Ex leaving 16 year old in charge of poorly 9 year old

[Racmactac]

I have 3 ds, 16 who lives with dad and the other two are 9 & 11.

9 year old suffers nasty migraines, they have just come back from weekend contact.

Saturday ds9 comes down with nasty migraine, being sick and sleeping. Ex decides to take ds11 to pub leaving ds16 in charge of poorly ds9.

I have no problem with ds16 watching ds9 on occasion but not when he was really poorly.

Aibu to think he should have stayed home ??

At 16 years old I was living in supported living, had a job and was attending college so was more than capable of looking after a 9 yr old with a migraine. Nobody is disputing the ability of the 16yo. This isn't half a weird place. Just because somebody is able to do something does not mean they should be left to do it. Sometimes there is a moral issue, you know like where the bloody parent should be there, rather than a capacity one.

I mean I am capable of shoplifting, should I go out and do it? No.

How many of you would leave your poorly 9 year old to go to the pub to watch a football match.

That is the difference between mums and (some) fathers sadly. I have read a few posts onhere how ex have the kids for the weekend and then dump kids on family members to piss off down the pub. It is only a weekend. Unless it is EVERY weekend I really wonder why they have the kids at all if they are not prepared to do anything with them.

If I had another child who wanted to see the match, and a capable 16 year old willing to look after the poorly one then yes of course I would if the poorly one was happy with that. Why wouldn't you?