

The colleague and bus incidents are disrespectful.

Guy at work isn't seeing (or commenting) any qualities, just her appearance, it's not something that you want at work.

WorraLiberty · 16/02/2017 22:18

Surely those are all things you'd tell your friend? Confused

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 16/02/2017 22:20

I'm confused - are you saying that you don't want her to tell you these things?

To me most of those events are interesting - I'd definitely be interested if a my friend was asked out on a bus or sent naked photos - it would be odd if they didn't mention stuff like this

ProudBadMum · 16/02/2017 22:21

Oh things she's said to you? I thought you meant made it common knowledge to everyone?!

To you the yeh that's normal

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CatchTheRainbow · 16/02/2017 22:21

Surely those are all things you'd tell your friend?

Really you'd tell your friend four times about the same incident. That a guy at work said she's absolutely stunning and has the most amazing dress sense etc

She told me this happened on the day it was said.

She has since told me this story a further 3 times

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pandarific · 16/02/2017 22:21

She is for whatever reason trying to make you jealous though. Assert her dominance/seek your admiration? Could you tell her she's getting a bit broken record?

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 16/02/2017 22:22

Colleague saying she is stunning - less interesting - I'd nod and change the subject, or say "yeah, you told me that before" and move on

TheElephantofSurprise · 16/02/2017 22:23

I tell people because I'm always so totally flabbergasted by any attention I receive.
My 'friends' are even more surprised - they never believe me.
That's amusing because I don't tell lies.

steff13 · 16/02/2017 22:26

I feel like if those things happened to me, I'd tell my friends.

meganorks · 16/02/2017 22:26

You tell your friend. You probably don't need to 4 times. My guess is insecurity as others have said. But maybe she is jealous of you in someway. More intelligent/better job/boyfriend I don't know. But going on and on about it is like she is having to reinforce that she is prettier than you as she knows she is lacking in other areas
Sure you aren't jealous of the dick pics!

steff13 · 16/02/2017 22:26

I man came up to me a couple of months ago in the cereal aisle at the grocery store and told me I was a very beautiful woman, and I posted it on FB!

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 16/02/2017 22:28

I think you are meant to be inpressed

Colleague sending naked photos isn't a sign of him being in awe of her beauty it's a sign that he has no respect for her

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 16/02/2017 22:28

If you don't want to talk about it, just tell her she told you that already, or change the subject.

I remember telling the same story several times to a friend once, I was really proud at having succeeded at something, and just really enjoyed telling it each time Blush. After a few times she said "you've told that story three times already, it's getting boring", in an exasperated but cheerful way. I shut up! I'm v careful about doing this now.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 16/02/2017 22:30

It is a shame if she measures her self worth on how much male attention she receives.

And let's face it, no one likes a show off. Grin

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 16/02/2017 22:33

A man did approach me once, look me up and down several times with an amazed expression, then said "wow......" ".... you are a very short lady".

Shock
WorraLiberty · 16/02/2017 22:35

Really you'd tell your friend four times about the same incident. That a guy at work said she's absolutely stunning and has the most amazing dress sense etc

Probably not, no (although I might if I was excited because I fancied him)

But all the other things on the list, you haven't said she's told you 4 times.

They just seem like normal things to tell your friend imo.