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Valentine cards for your children?

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queenoftheknight · 09/02/2017 18:08

I saw these for the first time today, and my first thought was that it was a bit weird, in quite a yuk kind of way.

Added to which, if I got my children valentine cards, they would die of terminal embarrassment.

Is this very, VERY weird, or AIBU?

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Oldraver · 11/02/2017 14:03

Weird and creepy

My DS would feel very left out if I didn't get him a Valentines card (and chocolates).

Seriously ? He's friggin six, children need to learn everything is not about them.

christmaswreaths · 11/02/2017 15:45

Each to their own, I guess but I was brought up with it being about fancying and stuff. I remember as a child writing cards with my friends to the boys we fancied and giggling whilst looking at their faces and second guessing who they were from.

I remember at Uni doing the same and also receiving cards and spending hours with my friends trying to guess who.

When I eventually became more mature, it was more the spending quality time with the other half, not necessarily going out showing off but more making sure we are making time out for each other and reminding each other that we are in fact still a couple.

With all that in mind, it would feel damn creepy to me sending a Valentine's to my kids. I have one American friend that has it all over Facebook, Valentine's for her daughter, she goes all out with love hearts, meals out, sweets, presents the lot. I dread seeing the photos every year lol

Buddahbelly · 11/02/2017 15:52

I used to get a valentines day card from our cat every year, I always rolled my eyes at my mum, but secretly loved the chocolates that came with it.

He died last year though at the grand old age of 17, so I'm stuck with dp's half assed attempt at a late night dash the day before to see what asda has left in stock.

Dreadfulidea · 11/02/2017 17:11

I grew up getting a a Valentines card from my mysterious admirer ( my parents) as a bit of fun. I did that with my own DS but gave up when the girls started sending them out ( yr5).
It did used to be about sending cards anonymously to your secret love but now it seems to be all about the people who are already in sodding relationships. I don't get it.

JFT96 · 11/02/2017 18:48

Having worked at Clintons I can remember all kinds of Valentines cards are popular, even for dog and cat, it's whatever makes money and they all sell well. The number of people buying one for their husband and boyfriend or wife and girlfriend at the same time was amusing.
The card I remember the most was for an ex and it said something like
As it's Valentines Day I thought I'd raise a glass
To hope you'll take this Valentines and shove it up your arse

I dunno why anyone would want their ex to know they were thinking about them enough to get a card though

VestalVirgin · 11/02/2017 18:52

VERY weird.

Not sure whether this means that valentine's day becomes more about platonic love, or whether this is just fucking creepy.

(Similar with ten year olds being encouraged to do things for valentine's day.)

hearyoume · 11/02/2017 18:55

DS has bought DD(3) some heart shaped chocs. He says he wants to demonstrate how she deserves to be treated when she is older. I don't think it's weird.

Fwiw my dad always bought something for me and I always loved it.

BroomstickOfLove · 11/02/2017 19:45

I find the whole sending a card to your secret love thing far more creepy and disturbing, tbh, but I suspect that, as with most things, whatever you grow up with is what you consider normal.

Want2bSupermum · 11/02/2017 22:53

We live in the US. This is the one holiday I can't stand. The school use it as a way to talk about feelings, friendships and family. It is all very awkward and I think half the kids get totally confused. I would really prefer they wait until the kids are older than 6 before they start talking to them about marriage!

I have to lay my hands on a shoe box to make a mailbox and then get 35 valentines treats. Thank goodness there are only three other kids in DS's class!

Babyg1995 · 11/02/2017 22:58

I've always done it with my dcs chocolate heart lolly and a card no big deal it's a bit of fun.

Woofsaidtheladybird · 11/02/2017 23:37

Ohh
My grandad sent me a valentines card when I was 17. He got the nurses in the hospice where he was to post it for him. He died on the 13th.

I've still got it. I'm 44 now.

It's the best valentines I've ever got x

lazytuesday · 12/02/2017 00:42

I think i will do it for my son because my parents did it for me. I think its nice because no one wants to feel left out on valentines. I get my friends cards too and sign them from 'a secret admirer' lol. Its just a nice thing to do to show people you care. Of course fine if you dont want to but its by no means 'creepy'.
I remember we had valentines roses you could buy at school that were given out during assembly. I was one of only three people who didnt get one :-( and id sent some to friends! Everyone deserves a valentines so im gonna send them to everyone i care about.

Bluebell9 · 12/02/2017 10:43

My parents used to get us a thorntons choc heart lolly for Valentine's Day.

We just liked getting chocolate!

ArcheryAnnie · 12/02/2017 21:28

I wish I could find a pic of it online, but there's an amazing valentine's day present currently selling in Marks & Sparks which is a big red chocolate heart pooing out a small brown chocolate heart. It honestly looks like a bum that's been caught with a poo half-way out. Once you have it pointed out to you, it's impossible to unsee. I'm amazed it got to production without anybody noticing.

(Here I am, raising the tone on this thread...)

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