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To use dd's hand me downs on ds (for one week!)

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NapQueen · 15/02/2017 12:31

Going away next week and snow is likely (not guaranteed). We have an old set of sallopettes and ski jacket dd used when she was 2. They are purple. Rather than buy ds (now 2) a fresh set for the chance they will get used, im planning on using these.

Dd has new as she is now in age 7 clothes, and as we have since had a ds weve bought her grey sallopettes to re use and a white coat.

Im getting the odd face off my dad some of our holiday companions. Apparently they are for girls and therefore it would be cruel to dress ds in them. Maximum 2 times. Ive attached a photo.

To use dd's hand me downs on ds (for one week!)

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pigsDOfly · 15/02/2017 13:29

Oh for gs.

My 2.5 year old GD has a blue jacket. Should I be worried?

anonbecauseiwanna · 15/02/2017 13:30

Oh my nephew is 2, his favourite colour is pink, his favourite things are dinosaurs and peppa pig.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/02/2017 13:31

The jacket is left over right, which is actually the way for men's jackets. Therefore you could argue it is unisex. Tell that to these uneducated males.

Londonsburningahhhh · 15/02/2017 13:33

My mum and dad did this to my brother on his Christening day they put him in my old pink coat. It was so funny I couldn't help myself I had to take the piss out of him. Its fine as long as you don't take any pictures of him in it his older sister may use it against him.

dowhatnow · 15/02/2017 13:42

Are they pink cuffs on that photo?

That changes things then not

londonrach · 15/02/2017 13:42

Prince william wears purple. ...

Londonsburningahhhh · 15/02/2017 13:47

Jokes aside its only a coat its pointless buying new if you're going to use it for 1 week. I weren't that cruel to my brother I made a joke of it and that was it. Never to be spoken about again. He didn't catch gay either btw. Don't listen to your dad and if he was that concerned he would buy him a new coat.

VestalVirgin · 15/02/2017 13:47

The jacket is left over right, which is actually the way for men's jackets. Therefore you could argue it is unisex. Tell that to these uneducated males.

This is a men's jacket? Oh no!
You have to dress your daughter in pink now, and hope that she hasn't already started growing a penis!

Make sure to tell your father off for not warning you about that!

Salumeria · 15/02/2017 13:47

Just ignore any comments, it would be ridiculous to buy new, and your DS is just as likely to find it funny (or not even remotely care) when he is older as be upset/embarassed/whatever.

I had something similar once - I was at playgroup, friend's DS wet himself and she had run out of spare clothes. I offered a spare pair of (plain), dark purple joggers. Not remotely girly. His mum was v grateful, but when the dad came to pick them up afterwards, he kicked up a huge fuss and insisted on taking them off! Their son went home trouserless. Utterly ridiculous.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 15/02/2017 13:49

DS(2)wore a hot pink all-in-one fleece suit to the park all last autumn. I reckoned his masculinity could stand it. He also appears at the swimming pool wearing little blue shark trunks and bright pink Peppa armbands, because I'm not buying more fecking armbands when I've got some perfectly good pink ones. My dad said much the same as yours. I went "oh no, he'll catch the gay!" and my stepmother told dad not to be so ridiculous.

VestalVirgin · 15/02/2017 13:51

His mum was v grateful, but when the dad came to pick them up afterwards, he kicked up a huge fuss and insisted on taking them off! Their son went home trouserless. Utterly ridiculous.

That's bordering abusive behaviour, really. To let the poor boy walk around without trousers, depending on the outside temperatures, that is something that should be reported to the authorities.

BertrandRussell · 15/02/2017 13:52

I would put money on it not being the purple that's bothering him but the pink cuffs........

Dagnabit · 15/02/2017 13:55

I think as long as you balance it out with an Action Man, you'll be sweet

Dagnabit · 15/02/2017 13:59

PPs stories remind me of a time when ds had a poonami when we were round at my friends - I didn't have my usual suitcase nappy bag so didn't have any spare clothes. He went home in a pink romper suit...stolen off a doll!! He is 5 now...seems pretty butch

Birdsgottaf1y · 15/02/2017 14:10

It's the pink cuffs.

I often see boys in pink, were I live because there's been a few families of African origin move in.

This is one of our more stupid cultural norms, in the U.K., that need to be stopped.

I hate the term 'pink shit', meaning girls toys and if more boys had pink in their clothing, it would end.

This shows that there's really no such thing as unisex, there's the 'Ideal' i.e. default Male and then there's girls clothing and the worse thing that a male could be, is regarded female. Hence 'Ladies' 'throw/run/scream like a girl' e.g. As an insult.

knackeredinyorkshire · 15/02/2017 14:11

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diddl · 15/02/2017 14:12

It's not the (lovely) purple, Op, there's far too much pink on them!

You've not really bought the 7yr old a colour based on it being passed to her brother, have you?

Newtssuitcase · 15/02/2017 14:15

Your dad is just behind the times. DS1 is 12 and the majority of his class at his all boys school wear pink or purple football boots. There are a few neon yellows and neon oranges thrown in for good measure but bright pink was definitely all the rage this year.

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NapQueen · 15/02/2017 14:17

Yeah we have. Because we figured by seven ds may have a preference for grey or blue or whatever over pink or purple.

Not that we intend on giving him that opinion but such is life and I reallydont want to force him into something he is uncomfortable with if he doesnt want to wear pink or purple. At the moment he is 2 and doesnt give a shit. Similarly dd was perfectly happy to have the grey.

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minisoksmakehardwork · 15/02/2017 14:17

Ffs they're fine. I'd do the same and now dd1 has 'neutral' /primary coloured things like wellies etc that don't get worn much before they're outgrown so they can be handed down to ds1/dd2/ds2.

By the time you get hat/gloves/boots etc on no one is going to know whether you have a boy or girl anyway.

maggiso · 15/02/2017 14:31

Its better to be in purple than cold.I f it bothers you cover the pink cuffs with mitts.

C8H10N4O2 · 15/02/2017 14:43

I find a large wet codslap flixes most odd faces. They are idiots.

If any 2yr old (or adult child) of mine thought they had been hard done by for not getting 'new' for an item they wore twice I'd consider myself a failure. He will not care what he wore a couple of times as a 2 yr old.

C8H10N4O2 · 15/02/2017 14:43

'Fixes'

Mol1628 · 15/02/2017 14:47

The colour is fine. The fact they're second hand is also fine. Would you look back st photos from your childhood and really care if you wore second hand stuff? I hope my sons won't because they both wear things I have been given for free from their cousins. I can probably count on one hand the number of clothes I've bought new for my second son.

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NapQueen · 15/02/2017 14:49

Ds wears 99% secondhand thanks to a good friend with a son 2 years older

Its just that these are obviously handmedowns haha

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