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To give visiting child hotdogs for tea?

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EssieTregowan · 07/02/2017 09:05

With baked beans, so that counts as healthy, right?

Just an idle ponder really as I know this particular 4yo's mum doesn't mind at all. But when ds2 starts widening his friendship group are the other mums going to judge if the fare on offer is quick stuff like pasta pesto, or nuggets, or plastic sausages?

Tuesdays are really the only day we can have his friends round, but it's also the day the shopping comes and it doesn't come until 4.30 so dinner is very often the quickest option .

Would you judge? Or would it not even cross your mind?

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Areasonablegal · 07/02/2017 15:41

Depends on parents of the children you host. Hotdogs are a highly ranked choking hazard so not for me - at all. Its not about snobbery over whats in them but it is about the fact that hotdogs are the third highest ranked edible choking hazard due to their shape being an exact fit for a childs windpipe.

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 15:46

'Enjoying cooking and eating tasty, varied real food isn't an eating disorder expat.

Personally, I think it's pretty sad that anyone is serving up pasta and Dairylea cos they can't be arsed to cook a proper meal, but hey ho. That's just my opinion.

Dinner is my favourite part of the day.'

It's a playdate, not a fucking restaurant. Some people don't enjoy cooking, some people have differing opinions of what constitutes a 'proper meal', and some people really need to unclench and relax - it's one hotdog with some beans, not a wrap of smack.

TeethDrama · 07/02/2017 15:48

Twist - you have far too much time on your hands!!

TeethDrama · 07/02/2017 15:49

Crokwr - what's wrong with sliced white bread?? Hmm? Isn't all bread made of flour?

whomovedmychocolate · 07/02/2017 15:50

Mostly the parents are just hoping their kid is not a little sod when they visit and actually eating something is an improvement on their imagination of what is going to happen (pizza on the ceiling actually did happen on a playdate here....your kid is probably good by comparison).

tovelitime · 07/02/2017 15:50

I cannot believe that angst on this. I can only assume that ypu've very small children. When your 14 year old excitedly shows you how sweetie collection for the bus you realise that your lovely weaned vegetable eating organic baby angel prefers just as much crap as the rest of them and there's nothing you can do about it

Oblomov17 · 07/02/2017 15:50

Love Moog's clip. I'll have mine with magic mushrooms on please!!

SleepOhHowIMissYou · 07/02/2017 15:52

Tivall do frozen vegetarian frankfurters. I used to get them for party food as a lot of my kid's friends only eat halal or kosher and they always went down well.

The thing that always confused me was giving pizza and chips when my kids went round to their friend's houses for dinner. No problem with either pizza or chips, but I don't get serving them together. That's a carb and another carb? Add baked beans, also quite common, and there's a carb, a carb and a carb?! Bizarre!

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 15:53

My 11-year-old DD makes a brilliant cup of tea. Whenever she fancies a cuppa, she'll ask if I want one, too. Strong tea with a drop of milk and two sugars. Mmmm.

corythatwas · 07/02/2017 16:02

rogueantimatter Tue 07-Feb-17 15:18:14
"Angst over one meal might be orthorexia.

Otoh if you accept that one portion of nitrite containing food is considered to be the same risk as smoking one cigarette you might be less sanguine about hotdogs etc."

The only reason for worrying about one cigarette is that tobacco is highly addictive and one cigarette might easily lead to smoking at the kind of level where it does damage your health.

Hotdogs not so much.

No one ever died from smoking their first cigarette (unless through an asthma attack).

Orangebird69 · 07/02/2017 16:04

I fed my 15mo faggots the other day. Is that allowed?

Trifleorbust · 07/02/2017 16:05

My only objection to hot dogs on play dates is probably a bit unreasonable...

When I have guests, I give them the nicest food I have in my house - the best biscuits, the posh coffee, etc. But some people (tight people) seem to keep a small amount of cheap crap back to feed to people who come round... Hot dogs are probably the cheapest food you could possibly feed a child, so I wouldn't want to be doing that more than once.

Otherwise I'm assuming this hot dog isn't the family meal because the child went home before dinner time? Fine to make something quick and easy.

Kskifred · 07/02/2017 16:11

I'm so amused by this thread!

It's actually hilarious how someone has said that they would be pissed off that their child has received a hot dog but fine about a jam sandwich... which f you look at it is far less of a meal, hotdogs are indeed processed but anyone is kidding themselves if they think that pizza or sandwiches are any better! It's just snobby.

Look let's face it, we know that none of the above mentioned go-to meals are healthy but they are go-to for a reason, because children have varied/fussy diets (whatever their parents like to admit) and it's 'please all' food. Turning your nose up at it and assuming that is all the family eats is pretty stupid thinking IMO.

Look, they are fed, they are happy, and if you are judgey then you pick them up with the smug feeling that DC won't eat that sort of improper food again at home...everyone's a winner.

TesticleMeElmo · 07/02/2017 16:12

I've substituted Quorn Frankfurters because I used to enjoy a 'dirty hotdog' or two before I went veggie. Maybe try those instead? less chance of eating eyeballs and bollocks that way

Foxesarefriends · 07/02/2017 16:13

This reminds me of the Diet Coke thread

Parker231 · 07/02/2017 16:14

Can't believe the number of fussy parents on here ! A dinner of hot dog sausages is not going to kill anyones DC. Pizza, hot dog, nuggets are all suitable for a fun meal at a play date - no one is suggesting they have it 5 days a meal. I've fed numerous friends of the DC's this type of food - it's been considered a treat and everyone is happy!

corythatwas · 07/02/2017 16:15

I see your point, Trifle, but a formal dinner invitation is not the same as an everyday popping-around-to-play-with-my-child. I liked the idea of keeping the latter informal and letting dc feel that they could have friends round whenever they liked, without much advance warning, that it wasn't a big deal. Money was quite tight in those days and proper parties with guests that expected something nice wasn't something I could afford on a daily or even weekly basis.

expatinscotland · 07/02/2017 16:17

'But some people (tight people) seem to keep a small amount of cheap crap back to feed to people who come round... Hot dogs are probably the cheapest food you could possibly feed a child, so I wouldn't want to be doing that more than once. '

And some people are poor, not tight.

redheadlady · 07/02/2017 16:18

i wouldn't mind at all, my LG is only a toddler atm so its not something ive come across but if she was eating healthily all the time "on my watch" i dont see the harm of one meal...and if she ends up getting things like that on my watch how could i judge another for doing the same.

watching eagerly as i'm now thinking i will be offering up similar fare in the future

wonderingsoul · 07/02/2017 16:18

I cant stand fake sausages.. aka hot dogs.. ds1 would eat it. Ds2 would love you.
I sometimes get him a packet n hell wat them cold then drink the " water" from the jar

Egoanono · 07/02/2017 16:19

Might I suggest veggie hotdogs? Not nearly as much crap (mechanically recovered meat (bleugh)) and they taste EXACTLY the same.

Itsjustaphase2016 · 07/02/2017 16:21

I just really really fail to understand why any normal parent would CARE what their child ate on ONE occasion. It makes literally no difference to the child's health or happiness if they have a cheap sausage. Some people have too much thinking space!

gandalf456 · 07/02/2017 16:22

It's your house and if that's what you are cooking... people are supposed to teach their children not to choose what they eat. Now this is inviting parents to fuss on the other side of the scale.

If they have strong opinions or dietary requirements, they can state them beforehand.

If you want to be nice, you can ask if there's anything they don't like, won't eat.

If I had a parent getting snifty about what I cooked in my own home, the child wouldn't be hurry back no matter how nice they were because I'm no t in the habit of being made to feel uncomfortable by other adults.

Trifleorbust · 07/02/2017 16:25

expatinscotland: Oh god, I know! Sorry, I don't mean I have a problem with people not buying expensive stuff. If that's what they have in, that's what they have. I just know people who specifically think of cheap stuff they can give guests...just because they are tight. They eat well themselves.

Trifleorbust · 07/02/2017 16:26

corythatwas: That's fair. If you have kids round all the time it could get expensive.

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