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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

444 replies

EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right? Wink

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

OP posts:
saoirse31 · 07/02/2017 18:11

Surely when DC get their meal at friends most parents are just delighted they've eaten and spend zero mental energy worrying about it??

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 18:21

Guess where I am?

To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?
ShatnersBassoon · 07/02/2017 18:22

How many of the Hertz-hotdog-horrified wouldn't baulk at giving their child chorizo, which contains pork salivary glands and lymph nodes?!

Me, I'd baulk at that. I'm a baulker. My kids aren't though, so would happily chow down on every mystery meat going. They like it when their dad cooks.

It really isn't a snobbery thing, it's squeamishness from me. Luckily my children didn't really notice or ask why I don't eat half the stuff they do, so they can go to anyone's house and eat whatever they're given. I avoid visiting friends at meal times Blush

EB123 · 07/02/2017 18:37

Lol we had 'hot dogs' tonight. They were M&S 97% meat chipolatas in brioche buns with sweet potato fries and corn on the cob, to my kids they are hot dogs. Occasionally we have the tinned ones with proper white hot dog rolls with beans or salady bits of veg.

So no it wouldn't bother me.

gamerchick · 07/02/2017 18:38

My hotdogs are vegetarian, so no gross stuff in them. The kids love them. Ditto Quorn chicken nuggets. They can't tell. Both just as easy as the meat versions to cook too

Because processed fungus isn't gross?

LuxuryWoman2017 · 07/02/2017 18:42

I misread the thread title as 'give visiting hedgehogs tea'
Glad I realised before I posted about little spiky creatures Grin

Orangebird69 · 07/02/2017 18:58

oblomov Costco!!!

rogueantimatter · 07/02/2017 19:02

Re the smoking/nitrites comparison - you wouldn't give a child a cigarette, so why give them food containing nitrites when there is no end of other food available. That's my point.

OP asked for opinions - that's just mine.

I accept it's all a matter of balance though - I totally get the view that it's nice having your DC invited on a playdate, especially when it includes them getting their dinner therefore don't be fussy. Otoh, given that some parents have strong opinions about what their DC eat it's nice to ask the parents if they have any preferences. FWIW when mine were little the parents used to pick up DC before dinnertime usually. IIRC when we had DC over we often had cheesy pasta with veg on the side as that seemed to be eaten by most children.

happilyahousewife · 07/02/2017 19:03

Wouldn't bother me, but mine wouldn't eat them anyway. I would keep some pizza dough in the freezer & let them make their own pizzas.

harderandharder2breathe · 07/02/2017 19:09

If you told me giving your child a hot dog was like giving them a cigarette I'd feel very sorry for the poor thing but I wouldn't have them to tea.

What do you do at parties when there's sausage rolls and pork pies and savoury eggs and ham sandwiches?

IHaveBrilloHair · 07/02/2017 19:33

Woolyheads, Quorn may be vegetarian but it's very processed and also very well known for having horrible side effects.
It has me doubled over in pain and on the loo for hours.
Vegetarian doesn't mean good.

I've just put hotdogs on my shopping, we'll have them in buns with onions, ketchup and frenches yellow mustard.
Last night we had a several dish Japanese meal which I spent all day cooking
Tonight we had homemade broccoli soup with bacon rolls.

I love food and cooking, it's my thing, but I'm not snobby and up my own arse about it.

If someone feeds my kid I'd say thank you, if she didn't like the food on offer she'd eat it anyway and say thank you.

Honestly, all this angst over a hot dog.

SaucyJack · 07/02/2017 19:43

"I cannot believe that angst on this. I can only assume that ypu've very small children."

Actually my oldest is at secondary school. Long past the age of freaking out at anything that has a bit of flavour to it, and doesn't come in breadcrumbs.

I think she'd be a bit baffled if she went round somewhere for dinner and was given a plate of nuggets and chips like she was five years old, but perhaps it does make sense to stick to bland dry food when you're feeding early primary kids.

MiaowTheCat · 07/02/2017 19:59

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Somehowsomewhere · 07/02/2017 20:01

This thread inspired me to give DD's (3 and 19 months) hotdogs for dinner tonight Grin. Normal sausages from the butchers as neither of them like hotdog sausages, in a bun with onions and ketchup (with a token salad on the side). They loved it.

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 20:22

Our Syrian hamster absolutely adores cucumber and carrot sticks.

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 20:24

'I've just put hotdogs on my shopping, we'll have them in buns with onions, ketchup and frenches yellow mustard.'

And Heinz hotdog relish, the green one. YUM!! With a bag of Walker's Ready Salted.

Casschops · 07/02/2017 20:32

I would be grateful for the offer and couldn't give two hoots about what was on offer. So long as you get the balance right a bit of quick food is not going to make a child grow a second head. People who are precious about their childs food when not in their care must be on pins when they visit another child or go to a party. Kids come across food of all different types throughout life. IMO there is room for a bit of everything. Feed the child hot dogs,they won't combust.Smile

Kskifred · 07/02/2017 20:37

Tea sorted tomorrow night! Got some lovely west country ones in the freezer GrinGrin

bunnylove99 · 07/02/2017 20:39

We like the occasional hotdog, but they are trashy junk food, so I don't think I would serve to visiting kids. Have you tried breaded mini chicken fillets from chilled aisle? All kids seem to like them. They freeze well and bake quickly for standby. Real chicken. I've bought them from sainsbury, Tesco, asda and Aldi. All good.

bunnylove99 · 07/02/2017 20:41

BTW. Aldi hotdogs in a glass jar are lovely - Brockworst or something. About £1'60 a jar.

drivingmisspotty · 07/02/2017 20:42

expat do you really have a Syrian hamster who likes cucumber or are you just virtue signalling because you rescued it from the war and you feed it healthy food?

puffylovett · 07/02/2017 20:42

I would be quite happy, but then these days I have no clue what my son likes to eat, he's just got fussier and fussier. I would just be happy he was fed and had eaten!!

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 20:45

Oh, we have a beautiful Syrian hamster. He's black with a white band across his back. His name is 'Chris'. DS named him. He goes mad for cucumber and carrot but he also likes Walker's Ready Salted, Pringles and bits of chicken nugget.

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 20:46

Orangebird !! FlowersGinStarWine
Prize costco hotdog goes to you!!

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 20:52

Dh, ds1 and ds2 ate Costco hotdogs, in store tonight.

Shall I go to the bottom of the class end of the play date list?